Summary: It seems like the blue pill media has given its thoughts on the matter so I am going to give mines, as a guy who is almost done with his 20s. I look forward to seeing more guides like this from the red pill as it is loaded with guys in their 20s and guys in their 20s are the demographic in need of a lot of advice.
30 is NOT the new 20:
Would love it if other experienced members added their advice to this list too, we could get a super thread going!
First of all, if you haven't already, read "The Defining Decade" book by Dr. Meg Jay. I do not usually recommend works from a female author but this one is an exception, a must read for all!
Well, I know that various blue pilled media outlets have attempted to give advice to people in their 20s but having learned a few things from them, I decided to give it a go. The 20s are a very transforming period of a person's life and after them, the window of opportunity does start to close in a lot of areas. I have known a good bit of people in their 30s that threw their 20s away, did nothing of value, and are now playing catch up in a big big way. 30 is not the new 20 and I promise that you will regret throwing your 20s away.
A lot of it this comes from both my experience as well as talking to a lot of 30 somethings.
A good bit of older people I have talked to talk about your 20s as a navigation point that determines so much of your coming decades. The habits you form, thoughts you regularly have, and choices you make will affect you for quite some time. Quite a few people say that the 20s may as well be the most important decade of your life so here is my advice for all guys in their 20s:
1 - Whatever is wrong with you, now is the time to address it and fix it.
Depressed? Low Self-esteem? Host of other issues? Now is the time to look into them. If you found the red pill, you're in luck, you have a huge leg up on a lot of other guys out there. Whatever insecurities you might have about your looks, game, and a host of other things, now is the time to address them. From my experience though, MOST of these insecurities stem from a lack of success with women as well as a lack of a social life. A lot of isolation and being a social outcast tends to mess with the minds of most young guys out there.
Invest some serious time into yourself! The 20s are meant to be about you, a time for you to find out about yourself, push yourself to the limits, and build the foundation of a successful future.
Build some success, grow your confidence, and realize that the 20s are the time you can go from being a loser to an alpha male, becomes A LOT harder in your 30s as people are more set in their ways.
2 - Get fit!
Take advantage of the fitness advice on this sub, now is the time to build that body. Hit the gym, hit the weights, eat right, and put some serious time into getting yourself into shape. Even if it is something as small as doing a lot of push ups in the morning, get yourself in the gym and get going. I won't get too much into it only because there are subs and countless guides dedicated to it. There are so many ways to go about doing it, find the one that works for you.
3 - Career, get on it, ASAP!
The 30s are no place to build a career from scratch.
Not saying everyone has to be an inverstment banker working 80-100 hrs a week!
Whether you want to work in Silicon Valley, on Wall Street, go into medicine, or get into any high SMV career out there; get on it! The 30s are no time to build a career, they are the time to actually get going in a career. A good number of high SMV careers (Wall Street in particular) become out of reach once you hit your 30s and have not taken any steps to get to them. Your 20s are the time to solidify your financial footing and that means having a career started, at least in something. The last you want to do is enter your 30s with absolutely no idea of what you want to do with your life because you messed around way too much in your 20s and paid no mind to this situation.
You will have down time (not much though) to party and occasionally chase girls. I know a few investment bankers who, after paying their dues for a couple of years, find the time to take fancy vacations or spend weekends just relaxing.
Whatever your calling is in terms of a career, get on it. If you haven't found it, try a few different jobs. I hear Sales jobs are good for fresh out of college grads so look into them. Do not be one of those fresh out of college grads that is drifting through life, traveling, and paying no attention to this part of life. Hot girls can do that, everyone else can't!
4 - MOVE to that big city!
Small towns and suburbs are no place for a 20 something man to be. Tons of people that get married in their early 20s and give up on life shortly after as well a lack of things to do. If that wasn't enough, in terms of game, they are an absolute death trap. Most of the hot girls are taken, social circles are tight, and it is usually a select few group of guys who have nothing to do but play social politics that get the few hot girls in these areas.
Not only that but you don't meet that many quality people in small towns and suburban areas. Most of the times, you will be running into snobs that don't want to make new friends or move forward in life at all. Opportunities are few and you just don't grow while in these sorts of circumstances. No excitement and no fun things to look forward to when you are in boring small towns, instead, give the big city life a try.
