Field ReportTRP has helped my dad find the strength to leave my abusive mother (self.TheRedPill)

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"Over and over again, we have tried to find a peaceful way out of the differences between ourselves and those who are now our enemies; but it has been in vain.."- George VI - King's Speech, September 3, 1939

This quote, in just a few sentences, perfectly demonstrates the hardships my father has endured for his 25 years of marriage. My mom is crazy. Batshit crazy. My dad is compassionate, loving, funny and my role model. He's gone through the ringer trying to stick it out in a marriage that was, by any definition, emotional abusive. For as long as I can remember there has been no love. My mom was like an abusive roommate who simultaneously stole money from you, undermined your rule and painted you as a bad guy to your son. Manipulation that bordered on sociopathic. And above all, uncompromising.

Since finding this sub I've grown a lot closer to my dad, and I learned something quite alarming: he's miserable. I always knew he was (as was I) but the degree to which he was surprised even me. He was completely miserable and immaculated by a wife who saw him as a doormat that was also fashioned as an ATM. I called bullshit.

For months now, I've been reinforcing red pilled principles he knew to be true but was too scared to carry out. I've backed him at every stage in confronting my mom, and calling out the bullshit manipulation and lies she constantly tries to spring on me and him. Today, it all came to a head. We attempted, as King George so eloquently stated, "to find a peaceful way out of the differences between ourselves and those who are now our enemies". We discussed with her why she was so unhappy, and like every other conversation we have, it fell apart into a shitstorm of finger pointing and yelling. So finally, we presented the ultimatum: reform or get the fuck out. She tried to call our bluff, and we told her she had 2 weeks to turn it around or she was gone. She looked at me for support only to find none.

This will enviably lead to divorce. My mom fails to admit there is a problem, or that she must compromise in a marriage and my dad, with my help, has gotten his balls back. He yelled like I've never heard him and spoke in a tone that commanded respect. I've never been so proud to call him my father. He and I are dieting and hitting the weights hard and I have no doubt he will be able to find someone later on in life to give him something he so completely deserves: a loving relationship.

It's hard. Hurting your mom, no matter how crazy she is, is difficult. Eliminating her from my life may prove to be even more difficult. But this sub has helped me find an inner strength I never knew I had, and in that strength I've helped to improve the life of my dad, whom I love more than anyone.

TL;DR: my dad finally called bullshit on my mom and took control of his own life for the first time in 25 years.

Btw, don't get fucking married.

[–]Zombocom1911 154 points155 points  (31 children)

Emotional abuse can be even worse than physical abuse.

[–]Godtiermasturbator 85 points85 points [recovered]

It is worse. Girl slaps and pokes aren't that bad, it's the fact that they're doing it, you can't hit back, and the shit they say that really leaves scars.

[–]Theotropho 53 points54 points  (4 children)

My wife hitting me sucked, my wife telling me to kill myself and that I wasn't even a man if I didn't have a full time job were both far far worse.

[–]Pragmaticpandas 35 points36 points  (2 children)

For your sake, I hope you mean "ex-wife"

[–]Theotropho 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Oh for sure. Years gone. I just tend to lapse into thinking in the now during recall, hence tenses become appropriate for the time being recalled rather than now.

[–]Moneyley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you, but I hope it works out. Although, her suddenly changing is gonna be a helluva challenge. Either way, she'll likely want half his shit for making him fully miserable. There are a lot of angles here, sometimes the person wants to divorce (her) but her family has very anti-divorce values and she'd have to decide if she wants to keep trying to fuck him over on a daily basis or be frowned upon with her family. I'm grasping for straws here trying to wish him the best scenario but one thing is certain; his dad is on the A-side now. He calls the shots and Im happy for him

[–]brasileiro555 0 points1 point  (0 children)

full time job means more time to her banging chads

[–]HeadingRed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It can be worse. I rarely think about times I got my ass kicked. I do remember far to often the batshit emotional abuse I was handed out.

I have yet to meet a woman who understands this. I have had two women tell me (paraphrasing) "Men are bigger and stronger and can beat us up, therefore it's ok for us to be emotionally abusive."

Um yeah when I can call the cops because a month after my mothers death you use that during a tirade then we can talk.

[–]punchitchewy 4 points5 points  (4 children)

Totally. I've put up with years of it from one of my older sisters. If it weren't for my nephew who I love very much I'd have no contact with her. Constant attempts to control, manipulate, or destroy those within grasp of her tentacles. Talking incessantly about the same 3 or 4 topics, all centered on herself, for years on end (no joke. Just these same 4 bullshit topics over and over and over and....).

If she's in a bad mood, which is 60% of the time watch out. You will be attacked verbally or emotionally and then treated like the bad guy. If you have the audacity to stand up and be assertive then pity your soul. That is an unforgivable offense. Even if she relents in that moment and apologizes, your transgression has been filed away. Or rather, the hurt she feels from having to face her own toxicity because you stood up for yourself and turned all her poison back on her will be remembered. But not the fact that she has only herself to blame for creating the conflict which led to her feeling hurt. This rightly deserved dose of shame will be added to the pile which will serve to justify all later abuse she feels like hurling at you on the grounds that you've made her feel so bad all those times in the past, because YOU are the bad guy, even if she is the one constantly provoking conflict.


It's hard to accept that a member of my own family is a completely Machiavellian narcississt with no capacity for empathy and who will never stop making life difficult for others.

God I feel so sorry for her boyfriend/baby daddy. He's an extremely patient, smart, kind guy, and I'm amazed he's made it this far without snapping. I can see her grinding him down day by day. Poor bastard probably knows what will happen if he leaves her.

[–]GreatWhiteCuck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is exactly my older sister and her husband/baby daddy. Unfortunately it's also my mother. Fortunately I have no problem cutting her out.

[–]Freiling 0 points1 point  (2 children)

What are the 4 topics, out of curiosity?

