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[–]Swimmingdunce 7 points8 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

When walking while holding your woman's hand, make sure your hand is on top/in front of hers so that you are leading. I cringe when I see couples with the woman having the dominant hand position.

[–]Bodegaz 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

What if she wants to lead (Shes the one doing the chasing)

[–]Dollar_thief 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You are mixing up chasing and leading. You as a man are always the dominant one, and therefore lead her around when she is with you. She is chasing you because she wants access to you and your life. By chasing you, she gets to be led by you.

Women want an alpha that will lead them round, to get that alpha they need to chase him. Chasing =/= leading.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

Absolutely, the same as guys who cross their legs under their chair, it is weak.

[–]Solistx8 points [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link

Crossing legs under the table is not weak. With that kind of logic, you might as well stop wearing dress shoes because they have a heel. There's so much damn hypersensitvity about being a damn man around here it's like someone swatted a bee's nest.

As long as you own what you do, no one cares if you sit with a leg behind your neck, crossed over the other, or criss-cross apple sauce. I've worn plastic airsoft replica military helmets to frat parties, sat with my legs crossed, and still managed to talk to a few girls that night.

The point is, is that you're taking stupid things like crossing legs and applying a gender label to it. "Is it masculine? Or is it feminine?" Who gives a fuck? If you believe it's masculine, then so will everyone else.

Edit: To add more context to the situation, I am Polish living in America. My entire family is from Poland. Whenever we meet up for lunch, or a get together, you will notice that the majority of men sit with the legs crossed. These are the same men and family members that run successful trucking companies, pharmaceutical businesses, and contractor businesses. I would consider these family members to be the epitome of masculinity.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

If you had the sense to step back and look at the reasoning behind it you'd understand that for the other 99% of guys, crossing the legs is about taking up space.

Men are afraid of taking up space as they have been taught any form of masculine behavior is a negative and should be repressed. So they cross their legs, slump their shoulders, bend their head, and cross their arms.

This comment was for them, not the 1% like you.

[–]Battle-Scars 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Very good list. It is always the little nuances of a man's day to day life that makes the difference. The items on the list for the most part are subtle and nuanced ways to assert yourself as a man. Keep em' coming. Off the top of my head, I would add proper body language and posture to this list.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Solid point and obviously the easiest thing hiding in plain sight. If you look slouchy and frumpy, you're treated slouchy and frumpy.

[–]taracus 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

and in a way I know she could too

Well she does have a vagina doesnt she, would be weird if she couldnt find someone to have sex with then.

Otherwise good post, got an upboat from me

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Well she does have a vagina doesnt she

Solid point, the onus of performance is always on the man. My point was, I know she is something men want so if she chose to go for it, it would be easier than if she were a fat slug which even then it wouldn't take much.

[–]nuferasgurd 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Doesn't seem like anyone else is actually contributing like you asked. Here's some things I do:

Wrestle with her. Pin her down. Physically dominate her.

While she's pinned down tickle her. Or stick your finger in her ear. Or lick her face. Do something mildly annoying that she can't fight. Get in her head and fuck with that too. Obviously don't do this too much but push some buttons and cross some lines. As long as you're enjoying yourself (and she's into you) she won't care.

Flex. Show off that body you're building.

Don't commit 100% all the time. Be a tease. When you're making out pull back, pretend to go back in but don't. Same applies with everything. Show that you're interested then back off. Push-pull

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Be a tease

Absolutely.

I treat my lady like the girl I liked on the schoolyard.

I fuck with her, pull her hair, tease her but fucking love her and her beauty.

[–]inspiron3000 3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I refuse to cater my voice or actions to those around me

You're that arsehole that annoys the hell out of everyone by talking loudly on your phone when others are trying to have conversations or are trying to concentrate/work/whatever.

Right?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Negative, common courtesy is different than being a meek fuck.

[–]inspiron3000 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Not everyone believes this nor understands this.

They think Alpha means not giving a fuck about anyone.
Your statement / masculine move is valid as long as you have awareness, otherwise you're maintaining the frame of an arrogant loser.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I completely agree, I believe a part of masculine nature and 'alpha', is understanding this aspect of presence, having that awareness.