5 - Friends, network, and connections, get to it!
I know there is a stigma against social media (which I will address later on in another post) but the 20s are no time for monk mode. You need to make a network for your social as well as professional life. Meet lots of good people, make friends, and try to put yourself out there. As the saying goes, it is not what you know but who you know that matters, it is who you know that matters! I recommend doing whatever you can to avoid being a loner at this period of your life. Go out, get involved in clubs, and if you have so much time on your hands then go for a cool side job in the service industry (bartender is a good one!). You have to put in the investment now to make a good number of acquaintances at this point in your life.
If you have not experienced being a part of a large social circle or going out with a group of friends on the weekends, you are missing out! In your 30s, this could potentially become a lot harder to do.
Whether it is the straight A student working on wall street or the guy who didn't even go to college working as a bartender, expand your circle!
6 - Realize that the clock is ticking for you as a man!
I don't mean the biological clock but the clock to make something of yourself in this time. Now is the time to try it all out whenever you have the down time. Make the most of your 20s and whatever down time you have from your job, use that to enjoy things you've always wanted to enjoy. Take that 1 or 2 week vacation to travel to a country you wanted to travel to or pick up that hobby on the side that you always wanted to pick up. Now, when you have the energy, is the time to try it all out and leave with minimal regrets.
The worst thing you want to do in your 20s is just drift through life, make every day count!
The 20s are the time to make it all count and build up your skills, resume, life, and everything. No time to waste and no time to drift, you can get by on small amounts of sleep as well. Before you know it, they would have passed and you will wake up wondering what you were doing that whole time.
7 - Find your skills and figure out your path.
Whether it is breaking into a high paying career, getting a masters degree, or whatever it may be, figure it out. Even if you want to start your own business, have the plan. Your 20s are about finding your skills, whether they are analytical or sales skills. In your 30s, the rewards and efforts of your investments should show as you grow in your career or business and make the cash.
8 - Along the way, have those experiences.
One night stand with with a hot girl in Vegas? Maybe making out on the beach? Perhaps having that wild night as you're out with your friends?
When given the opportunity, have those experiences. I don't mean make a habit out of it but have a couple of days from each year where you can talk about something wild that you did and either laugh about or reminiscence. Do not be that loser that shut himself off from society and is now a bitter 30 something, you will be so miserable for it.
How about dinner party with a nice group of people? Do it!
Social outing at the beach with some friends? Do it!
Number 5 will help a lot in this.
9 - Read good books.
I recommend books like Mastery by Robert Greene and No More Mr. Nice Guy. Read as many good books, especially those applicable to real life, that you can get your hands on. You will process information fast at this age, take advantage of that. Grow your curious mind and gather knowledge that will help you succeed in life. A lot of this will help with number 7 on this post. Don't just read red pilled books, read helpful books that have changed lives and can better you (How to Win friends and influences people for example). Don't waste time with romance novels and Twilight, then again you guys know better.
10 - As said 1 million times on TRP, don't get married!
At least not in your 20s, I won't even go into this because there is an entire sidebar dedicated to it. Lots of guys will make this mistake after college and very few will come out happy for it in the end.
Bonus: Keep adapting and do not become set in your ways for as long as possible.
The world is changing every year and every decade, if you do not adapt, you will get left behind. Keep your curiosity up and pay attention to the trends. You do not have to follow the trends but it will do you a lot of good to be aware of them. Keep that curiosity and mentality of wanting to grow and learn as long as you can keep it, don't get too set in your ways.
So that is about it.
Most importantly, if you have anything valuable to add to this thread then do so!
I would love to hear more insights and hopefully we can get a super thread going, probably put something like this on the sidebar, pin it for a bit, or whatever to help out of the 20-somethings on this sub.
Edit: Wow! Third straight thread I was glided for, awesome!
1 - You cannot let your 20s fly by!
2 - You must do something to build yourself in your 20s!
3 - You must invest as much as you can into yourself in your 20s!
4 - Have some fun experiences along the way.
5 - Make some friends and network.
6 - Move to that big city of your dreams. Suburbs and small towns are no place for a young man.
7 - Add more valuable advice to this thread as you see fit.