[–]punchitchewy 1 point2 points  (1 child)

1) How she's "over" partying, drinking, going out, etc (it's a loud and obvious sign that she's definitely not over it and very jealous of me or anyone else who still gets to go out and have fun, even though I don't drink/drug anymore)

2) The new diet, exercise plan, or life change she's "all about" now, usually revolving around getting her pre-baby body back, which never really materializes, and about which she's usually reversed or eased her position next time I see her (I can't be too strict about what I eat, I need to enjoy my food, aka, I can't follow though for shit and need to justify this to myself and anyone who will listen)

3) Her ex BF from 10 years ago and what a dick he was/is. (she's still in love with him and pissed it didn't work out)

4) Our family issues with addiction, codependency, etc. Brings it up in public, at parties, insists we all have a deep heart to heart or else we're in denial, blah blah blah. Literally just hammers away on the same old topics, shit we're all aware of and don't want to discuss because it's boring or brings up the past for no good reason. For a while she used this as a club to beat the rest of the family with because she felt she had some victim status in the family and felt she had a right to emotionally abuse us because she needed to "deal" with this stuff so we could all "heal". I just go mute when she brings it up because I hate talking about anything personal like this with her anymore and hate when she brings up this embarrassing, heavy shit in public. I won't support this behavior anymore so I just ghost on her when she starts harping on this old b.s, because I'm actually "doing the work" and living it, instead of just talking endlessly about doing the work.

The common thread is "ME ME ME ME ME", and when I say that she talks incessantly about this shit for 10+ years I'm not kidding. Her total lack of self awareness about how repetitive, boring, and narcissistic she is, is beyond astounding. It's one of the biggest signs I have that she is indeed a certifiable narcissist.

[–]Freiling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God, get her to therapy. Sounds like she's got some shit really dogging her. But I know the type, good luck.

[–]TheReformist94 4 points5 points  (13 children)

The % of men who beat women is very small. The % of women who use psychological manipulation and Abuse is much much higher.if you are a beta,loving and unaware, there's a 60% you'll get psychologically slaughtered. Which means a lot of women psychological fuck with mens minds.

So why is it frowned upon so much on this SUb to beat women if needed as a valid countermeasure? Why is it seen as a catastrophic loss of frame? If it weren't for the law,what do you have to lose beating a woman if they are willing to psychologically scar you and use your children as collateral?

[–]SpartiGaz 19 points20 points  (1 child)

I believe it is frowned upon because it shows a complete lack of personal control. If you are with a woman who is attacking you psychologically all the time, you should probably just be tossing her out on her ass.

[–]GreatWhiteCuck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We don't go around beating every other man that attempts to manipulate us

[–]Moneyley 2 points3 points  (0 children)

One time a psycho ex charged up my brother in a family altercation. My brother just kinda smothered her so she wouldnt punch him but she sure as hell charged him up. The cops came and we were separated. The cops heard my bro's side and then heard her side. I was relived as FUCK that they believed my bro. I would be kicking myself still if he had gone to jail. My bro is a kind-hearted person and had he gone to jail, even if our relationship is cool right now; Id be forced to live with if he ever forgave me for it. I reflect back and read endless stories on TRP about how not every dude ends up as lucky. We were lucky to have been visited by fair and reasonable cops.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The law is not on your side in the western world, but walking out of the situation is much better imo, although I have gotten physical with my ex wife as well in a country where the police doesn't interfere with domestic disputes.

Women hate nothing more than emotional unavailability and men they can't mess with and toxic sociopaths (which most women are by default) don't really tend to switch gears just because you show them who the man is.

It ends up as the Rhianna - Chris Brown dynamic where you beat some sense into her, she tones her shit down a little and comes back with full force when she senses some weakness.

[–]nezamestnany 3 points4 points  (4 children)

It means you're sinking far below her level, picking a fight with someone incapable of fighting back, and displaying a total lack of control over yourself

[–]baron_von_f 1 point2 points  (1 child)

This is how White Knights start. Defend the woman even when she is wrong.

picking a fight with someone incapable of fighting back

Is this not exactly what the abusive woman is doing?

[–]nezamestnany 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No. What makes you physically incapable of standing up to mental abuse in the same way that women are physically incapable of standing up to physical abuse from an even moderately strong man?

[–]GreatWhiteCuck 0 points1 point  (1 child)

What if they know how to fight?

[–]GreatWhiteCuck 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hahaha down voted by someone who has never done Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. I've seen many a man and boy get their ass kicked by a woman

[–]AzzyMcGee -1 points0 points  (1 child)

Women really do need a whoopin with a switch if they get out of line. No need to make them bleed, but by golly they will stop telling lies, or they'll leave. Wish we could go back to the good ol' days.

[–]elmariachi304 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only in that it lasts longer

[–]PranksterLad 0 points1 point  (0 children)


Ive been hit, ive been slapped, and ive punched by my ex, but the emotional abuse was worse. I dont even know if girls KNOW they are consciously doing it or not when it comes to manipulation and emotional abuse, thats the worst part.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is way worse in my opinion. If somebody hits you, you can at least hitback. But some emotional scars will haunt you forever.

[–]massivewang 38 points39 points  (24 children)


Sounds like my bat shit crazy selfish bitch of a mother. Mine is definitely a narcissist incapable of empathy. It fucked with me for w long time until I realized she is a narcissist and will never change. She will never be more than a negative, toxic leach who wants to suck the life out of me. I cut her off a few years ago and will never talk to her again.

[–]joeyjojosharknado 17 points18 points  (1 child)

It's insanely common to have an NPD/HPD mother. Far more prevalent than is widely recognised. They're seen as a psychological disorders but really they're sociological disorders. Women are infantilised in Western society: they're protected from their actions and consequences, their delusions and indulgences are not only allowed but encouraged, they're given whatever they want, whenever they want their whole lives. Is it any wonder they then act like spoiled children as adults?

[–]douglas_p 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I can't even count how many batshit crazy middle-aged women I know. I really do think that these women progressively get worse as they age. Maybe they were no crazier than any other woman when they were 30, but after a few decades of getting whatever they want they just devolve into spoiled, entitled brats. I have quite a few adult friends whose moms or mother-in-laws make their lives a living hell.

[–]AlerioX 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Glad you did it. Will do the same from october onwards. Never again will I fear that my needs come second to the female imperative of an abusive mother.

[–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (5 children)

Good on you man, I still have to communicate with toxic family like this just because I need to keep good PR while I finish college so they don't halt the brakes on my success.

My mother's an alcoholic and has stolen $600 from my bedroom over the past few years. I came home for Thanksgiving break last year and saw my whole bedroom ransacked and my hidden money stash was gone.

