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MetaGive yourself some fucking credit (self.TheRedPill)

submitted by askerman97

With all the FR's we see and even your Alpha friends, it's very easy to fall into the trap of beating yourself up for not being at the place you want to be. Some people here I bet had the expectations that they'd read RedPill and after a few weeks they'd be banging HB9's and be liked by everyone for being high SMV.

Well that's not how the world works. Change takes time, and even when you hit the goal of being your ideal self, you may not even stop the moment to realize it.

Lately I had been beating myself up for not being some uber-suave slayer, and berated myself for it. But then I realized where I was before RP a year ago:

  • A fat socially anxious neckbeard with almost no social skills

Since then I have:

  • Lost 60lbs and am continuing to lose weight

  • Conquered social anxiety

  • Become more social and less self hating

I also:

  • Against all odds from having poor grades and being made fun of school for poor grades, managed to work my ass off and get into a prestigious and respected University degree

  • Pretty much knocked Chron's disease into remission

And I love myself for it. Am I satisfied and now comfortable? No, I'll keep pushing forward, but don't beat yourself up for not being some idealized version of yourself.

Accept that YOU have improved. Give yourself some fucking credit and keep improving. Do NOT be too hard on yourself.


[–]WolfofAnarchy 121 points122 points  (10 children)

THE ONLY EASY DAY WAS YESTERDAY

[–]Duke_LFG 29 points30 points  (8 children)

my favorite source of inspiration right now is the season 2 ending of Bojack Horseman on netflix.

"It gets easier. The hard part is that you have to do it everyday."

Then Bojack just looks at the camera and says;

"Okay."

[–]le0pardd 4 points5 points  (5 children)

I recommend you don't watch season 3 then...

[–]Duke_LFG 1 point2 points  (0 children)

heh, yeah.. it was what i would describe as "happy hour" tv. i still enjoyed it, but the drama was a little forced.

i look forward to season 4!

[–]DrScientist812 3 points4 points  (3 children)

If the fictional story of a cartoon horse is what your self-esteem depends on, you're going to have a bad time.

[–]Bartholemew1 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A source of inspiration does not equal self esteem dependency. A source of inspiration can be anything anywhere.

[–]MuhTriggersGuise 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does not apply to Ren & Stimpy

[–]1v1crown 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had that audio clip as my wakeup alarm for a while

[–]santander26 73 points74 points  (40 children)

Great achievement man. I need to lose weight. 60-65 lbs. This is a BIG problem that affects ALL the things in my life.

[–]askerman97[S] 44 points45 points  (1 child)

You will do it. And when you do, your life will be better because of it.

[–]Boovs4life 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Completely agree with you. I've been following TRP for a little over a year and I've had very similar improvements like you. Lost 35 pounds, conquered social anxiety, got my lazy ass a job, going to college etc. I occasionally get this wave of disappointment for not being able to get laid because my game is complete shit but reading your post really opened my eyes that pre RP i was a geeky neckbeard that would never have thought I'd be lifting today on a regular basis

[–]sirbassist83 10 points11 points  (3 children)

i know you have read this a thousand times by now, but get your diet in order. i decided to get my weight in check when one of my work shirts no longer fit. NOW is the time. tomorrow never comes.

i cut my caloric intake to between 1000 and 1500 per day. i eat a lot of chicken breast, white fish(mostly swai), black beans, lentils, and broccoli. i lost 20 lbs the first two months, and since then, ive been less strict with my diet, normally eating between 1500 and 2k per day. still losing weight, but not as fast. i work out in order to stop myself from losing strength, but have made some gains despite the caloric deficit.

it sucked really bad for about a week, then it was like my stomach just realized it didnt need to be stuffed all the time, and suddenly i wasnt ravenous anymore. since then the worst part has just been the monotony of eating the same healthy shit all the time.

you can do it. ive been struggling with my weight for 10 years or more. i tried exercise for 2 years before i decided to diet, and it wasnt enough. i kept gaining weight.

once i saw the first 5 lbs drop off, it was easy to stay motivated, too. i knew that as long as i kept doing what i was doing, id lose more

[–]santander26 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Thanks man. Yes, I read these a lot, but it is BETTER to read someone's story. Your story is very inspiring. I will lose weight just like you.

[–]sirbassist83 6 points7 points  (0 children)

then im glad i posted it. remember, its ok to be hungry. one of the most important things i learned is the difference between not being full, and truly needing to eat.

calories trump everything else if your goal is weight loss. protein and fat ratios matter if you are already skinny and trying to put on muscle, but for losing fat, count calories. whether its a hamburger or a piece of cake or a salad doesnt matter very much. the difference is that 200 calories worth of fish is a LOT more food than 200 calories worth of chocolate.

