For most of my 20s, I avoided "dating". I don't like bars, I don't really drink, I don't particularly like spending effort hanging out 1-on-1 with people outside of the house. I've never had much money and assumed if I had to pay for dinner and drinks, it would break me.

Earlier this year, I wanted to get laid more, so I decided to at least try it out. I downloaded Tinder and Bumble and started approaching girls during my day-to-day. It was always the same routine online: flirt, converse for 1-2 days, get their number and set up a date at a bar or restaurant. At the venue, escalate physically, bounce to a second venue, and try to get them back to my house. On these dates, I would always pay.

Out of 10 dates with 10 different girls, guess how many I fucked? 0. I was throwing down $15-$30 a night to get nowhere.

So I changed up my routine completely. I did something that would make any modern-day feminist get her panties in a bunch: I stopped taking girls out, instead I invited them directly to my place on the first date. My results changed immediately.

I've fucked the last 7 girls I've hung out with the first night while paying virtually nothing. Two of those seven have even offered to cook dinner after I suggested they just invite me over because I don't feel like going out. The rest, I've either cooked dinner for, which I was doing anyway, or seduced with a couple glasses of wine at home.

Valuable lesson learned: if you just want casual sex, don't take girls out. You run the risk being framed as a beta provider and wasting time and energy on nothing.

If a girl finds you attractive enough, she will come right over and she will understand that the expectation outcome of this is sex on the first date.