Of course my whole family just came up with excuses for it.. "she's sick" "addiction is a disease" etc.. I know addiction is a disease, but that doesn't mean it's not conquerable. It also doesn't justify stealing money from your son who was saving it for a study abroad semester.

Family and blood means nothing if its union doesn't serve to better your life. AWALT. As soon as I graduate, I'm going Limited Contact with my whole mother's family and moving away. Mostly because if I'm wealthy, I do not want them to know because I'll be getting charity phone calls every other day.

[–]douglas_p 8 points9 points  (1 child)

Alcoholism is not a disease. People just tell themselves that to justify their terrible actions, or because they don't want to admit that their alcoholic friends or family members are selfish pricks who don't mind fucking over other people so they can get intoxicated. The truth is that a lot of shitty people let themselves become alcoholics because they don't care about how their actions effect others.

[–]GreatWhiteCuck 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Alcohol is addictive and causes dependency but I believe people who are committed to handling their life will get 100% sober or learn to moderate

[–]e4tshit 8 points9 points  (1 child)

Family and blood means nothing if its union doesn't serve to better your life.

Yep, I realized early that I was viewed as an insurance policy for when my parents get old. Maybe if they a better job I might have stuck around. As an adult, I've lost track of how many times the "friend card" has been used on me. After awhile, I get tired of hearing "common bro, it's me, you know me".

As soon as I graduate, I'm going Limited Contact with my whole mother's family and moving away

The last time my mother ever heard from me was about 17 years ago. She'll die without ever knowing what became of me. Shitty parenting=consequences. One of the best choices I ever made.

[–]GreatWhiteCuck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can still write once a year?

[–]Docbear64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always have a hard time reading stuff like this , only because me and my family are so close and I couldn't imagine a life without that bond but then I know other people who have non-blood-related families and friendships that are much much deeper than mine will ever be .

Hats off to removing shitty people from our lives be them family , " friends" , women , or what have you . At the end of the day the only persons happiness any of us is responsible for is our own .

[–][deleted] 12 points12 points [recovered]

She probably uses you leaving as a way to victimise herself. I bet she thinks the entire world is against her and any mistake she made was totally justified.

[–]massivewang 12 points13 points  (3 children)

She's a narcissist, so she's always innocent and any issue in a relationship is caused by the other party. She is fucking nutso bro, been like this my whole life as long as I can remember.

To be honest with you I'm amazed that my siblings and I have survived and flourished to the extent that we have.

With that said, it fucks with you. With my narcisstic mother and then being an overly zealous beta bitch evangelical christian, I've really had to work on personal growth in the emotional/psychological sense. No Mr Nice Guy was pivotal in that process.

It's just a mind fuck when you're a kid,teen, young adult. You don't have any emotional intelligence, you don't know how to handle or process these things, and along with that you have to make important decisions about your future. I swallowed TRP at 26-27 and i've grown tremendously since then. Though sometimes its frustrating as fuck because in some ways you are still a little boy or teen who doesn't know what to do in a lot of situations. But as you work and push to move forward you figure it out as you go. Even if you fail, you learn from the failures and don't repeat the same mistakes.

This is my crazy batshit mother to the T:

  • "Narcissistic parents try to control their children in four (I removed the second one because it didn't apply) different ways:

    • Guilt-driven: They make their children feel guilty and making them feel like a burden on the narcissistic parent. They say things like, “I sacrificed my life, my body, for you…”
    • Dependence-driven: The narcissistic parent makes their child feel that they could not go on living without their child in their life. They tell their kids that they need them and that they cannot take care of themselves, their lives, and their well-being by themselves.
    • Explicit: This type of control is based on negative repercussions if their child does not do what they want or say. They withhold rewards and give excessive punishment if they do not get their way. This can be very draining on the child because they feel that they can never do anything right.
  • Most narcissistic mothers see motherhood as a burden and like to let it be known how much work it is. They do not take into account that children are not merely mirrors of themselves and that they are actual human beings with wants, needs, and feelings different than their own."

[–]hhamama66 1 point2 points  (2 children)

• "Narcissistic parents try to control their children in four (I removed the second one because it didn't apply) different ways:

• Guilt-driven: They make their children feel guilty and making them feel like a burden on the narcissistic parent. They say things like, “I sacrificed my life, my body, for you…” • Dependence-driven: The narcissistic parent makes their child feel that they could not go on living without their child in their life. They tell their kids that they need them and that they cannot take care of themselves, their lives, and their well-being by themselves. • Explicit: This type of control is based on negative repercussions if their child does not do what they want or say. They withhold rewards and give excessive punishment if they do not get their way. This can be very draining on the child because they feel that they can never do anything right. • Most narcissistic mothers see motherhood as a burden and like to let it be known how much work it is. They do not take into account that children are not merely mirrors of themselves and that they are actual human beings with wants, needs, and feelings different than their own."

Those traits sound awfully familiar...

[–]GreatWhiteCuck 0 points1 point  (1 child)

The saddest thing about these toxic people is their refusal to acknowledge anything and their complete lack of self reflection or ability to change

[–]hhamama66 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, my parents are genuinely incapable of recognizing when they've negatively contributed to a situation and rather than try to diffuse the situation, they proceed to pour gasoline over the fire they helped lot, then cry wolf whenever someone tries to call out their bullshit

[–]enfier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It doesn't matter what she does because it's not his problem any more.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (7 children)

My mom is like Dr jeckel and mr Hyde. She will be the nicest person ever (to me at least) and then the next minute she will get in a mood and will be, like you said, a negative toxic leach who wants to suck the life out of me and my dad.

The scary part is she is actually the less crazy twin. My aunt is so much worse. Talk about fucked up families.

Edit: holy shit. That link explains a lot. Wow.

[–]massivewang 4 points5 points  (6 children)

My mom and her sisters are all like this. My mom is the worst however.

When I first read that link I felt the same way. I could never articulate how she was crazy. And whenever I said "My mom is crazy" most people would patronize me. It's amazing to be able to clearly articulate what the fuck is wrong with her.

[–]DDOS_Feeler -4 points-3 points  (5 children)

Atleast, Muslim moms are not the kind yall are talking about.

[–]Scatterbrain99 2 points3 points  (2 children)

My mom is muslim and I grew up in a country where 90% population is muslim. They may not share some traits of western women but comes with other forms of craziness. Don't delude yourself! Muslim culture is repressive to women in a way that also amplifies many of the AWALT traits that are discussed here. But the male chauvinistic culture makes it hard to see sometimes.