[–]RedDeadCred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's really low calorie for anyone bigger than a 115 lb woman. I know you're excited for your progress but don't give advice when you are a beginner.

[–][deleted] 18 points19 points  (21 children)

Look into the keto diet. the keto subreddit is a good place to start.

And just as a disclaimer...

  1. try it out for two weeks as the first few days to week sucks ass getting your body used to it.

  2. It does not make you lose weight or fat any faster than any other diet. It just helps a fuckton with cravings for me (there are other benefits but that's what kept me on it)

[–]SouthPorn 13 points14 points  (6 children)

Going to second the keto diet here. I've lost 85lbs since October 2015 on it. Ignore the morons who say shit like "Keto is for losers with no discipline." It fucking works. That's all that matters.

[–]HappyMexican 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Piping in here. I lost 80 pounds on Keto. It works for sure, and gets to be quite nice a diet after the first couple of weeks. I will say though that it gets harder as you lose weight cause you cannot eat as much.

When you are 300 lbs and keeping below 60 carbs, holy shit u can eat alot and lose. I have been unable to lose more for awhile now and kinda needed to read this post to keep going. Fat fasting and restarting my diet right now. However, everyone I have known who lost weight that started over 300 LBS, eventually did some form of low carb. I think its the only reliable way to lose tons of excess weight.

[–]tb87670 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never done Keto yet, I always had consistent results with just exercise and avoiding junk food/soda. A combination of lifting 3x a week and ~30min of cardio on the off days seems to be the trick for me. Down over 50lbs now, forgot to weight myself past few months but my brother is asking what pill I'm taking to lose weight. It made me chuckle.

[–]Boovs4life 0 points1 point  (3 children)

When would you recommend Keto? Is it for skinny guys?

[–]slay_it_forward 0 points1 point  (1 child)

No if you're skinny keep eating carbs, just not carbs from grains (anything made from flour). Sweet potatoes are good. A bit of fruit.

If you're skinny you need to eat a shit load and lift heavy.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m fit and eat TKD(targeted ketogenic diet), it’s great. Albeit I did lose 80-100lbs on the SKD, so I was used to eating that way already and it was easier than just going back to a normal diet which I feel I have no control over.

Keto is for everybody, I will say though that I believe in that fat people suffer from insulin resistance most times, which makes a ketogenic diet all the better for them for satiety.

[–]Pires007 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The great thing about keto is that it's sustainable and delicious.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Cut my BF from 19-14 in 6 weeks on keto with a 750 cal defect

[–][deleted]  (10 children)

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    [–]JihadDerp 20 points21 points  (0 children)

    Eating fat doesn't make you fat just like eating chicken thighs doesn't make you grow chicken thighs.

    [–]tb87670 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    Without carbs and being fed a high-fat diet your body kicks into a mode where it just starts burning fat instead. You can look it up.

    [–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    Check out the keto subreddit's FAQ

    [–]HAL-9OOO 2 points3 points  (1 child)

    Simple explanation:

    Eating sugar (carbs) causes an insulin response, insulin turns the sugars to fat. You can many many calories worth of carbs/sugar in one sitting.

    Eating fat without carbs, does not release insulin so fat storage is greatly diminished. Even though fat is higher energy dense than sugar, you can't consume a lot at a sitting.

    [–]RedDeadCred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    This is completely wrong and debunked over and over again. Low carb diets still produce plenty of insulin. Insulin itself is massively anabolic and helps deliver nutrients to muscles, so much so that bodybuilders inject extra insulin.

    The answer is that carbs and fats both hinder the ability to process the other. Your body prioritizes glucose for energy, so it will store fat when carbs are supplying enough energy that you don't need the fat right then. On the other hand, fat sticks to sugar molecules and insulin molecules and receptors in your blood, the same way that oil leaves a coat on anything it touches in the macro world, and this hinders the ability of insulin to move the glucose into your cells, which results in higher insulin.

    Low carb and low fat (less than 15%)diets have both been shown over and over again to outperform balanced diets when it comes to weight loss.

    [–]slay_it_forward 1 point2 points  (1 child)

    Keto means burning fat for fuel instead of sugar (carbs). It takes a little while for your body to adapt to it, but it will. Fat in doesn't mean you get fat. Sugar in does.

    [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Well calories do, more accurately. Whether you're eating in a calorie excess of 1,000 cals of carbs or 1,000 cals of fat you're going to gain a somewhat similar amount of fat.