[–]ijorthegreat 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Good read. I feel this resonates with a kind of chivalry that is rare these days

[–][deleted]  (1 child) | Copy Link

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[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Did you even read the entire post?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

It's nice to see a quality post on things relating to LTR/marriage material. Lately most of the posts I've seen have centered on MTGOW and never getting married, which is a perfectly fine set of beliefs to have, but I enjoy learning through a variety of experiences.

[–]crispy3 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

so do you have a video of yourself doing a backflip off the roof? are you into gymnastics / parkour

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm not into Gymnastics or Parkour - more obstacle course race and American Ninja Warrior fitness.

The roof jump was at my parents, they have an in-ground pool and their house is right near it, a nice 25-30' drop.

[–]first_time_using_net1 points [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link

Practical, applicable strategies are definitely worthwhile. Sometimes I feel as though there's too much focus on philosophy over here and it's easy to get tangled up in the mental and forget about the physical. Good post.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Sometimes you just need to say check out x, y, and z - they worked.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy Link

I openly game her friends, waitresses, chicks in general.

How ? If your wife is sitting next to you and her friend is hot. What do you do differently than the normal Hi whats up and casual convo.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy Link

I will possibly discuss taboo subjects, comment on how much cleavage she is showing while everyone else thinks it but ignores it or only talks shit when she isn't around.

I make comments or little actions that show her I am a man of value and a sexual beast.

Just being an open and friendly guy is sometimes all that is required to get the 'doe eyes' as these chicks around used to weak men and unfortunately, the bar is so low that just dressing properly is enough.

[–]SetConsumes 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

How do you know if sexual comments won't be taken badly? Commenting on cleavage for example.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

Pay attention to body language, tone, and overall character. Chicks love to talk about themselves, it shouldnt be difficult to assess how she would react.

Then you take an action and see how it pans out.

[–]SetConsumes 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Just don't be crude I take it.

Thinking about doing this makes me feel scared. Even more reason to practice.

Do you have other examples of more sexual comments you've made that were well received?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

In Germany I was failing at getting a chick to understand what I meant so I put my hand out for her to place her's into and I drew a picture on her hand with my finger. She blushed and giggled the whole time.

Sometimes I take the route of being overtly direct

Why did you pick that necklace?

Noticing those little accents shows you are paying attention.

You hate your job? What is it that you TRULY want to do?

Few people ever ask meaningful questions any more, also this is personal.

Nice Quads, how much can you squat?

A little more personal and you should probably know the girl before just going for it, but it shows appreciation for her beauty.

Why are you drinking that?

If it's a girly drink, ask her if she'd also like a sippy cup. I tease girls much more than I compliment them. By telling them the raw truth, the truth other people think and say behind each others back, you come across as someone who is completely open and raw - a person who can make her feel which is rare nowadays.

Obviously your setting and relationship with these people will dictate how you deliver.

Trial and error man, be a genuine dude.

[–]SetConsumes 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thanks this is helpful, I've said some of these lines before too which is cool, though never commented on her body itself like in your quads example.

[–]51pctAttack0 points [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link

I’ve been on a bit of an MRP/Manosphere hiatus as life picked up and grad school shifted into high gear. Specifically advanced statistics, that shit, for the past 3 months - has been the bane of my existence...but I digress.

No one fucking cares, and not relevant at all to the post.

[–]Kingtorythegreat -2 points-1 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Best Masculine Move - Do whatever you want.

[–][deleted] 23 points24 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

You aren't wrong, but that advice doesn't help most guys.

[–]Air4ce1 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Exactly this. It's the same type of advice as saying "to be happy, just be happy". What people who have already reached that level fail to realize is that they have already internalized what makes them happy or in this case...masculine.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

So if a lifetime beta wants to be best friend with his ONEitis, he should just keep doing it because that's what he wants? Your tip is like "just be yourself". It's a great tip, but only if "yourself" is MASCULINE. Do whatever you want... as long as it's masculine as fuck.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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