[–]DDOS_Feeler 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Muslim culture is repressive to women

As I read posts here every now and then, this is exactly what all red pilers want to do to/with their women

[–]Scatterbrain99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Psychological and evolutionary reasoning behind Red Pill is solid. It's like the Robert Green book "48 Laws of Power". Everyone should know that these dynamics exist whether to like it or not they are like laws of power. What you choose to do with it is entirely your matter. My thought process does not align with most of the red pillers here. I think I am way more liberal than that. But I can't disagree with the red pill observation and theory.

[–]p00pey 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Most people will never in their lifetimes understand how much a bad parent will hold you back. Until you break ties, they will control you, overtly or covertly, even if you're 1/2 way around the world. In these situations, it's all on nothing. You have to cut ties, or else even the smallest of ties allows the other party to get a foot in the door and all the bullshit keeps on keeping on.

If you have an abusive mother, or father, your best bet is to get away from them. Not having money and all that is just an excuse. This sub teaches you that if you don't have money, don't ave your own place, work on that. Nothing will be given to you for free, you have to work to get anything adn everything unless you were born with a silver spoon in your mouth. THe best decision you'll ever make is breaking ties from an abusive parent, and same applies with abusive spouses...

[–]Trumpipede2016 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Good for you and you dad. Think of how much potential there is in all of America's men- most of it is being wasted because men have been enslaved by bitches. But I have a feeling that revolution is brewing, and all it will take is a little nudge from those of us who have already taken the pill.

[–]AlerioX 19 points20 points  (13 children)

I wish I could say the same...
My parents are now married for over 40 years and in another thread I wrote about how my father built two houses on his own while my mother was practicing her adultery abilities.
My mother is highly abusive to me and my father constantly screaming and raging and shittesting and I am glad I will move out forever in october (I already moved out two years ago but had to move back in because my neighbour was a bpd-single mother who was batshit crazy and she was the niche of the landlord so I couldnt kick her out and leave myself and because I was a student and had spent all my money already I didnt had another option....long long story...but now I solved all my financial problems and reduced my possessions to a minimum (2 notebooks; ereader; tablet; smartphone and a few books from Nietzsche, Kafka and Hesse that I just couldnt give away because these three are too awesome..thats pretty much all I have now - feels incredibly liberating) so its pretty easy for me to move around all the time and I am not longer dependend on my parents).

But I know it's a matter of fact that my father will never leave her.
I presented the redpill to him many times and translated some stuff because he doesnt speak english. But he still didn't get it completely because he was one of the most BP guys on the planet for 65 years.
He gives my mother contra since the beginning of this year nearly everyday and he now even screams at her that she is worthless without him and that he will file for divorce - but of course I know that he will be her slave for the rest of his life if I dont change anything. Just like my grandpa was the cucked slave to my grandma. My family is just full of abusive females. Honestly, there is not one single woman in my family who even comes close to being called 'sane'. Maybe I will try to convince him once I moved out for some month.
But I know what I will do with certainty:
I will start a redpill blog in german language.
I even planned it for some month, I already got the domain and the blog up, designed a blog logo and got some of the essays ready.
I am busy af right now due to final university exams but I am glad to announce that I will release the first content in August.

My aim is to be the biggest german redpill blogger on the planet in one year which shouldn't be difficult because there are no big redpill bloggers in germany right now.

The domain is:

[–]pantsoffire 4 points5 points  (3 children)

That sucks man. Good to know it what happen to you. Good luck with the site. Do you see any similarities between German relationships and what you read here of American ones?

[–]AlerioX 2 points3 points  (2 children)

Absolutely. Everything the users post on this subreddit can be found in a very similar way in german families and german women. I think germany is just a bit more cucked by the SJW because of the white guilt that resulted out of the nazi cruelties. And instead of blacks we have the turks and other muslims which isn't better.

[–]pantsoffire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Huh, there you go. Do you ever wonder why white women never talk of their White Guilt?

[–]ElPujaguante 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Germany needs it. I used to have in-laws living in Kehl who I was lucky enough to visit on two occasions. I loved the country, but the Germans I spoke to seemed to hate themselves and their country. I met one guy who wasn't like that, but was extremely tight-lipped about his politics. I wish I'd been able to talk to him more

[–]kolluminko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

looking forward to your blog sir.

[–]RedPillFreedom -1 points0 points  (5 children)

Good job.

Make sure the cover the shit on the refugees and their "peaceful" behavior. That should garner you some traffic.

[–]Just_in78 1 point2 points  (1 child)

And to cover his damn tracks so that he doesn't get doxxed. Simply expressing worry and doubts about refugees in Germany can get you brought in for questioning in many European countries, nevermind some of the batshit insane lefties.

[–]AlerioX 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I got a Whois-protection and I hope that I'll stay pretty much anonymous. I also wrote on the blog that I am an american that speaks german because if I would identify as a german I would have to show my real name on the website - that is german law. It is illegal to have a blog without revealing the real name.
And if you have a .de-domain you can't get whois-protection so everybody can see your name by using denic.de anyway. That's really fucked up. Typically german.

[–]enfier 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bad idea. It gives the government a convenient excuse to label him as a hatemonger and take away his speech.

[–]Tre_Walker 0 points1 point  (1 child)

That a good angle. I believe the "refugees" are a result of a shit test and it is primarily women like Merkel who will allow this take place. There is more to it, it is a deep issue but at the very least one can say feminist societies have no problem letting a massive influx of men come in and fight for sex with them.

[–]StotheGG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely agree with your assessment of the Merkel/refugee issue. I think that Merkel has a deep psychological hatred towards German men and Germany. Merkel is obviously a lesbian--just look at your pictures from her youth. Due to her ambitions, she had to suppress her true sexual desires and pass as a straight women. Also, as a lesbian, she identifies as a man at the same time as she seems them as a threat to her own access to ripe and desirable women. Inevitably, Merkel played the game well enough to basically rule Germany. Certainly, she is subservient to globalist interest and agrees to certain population transfers, such as the refugee crisis. But, and this is important, I think the embrace of the misogynist, aggressive, culture of the Muslims is also a final assault and test on 'just how much shit can I get away with among these spineless men.'