    [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Because how much fat is on the animal that you're eating has very little to do with how much fat is on your body. We put fat on when we eat more calories than we burn. You could eat 0g of fat per day and still be a fat cunt.

    Anywho, a keto diet forces your body to use fat as it's primary energy source. When you do this in in a calorie deficit (eating less than you burn) there is no dietary fat for your body to use so you mainly burning the fat on your body. One of the reasons the diet is very effective is it becomes very hard to over eat when you cut out carbs. If I tasked you with eating 5,000 calories you would find it way way way harder if you couldn't involve carbs. Because this is the case many very large people find out that as long as they completely cut carbs they can pretty much eat as much as they want and still lose weight, obviously that becomes less easy the more weight you lose. /laymans explanations

    It's definitely the most effective diet for people who need to lose a lot of weight imo. I personally find low carb diets MUCH easier to stick to.

    [–]Rommel0502 5 points6 points  (0 children)

    Go for it man. Just think how little overeating and not working out adds to your life, and similarly just think how eating right and being in shape would add to your life. That ONE moment when you decide to eat healthy instead of crap. That one second where you decide to go to the gym instead of sitting on the couch. Those moments define your life.

    [–]Duke_LFG 5 points6 points  (0 children)

    The first step is just to go outside, it's August right now, it's hot as fuck. I did 17 pull ups and holy fuck a 163 BPM will make you lose weight faster than you can blink.

    [–]BarbadosSlimCharles 4 points5 points  (3 children)

    Admitting you need that improvement is a huge step.

    Losing weight is lots of little victories. I started by taking fat burning pills and eating subway instead of fast food. Subways are EVERYWHERE. Take advantage. Also, drink water instead of soda. But definitely diet soda if you won't do water...at least to start.

    Do that for 8 weeks. Then come back for step 2. Step involves going for walks and light lifting. I am not a guru or life coach. This is doable. Today.

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      [–]sirbassist83 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      avoid buying the things you crave. Willpower is much easier to maintain if the temptation isn't immediately available. Don't hamster yourself and say you'll spread it out over the week. You won't.

      so true. sardines are my normal snack at my apartment. i like them and theyre healthy. but chips arent safe at friends houses...

      [–]RedDeadCred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Also, cravings in general are a sign you need to eat more.

      [–]svensin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      You can totally do it

      I weighed in this morning at 195,

      Started the journey in may at 245

      All it takes is complete desire to change and saying no to yourself

      [–]PissedPajamas 45 points46 points  (14 children)

      In the past 6 years I've gone from an unmotivated, socially anxious high schooler with mental problems weighing 260lbs, to a 185lbs 12%bf confident and collected man with a mission in life, 15k in my bank account, and started my Physical Therapy program in January.

      I still have lapses in my mental state, but I've been very stable since addressing nutritional deficiencies, sleeping 7-8hrs every night and avoiding shit foods.

      My life is much better than it used to be and it all came with setting a goal for myself and not losing track. Also fuck anyone who dissuades you from your goal. It's not their goal so they don't care for your improvement

      [–]massivewang 62 points63 points  (13 children)

      Over five years

      • Virgin to count of 8
      • $10k saved to 170k
      • $50k a year to 100k a year
      • 30 lbs lost, lift 5x a week
      • weak spineless nice guy to good man with boundaries

      I'm not a master of anything, but five years of hard work and my life has improved in every way. It's a long game, sometimes it's frustrating and you feel like you'll never improve or win, but consistent effort and forward motion pay off!

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        [–]massivewang 12 points13 points  (8 children)

        Hoping to have 1 million in 8 years and then retire (4% withdrawal rate).

        Let's see what happens!

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          [–]massivewang 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          6% CAGR gets me to the lower end of 1 million in eight years time at my current savings rate/income:

          http://www.joshuakennon.com/mail-bag-return-assumptions-in-your-about-com-articles/

          [–]Duke_LFG 2 points3 points  (3 children)

          holy fuck what kind of job do you have? I'm struggling to keep 5 digits.

          [–]Mak3RedditGreatAgain 2 points3 points  (1 child)

          Yeah i second this, without going into too much detail that can lead to people doxing you, can you tell us what you do?

          [–]realkraziiivan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

          Police Officer turned Engineering Intern for NASA to become Aerospace Engineer after 16 weeks. Now brings home 96K plus bonus. Must be nice you know?

          [–]sfw3015 2 points3 points  (0 children)

          This man is looking to FIRE, he knows whats up.