Germany has a highly beta culture, because it is focused on living backward to some imagined 'evil' that must always be apologized and atoned. The Nazis were not nice people but there have been many nasty regimes in history.

Aristotle always called women 'misbegotten men.' I think that's wrong. I think that lesbians are 'misbegotten men.' All twisted up in side, trying to be more alpha then the alpha but knowing that they can't ever really join the club. The most dangerous and insane elements of feminism come from the lesbian 'intellectuals', who are just women with high testosterone and masculanized brains.

[–]stemgang 29 points30 points  (2 children)

Excellent post. Minor corrections:

Immaculate --> emasculate

Enviably --> inevitably

[–]AnAbsoluteSith 2 points3 points  (1 child)

The english buff in me wants to give him the benefit of the doubt and blame it on auto-correct

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (1 child)

This is awesome, man.

My dad and I barely knew anything about each other before my mom lost it when I was 14.

Their divorce brought us together like nothing else could

[–]gjs628 8 points9 points  (11 children)

There is something VERY wrong with society. My mother was great until she suddenly went nuts for absolutely no reason. My wife's mother is classic NPD and is one of the biggest narcissists I've met. Here I have people left and right saying "My mother was the same!" And if it wasn't your mom going nuts and your dad being miserable, then it was your dad being an abusive alcoholic and your mom being terrified of him. It seems like there is one or the other, but nowhere do I see anyone saying "Both my parents were happy and still are. They were normal."

Anyone with normal parents, please comment here. Likewise, anyone with a mad mother or father, I'd also like to know that I'm not alone here.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (2 children)

Here I have people left and right saying "My mother was the same!" And if it wasn't your mom going nuts and your dad being miserable, then it was your dad being an abusive alcoholic and your mom being terrified of him.

When I was a kid from being a baby until about 16.. My mom was great and very supportive. She always cooked, always cleaned the house, encouraged me to follow my creative pursuits with learning how to play the guitar etc.. My dad was an alcoholic who beat the both of us and was in and out of jail for drunk driving and abusing his other girlfriends. He would call me fat and withhold meals from me when I'd go see him. I hated sundays because I feared being with him at his house alone.

As I got older, the situation flipped. My dad became a little bit more laid back and less angry (although he still is and has all his negative traits still) and my mom started drinking heavily. Before I knew it, my mom had lost her job, was stealing money from me, and bringing strange men home every weekend to have sex even though 17 year old me is home.

I really let my family govern my existence for way too long. I had to put off college because I was young, didn't have a full time job yet, and generally inexperienced with that stuff and knew for a fact neither of my parents were going to financially support me.. Or if they did it would be conditional. So I worked full time jobs.. I read a lot and educated myself through the library and just book stores in general because I had a natural interest in learning.

Fast forward a few years, I graduate from community college on my own dime working full time for years and get accepted into a great college to transfer to. I'm working a job with my father (he does construction) and he starts acting up cause he's miserable and having a bad day. I'm 26 at this point and had been lifting for about a year or so.

During the argument, my dad eventually comes in to get physical and shoves me. I shove him back and he throws a punch. He got me in the gut but it didn't knock the wind out of me. So I square up and give him a right hook straight to his fucking jaw. His whole mouth is now gushing with blood and he has this "WTF?" look on his face. Told him to go fuck himself and never talk to me again.

I left. I went to college.

On that long bus trip to my school, I thought about these events.. Thought about my parents and who they were.. How they were these unhappy wretched souls who at the wise ages of 50/60 still haven't been able to conquer those demons within them. At that moment, I had to realize that my parents were simply losers. They were not proper authority figures and this had been complicating my own mental health for my whole life. It felt like I had been holding my breath for 20 something years and could finally exhale.

I realized that all my life, my parents had been like Matilda's parents. It was a really weird epiphany.

[–]karmalizing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

souls who at the wise ages of 50/60 still haven't been able to conquer those demons within them. At that moment, I had to realize that my parents were simply losers. They were not proper authority figures and this had been complicating my own mental health for my whole life. It felt like I had been holding my breath for 20 something years and could finally exhale

What a great post. Thanks for sharing..

[–]AlerioX 4 points5 points  (1 child)

My mother is the most pessimistic, manipulative piece of shit on the planet while my father is an alcoholic since 3 decades.
So both my parents are fucked.
Oh, I also got a bigger sister who is a full blown milennial narcissist.
She got photos of her self on all of her walls.
I think the space on the wall that is plastered with posters of herself just got 10 feet taller. Believe me.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My mother was a pretty normal mom. If I'd have to name what was wrong with her, it'd be that she was never able to stand up for herself. She wanted to pursue artistic career, but after she found out she wouldn't be able to support herself, she decided to become a maniciurist (or something like that). Her parents loved their children and always cared for them, my gran couldn't be more stereotypical gran, she calls me at least five times a week, questioning me whether I've been eating properly or not and inviting me for dinners. Grandpa was more stern (he used to be a commisioned officer at our soviet-bloc country's army) and demanded lots of respect (while being disrespectful quite often), but he was always supportive and willing to help.

My dad, however, was a fucking monster. He was (supposedly) a loving husband and father, until he was called for obligatory military service when I was 3 years old. When he came back home year later, he told my mom that she and her mother "spoiled and destroyed his son" and afterwards everything went apeshit.

Dad was becoming more and more distant, while mother really wanted to work things out, he'd just shout at her, throw tableware around and tell her to shut up or he'll beat sense into her. He was just acting more and more distant, spiteful and in the end stopped talking with us beyond these necessary few phrases, moved out of his and mom's bedroom and started sleeping on the couch.

From the outside, we were a perfect family and he was an amazing man, always ready to help, very knowledgable, able to provide for his family. Inside the family however, he was an abusive monster, emotionally abusing whole family, never doing anything to help, never striking a conversation, inciting my younger sister against me and mom. We've found out once, that prior to especially thin and poor on money Christmas, he bought himself a new DSLR (that $1000 would be my parents' combined two months paycheck back then - probably, because we never really knew how much he was earning), which shows how willing he was to pitch in.

We were a loving family, whenever dad wasn't around. When he'd come back home, everything would become silent. We weren't talking even between ourselves, out of fear of making him angry. He once kicked hell out of our German Shepherd, because the dog was "acting too excited", when he was confronted by my grandparents about that, he stated that "it's his dog and he'll do whatever he wants with it".

I moved out at the age of 19 or so, after failing to finish first year of University and that was best decision I could've made back then. 2 years later my mother got divorced and I've never seen her happier. I haven't talked or even seen my father ever since the divorce case, except on the funeral of his mother. We didn't talk and I wouldn't want it otherwise.

See? Not everyone here has a BPD/narcistic mother and perfectly normal, though subdued father, who should swallow the pill. Hell, my mother and grandma are sometimes more redpill than I am.

The amount of scarring my father left on me (I'm not going to speak for rest of my family, but it took a toll on them as well for sure) is humongous. Point I'm trying to make?

If you don't want to become my father and force your children to live that kind of life, you should really read "No More Mr Nice Guy". This book very accurately portrays the person my dad used to be, he was so beta, he became abusive in the end. He learned this behaviour from his father. I learned this behaviour from him, and every now an then I see him reflected in my thoughts or actions.

[–]Mackland 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I must be in the minority on this one, both of my parents were happy and still are, going on 36 years of marriage. I can remember very few times that I ever heard them argue, especially in front of my brother and I, and to this day, everyone that meets my parents loves them both. Dad was never an alcoholic, and actually quit drinking for 10+ years because "it doesn't do anything" for him, and mom has never shown a BPD side or ever been overly manipulative. Of course, after being part of this community and constantly reading everyday, I'm coming to find out just how RP my dad actually was/is. Been thinking of doing a post about my realizations after swallowing the pill.

[–]jtzabor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Parents have been married for 30ish years. Still happy and normal and raised 2 decent kids and 1 complete fuckup.

[–]Grimsterr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My folks were basically normal. I suppose the biggest issue they had was my dad was apt to step out if the opportunity arose, and looking back he was pretty RP sometimes maybe too much so, he couldn't work for anyone else, for long, because inevitably he'd quit typically with the refrain "he wanted me to kiss his ass, I ain't kissing nobody's ass". He did construction and remodeling so he was always able to stay busy on his own doing remodels and stuff. They also smoked dope daily, which I think helped keep their moods mellow.

My mom can be a bit critical at times, nothing too out there, she was German and that's just how they are. No real mental abuse no physical abuse, we were poor, but got by OK. All in all, could definitely have been worse.

[–]KizahdStenter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look up phychodietetics, it is the notion that nutrition can have profound effects on the psyche. I think this theory explains post-partem sp? depression, women who go crazy after menopause. Because of pregnacy and menopause change the hormones, their old diet may not "work" any more.

[–]TRP VanguardArchwinger 7 points8 points  (2 children)

One time, my wife told me that I was a terrible husband, father, and human being, and that I didn't deserve her or an awesome kid like our daughter. That she was going to make sure our daughter knew what a worthless piece of shit her father was.

The funny thing was, that happened before The Red Pill. Now that I'm actually a selfish asshole who probably doesn't deserve an awesome family, she'd never dream of saying anything like that.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (1 child)

My mom said, in a 15 minute stretch of our 2 hour conversation, that my dad was "not a real man", a "loser", "an emotionally needy bitch" and that "he'd poisoned Kyle against me" and that she'd "never forgive him for it". The look on her face when I told her that not only was it not my dads idea for this conversation but mine, and that id been the one in his ear telling him to leave her was priceless. Then of course the "I've lived my whole life for you", "I've done everything I possibly can for you" but "you clearly don't appreciate or deserved such a good mother" came rolling in. What a Fucking fiasco that discussion was. Needed to happen though.

[–]sergeantbbbbs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've just clocked on that my mum's "I've always done my best for you and given you everything" standard speech (she once threw a pan odd boiling hot water at me then hamstered that it never happened) is pure manipulation. Thanks

[–]AzJack 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I was a dad just like that. Married 25 years to a BPD woman. She knew that the only thing I wanted from the marriage was my children, so she did her best to poison their minds against me. I lost all 4 of them for almost 5 years. In the last 6 years though, I have them all back. And they all see through her bullshit now. But it was hellish for a long time.

The failure of the marriage might have been inevitable. But I never held her accountable for her behaviors. And that's on me.

Anyway, this post touched me. I wanted to say "thank you" on behalf of suffering fathers for standing by your dad. You probably saved his life.

[–]angryomlette 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Great job buddy, and Good luck for you and your dad. My dad is hopelessly bluepill and I tried to motivate him with my actions, he showed some response before going back to being bluepill. He still believes many men are culpable while rotten women are "just misguided".

[–]1PantsonFire1234 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Women know no bounds in anything. Be it sex, money, drama etc. They will always go as far as you let them. The good women realize they've crossed a line and take a step back. Those who are batshit simply can't. They live for the drama- it makes them feel secure (them having control over chaos). They enjoy the hurt they can inflict on men because it implies their power of them.

And since they feel utterly powerless inside this is the only way they can exert control over their surroundings. These types of women are broken. Their ill like a deranged pet who has to be put down. It's beyond saving and we ought to know that.

That's the sad truth, women like that are better for it if they passed away. I once knew a man who had a very abusive mother. She was a negative burden on his entire family. His own son and wife never felt accepted by her. Always negative, always unsatisfied.

One day the mother got terminally ill. She didn't last long after that. The guy and his family felt nothing but relief. She wasn't missed and they appeared to be actually glad she was dead. Two days after her passing I saw the guy throwing a BBQ in his backyard with some friends and family. It looked more like a party than a get together to grief. People don't have a claim to a place in your heart, they have to earn it.

[–]PabloEscoba 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is really not your fight but your dads. Im glad she found no support from you though. Your mom sounds like a real cunt.

[–]putin_vor 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I predict she will pretend to have caved. Your father will take her back. She will be nice for a week tops. The cycle will continue.

[–]Mhodesty 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This post hits pretty close to home for me. My mother did the same thing to me and my dad, and I had to make the choice to remove her from my life as well. The hardest part has been getting her to accept it, as she constantly tries to call and spits some bullshit about how "I'm your mother and I deserve respect."

Point is, I treat it like I would any other shitty relationship with someone, and I would encourage you to do the same. Mother or not, if she is drastically reducing the quality of your life and making you miserable, just rip that band-aid off and move on. My mother is 50+ years old, and if she hasn't learned to respect people and not be cruel in those 50 years, she's not going to learn because you and your dad told her to.

Best of luck brother.

[–]DJGammaRabbit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is my parents. Mom was always the abused, abusing, psychotic, pants wearing, controlling, narcissistic, selfish, lying, whiney, fat, ugly bitch. Never told me a joke in my life. She's sociopathic; she believes her own lies. My dad won't take his balls back though, he's a super-beta who's only threat ever has been lightly arguing and then folding. He's said that in 30 years he has never been happy. It's the perfect example of what not to let happen to me. When I'm able to be on my own she will be completely cut from my life. And she'll internalize that as me abandoning her, not me getting away from a toxic bitch.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is why families need patriarchy. When the men aren't running the show, women act up and get out of line fucking everything up. When the men are on top of shit, it keeps women in their place and as a result; happier.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good for your dad and great job supporting him.

[–]RPmatrix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

good on you bro ... well played

[–]stevo2209 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was in a similar situation but with my step dad.

They got together when I was about 13 and I never understood the emotional manipulation my mum put him through until I was older and found TRP.

My mum was single mother who didn't work with 3 kids to 2 different dads and neither of them were ever around. This resulted in my mum hating all men which then resulted in my very BP upbringing.

After my step dad came on the scene I went on numerous holidays and my standard of living improved drastically. She emotionally manipulated him into marrying her (he said multiple times he didn't have an interest in marrying again). She gave him (and everyone else in the house) no end of shit and she eventually got caught cheating. This got him his ticket out but still got divorce raped.

I stayed with him for a couple months then moved out. This all happened about 2 1/2 years ago and I still don't have any contact with my mum.

And you're right, it really is shit going against your own blood like that. Even if you know it's the right thing.

[–]Endorsed ContributorBluepillProfessor 1 point2 points  (2 children)

I tried to do this with my dad but he is for far gone. They have been married over 50 years and he has reached a true state of IDGAF. He honestly doesn't GAF to the point that he can barely even hear his wife's nagging any more. He get's a thousand yard stare like a damaged combat veteran who has been to Hell and back.

Marriage is just like joining the Marine Corps these days:

And when they get to Heaven, to St. Peter they will tell,

Another husband reporting Sir, I've served my time in Hell.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That was my grandpa. Married 70 years to a woman who was almost exactly like my mom, albeit less crazy. My grandfather actually had fought in Korea, and he told me "I'll take 20 hour days shooting gooks over 70 years of marriage any day".

It was immensely disturbing to see him in the end. Talk about checking out. He desperately wanted to die. Think about that. He's been to Korea, worked 2 jobs to support his family 6 days a week for 45 years and yet he was so broken by this marriage he'd have rather died then have it go on longer.

[–]douglas_p 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've heard about old guys who just turn down their hearing aids so they don't have to hear their wife talk.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (3 children)

How was she abusive to him and you?

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (2 children)

For my dad she would just treat him badly. Openly tell him she didn't give a shit about his day or stories. Wouldn't ever sleep in the same bed with him. Would yell and scream and get crazy whenever my dad confornted her or held her accountable about money or something else. Would provide no intimacy. Didn't ever want to do anything with him, and if he tried to ask her to do something with him shed say no in a tone of disgust.

For me, it was the opposite. She would do everything for me. She hates when I'd do something on my own where I didn't have to depend on her. We've had a fuckton of fights over the years about school, as she never really allowed me to do my work without checking or supervision until I was a junior this year (got the best grades of my life, unsurprisingly, but she takes credit for that too). She wouldn't ever allow me to go to friends houses, let alone sleep over. She didn't want me to play sports either, but my dad and I got our way eventually on that one. Basically, she was a helipoter parent who tried to control me at every turn and repeatedly said I needed her because I "couldn't do anything" which hurt my self confidence, self estieem and self sufficiency for years. And that's just when she wasn't in a mood where she would lash out at me and my dad.

The way she treats my dad is infinitely worse than how she treats me, though. Definitely.

[–]StotheGG 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mother is just like that, only its worse: since she her kids all to her own demented self when my father ran off to another country when I was little.

Basically, yo've got to see that the only real problem is you still have a few emotional conflicts about this. You have made huge progress, though. But its just a matter of knowing what having her in your life cost you, how much she held you back, and destroying any illusions of love. She's not capable of love. The things you think were love or great were just means of controlling you, or when she saw you doing something she approved of. The momment you asserted yourself as an independent person that has views and interest different from her, guess what? You're the enemy, your a terrible son, and you're also a pathetic loser who won't ever accomplish anything.

My mother means nothing to me. She means nothing to my sister. Just something to be ashamed of, to wish away. Not much else. Fuck her.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i hope your dad and you find peace! good luck man wish u all the best!

[–]chewbacaflocka 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This thread has really made me think about my own parents' marriage. They've been married for 25 years, separated for about 16... But looking back on the end of us all piping together, although my dad was/is an alcoholic, it's clear that he wasn't the only one with or the worst of the problem.

Years back, I had to disconnect with my own mother for years and although it hurt, I can see that it helped her in the end. Once I cut her from my life, the rest of my family followed, up until she came to her senses and got her shit together.

[–]skoobled 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fortunately, when my mum split from my dad it wasn't ugly for too long, and they seemed to managed to amicably split our former family. Since then they've been reasonably close I guess

Now she's 66 I think she's coming to realise she won't find anyone else. Which is really sad when you consider we had quite a cool, stable middle-middle class family

Ho hum, eh...

[–]1kick6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just note: your mom probably didn't start out that awful. It was over time of your dad allowing her to shit on him a little a more each day that they ended up here. Each little "pass" your dad give, in isolation, was no big deal..............but over the course of a marriage they added up.

Remember that for your relationships.

[–]Freiling 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You might want to check out some of the other subreddits out there, depending on what exactly is wrong with your mother. RaisedByBorderlines or RaisedByNarcissists might have some insight on coping with this. Good luck.

[–]hostile_adept 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I set boundaries with all the women I'm associated with. Especially the ones I date. Any form of disrespect exhibited by them towards me, is met with a quick "get the fuck out, and don't come back until you learn to exercise self control."

[–]piccolo3nj 3 points4 points  (0 children)

First positive shit I've seen to come out of this sub. Bravo.

[–]PawnToKing 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This, folks, is an actual red pill success story. Not your nonsense 'some drunk girl let me finger her' field report.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why does society assume women will be good mothers? The WAW effect?

I've seen so many shitty mothers that are downright evil to their kids / husband - the very people they should not be evil to - that I've started to think women are shitty moms by default. If there's a good RP man there to reign in her bullshit, maybe she will be good. If not, life's gonna suck for you son.

Seriously, how many fucked up single moms are out there? Destroyed the family, in the process of destroying the kids... all so she could scratch some 'itch', usually involving Chad. Don't forget that 75% of divorces initiated by women.

[–]tedcase 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Not much detail here, but it sounds to my untrained and unqualified "Stranger on the internet" mind, that she has some serious mental health issues.

Have you , as a family ever looked into medical help?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. She's gone to a therapist and it helped for awhile but she all of a sudden started refusing to go. Hasn't gone since.

[–]0kool74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eliminating her from my life may prove to be even more difficult

People like this are a cancer! Your body goes through a lot of shit to get rid of cancer.....but it beats the alternative. Good on you.....and even better on your dad for taking his life back!!!!!

[–]InformalCriticism 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only consolation I have is that I found the red pill before my son ever had to. Now he can grow up knowing that he was instilled with knowledge from a father he deserves, instead of one he had to save from social (in)justice.

[–]Theotropho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man. One of my father figures is with an emasculating woman, has been my whole life. He's been heard to say things like "if I killed her when I first thought of it I'd be out of jail by now" but I don't think he considers leaving her an option. I wish he'd find TRP, he's always been an angel of the eyes of women, he'd be scooped up by some hottie half his age in no time if he put himself out there and danced.

[–]recon_johnny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have a lot of responses and encouragement, but fuck man. I hope you and your dad move on. Good on you. Hopeful for your dad. Time to leave the past to the past and look to the future.

[–]MagicGainbow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My father was great until a few years ago, a family member died and he became full on depressed, drinks himself into a stupor and sits and ruminates on past shit and people who've been dead for decades.

My mother to her credit used to be bad but has mellowed out and now mostly gets stick for refusing to leave my father who is currently drinking to the int his liver is failing.

He's not abusive but it's sad watching him kill himself bit by bit.

The really fucked up thing is we have access to UK health benefits but they can do nothing for him.

[–]nevercomment 1 points1 points [recovered]

Has anyone else had to deal with emotional abuse from family members themselves?

If so, please describe your experiences.

[–]StotheGG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mother is/was abusive. She was my entire life. Played constant, and I mean, constant mind games. Always tried to isolate her kids from the world, saying that she was the true friend and no one else could/would love us. I was a nationally ranked athlate in my early youth, on state teams in a bunch of sports. But dear mother didn't like me doing that, so she emotionally sabotaged my relationship wtih my coach--who was the only father figure I had, for example. Pulled me completely out of sports. At every moment of my life, always tried to sabotage me. She at some level sees me as a possession, on object. She's obsessed with being in my life, but only to fucking ruin it. It is very odd. She wants to dance on the ashes.

I could write a book or several on that crazy, worthless bitch. But I think you get my point.

[–]whataboutudummy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So awesome. No pussy pass. When dad and son agree she's a bitch, she's a bitch.

[–]Eyes_Of_The_Dragon 0 points1 point  (2 children)

I hope he's talked to lawyers. She will pretend, but deep down she doesn't understand why you aren't worshiping her.

If she hasn't worked in 25 years, then he's in for a lot of alimony.

[–]StotheGG 0 points1 point  (1 child)

The only answer is to downsize: if he makes less money its less alimony. Tie it to income and fucking earn a lot less. Make the bitch sing for supper.

[–]Eyes_Of_The_Dragon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my divorce, alimony and child support was based on my income and her income. She has no job? Well, the judge took into account that she used to work and has several degrees, so she could be making $50k per year, so we'll pretend that she is and base it off that. That was wonderful. It's an incentive to get off her ass and get a job. Unfortunately, the rest of the country is still stuck in the gynocracy.

[–]Recon_by_Fire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it's mope-rock, but I enjoy concept albums and fresh music when I'm coding.

Hospice by The Antlers is a pretty interesting album. It's about a guy in an abusive relationship told through a hospice care giver (him) trying to care for a dying patient(her). I found the song Kettering quite haunting actually, and I hope to never be in the mental state the artist was in when her wrote the album.

For what it's worth.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no doubt he will be able to find someone later on in life to give him something he so completely deserves: a loving relationship.

The notion of deserving stuff is pretty blue pill. Life is tough and often fairly random. You can just do your best and hope things will turn out as expected - although you should always keep the worst case turnouts in mind.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations, well done.

I have seen many relationships like this in reallife, it's depressing. You can't reach most of these guys.

[–]etherealembryo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey man thats good to hear. I lost my dad when i was 3. Enjoy that bond man! You seem like a good person helping another man get unplugged esp your dad. Good for you!!

[–]ecosci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And once you go redpill you figure out that you put up with her all this time and know you can be better off without her but society does a good job programming beta men but then he will resent women who act bitchy and be attracted to soft women which is natural its the reason so many women love bad men because he doesnt take her shit and has plenty of options it will be her lost because betas are waking up world wide and are not taking anymore females with baggage.

[–]sarahcoleman1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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[–]Scholarofsomesins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm very glad that my family doesn't work like that. Fuck, bro thats hard but you did it!

[–]DarkisKnight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you get your dad to start living the TRP lifestyle? I grew up with the same and after my Dad threw me under the bus several times to appease my Mom I told them both to fuck off and kept my distance. My Dad seems like a lost cause, but maybe not?

[–]victor_knight -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is just the beginning of your dad's escape from Hell and ascension into Heaven. One of the first things I did after my divorce (in order to relax) was get a hot young thang to strip naked, oil up and rub her titties on my back (before massaging me and then you-know-what). All that suddenly became okay now that I was single again. Congratulate your old man for me.

[–]DDOS_Feeler -1 points0 points  (2 children)

I feel sad for you OP. She's still your mom and will always be. Don't leave her like that, just because your dad had been a beta his whole life. Stay in touch with her, as she may get better now. Good luck!

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not my dads fault my mom is a crazy bitch

[–]StotheGG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A fucking chod loser. Go fuck yourself.