          [–]ACE-JHN 2 points3 points  (0 children)

          Dude i so want to do that. Im 20 atm and work a part time job. Saved up around 5k, but i track every expense and budget decently well. I am majoring in computer science and want to have financial freedom one day. Not worried about a big house or an expensive car, but much more about going places and seeing new things without having a huge loan to pay off.

          [–]Mike377774774 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          Those are some nice gains man, what do you do to make that money, If you don't mind me asking?

          [–]AttackOnKvothe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          It's a long game, sometimes it's frustrating and you feel like you'll never improve or win, but consistent effort and forward motion pay off!

          This is me right now. I changed from some stupid English studies major to an programming / electronics one, and right now I am working at a small store, and I hope to keep advancing so by the time I end my studies I land in a decent job.

          Experiences like yours serve as an example for me about how to keep figthing and working to better myself, as everything will eventually arrive.

          [–]McLarenX 11 points12 points  (0 children)

          Honestly I've seen ghetto tattooed ex-cons congratulate themselves and feel immense pride for simply being to be only a part-time drug user instead of a full blown addict and finally score that assistant manager gig at McDonald's. But these shitty accomplishments fill them with such pride that it projects in confidence and women pick up on that.

          It's ok to be proud of who you are and what youve done. Society and limited mindset folk will try and hold you back. Don't fall into the trap of negativity.

          [–]Auphor_Phaksache 8 points9 points  (3 children)

          I've was raised by a RP father. Even my sisters are RP. Everyday I wake up I look in the mirror and say "I'm valuable". No matter where you are or what you have in life you have to remind yourself that you have value. Don't just say it, actually do it as well. Go out and be valuable.

          [–]SmokeyMcBlunt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

          Go out and be valuable.

          What do you mean by this exactly?

          [–]DodgedAFew 1 point2 points  (1 child)

          Sounds like hamstering. Only young girls have an intrinsic value.

          [–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

          You got downvoted but you’re right, a man only has the value he creates. The only one you really have value to is family members, and sometimes not even that. You’re really not as special as you’d like to think, you’re easily replaceable and nobody cares about you unless you make them care.

          [–]SonsOfRome 10 points11 points  (5 children)

          Just out of curiosity, how were you able to prevent your Chrons from interfering with life. It runs in my family, I don't know much about it and I'm a little scared

          [–]askerman97[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

          I took small doses of Azathoprine (Imuran). It has worked for years. Also did something called moduelin, a lot of docs wanted on steroids but I didn't go down that route.

          [–]Man-with-a-pitchfork 2 points3 points  (0 children)

          Because you adopted OP's typo, I just want to point out that the disease is spelled Crohn's.

          [–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

          There are two puns. Also congrats, crohns is awful two fold. One because of the symptoms, two because no one sees the symptoms so they don't understand.

          [–]ironclad_desire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          I also heard Wim Hof Method might work well in fighting Crohns's disease.

          [–]TRP VanguardHumanSockPuppet 3 points4 points  (0 children)

          This is an important self-awareness milestone to reach in your Red Pill development.

          Understand that it is easy to imagine yourself falling short of some ideal you aspire to. No matter how good you get, you can always imagine yourself being better.

          Don't look forward and be overwhelmed by how far you still have to go.

          Instead look back, and marvel at how far you have come.

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          [–]makeitproductive 3 points4 points  (0 children)

          Outcome independence is fundamental. In the beginning it may help to pause and think of how far you have come to improve your confidence, but its easy to fall in the laziness/leniency that got you to being 60 pounds overweight on the first place.

          You are a Man. You dont require pats in the back, not even from yourself. The corolary is that no one can break you down. The man in the mirror has the only opinion that counts.

          This reminds me of a passage from one of the poems I keep in my wallet at all times (for over a decade now):

          °

          Art is long, and time is fleeting

          And our hearts, though stout and brave,

          Still like muffled drums are beating

          Funeral marches to the grave.

          °

          Not enjoyment, and not sorrow,

          Is our destined end or way;

          But to act, that each tomorrow

          Finds us farther than today.

          [–]kaljanas 6 points7 points  (0 children)

          Life isn't a movie for you to get an amazing montage of achievements. Life is a grind, learn to love it.

          [–]n0swad 6 points7 points  (0 children)

          I realized this the other day playing table tennis oddly enough. I noticed I got pissed every time I made a bad shot but never gave myself a pat on the back when I made a good one.

          I took some time after and realized that this applies to multiple areas of my life, not just my casual ping pong interest. Good post.

          [–]killking72 2 points3 points  (0 children)

          I've quit making fun of fat people when I see them running. Usually my friends and I would make some off color jokes, but now I nod my head in respect.

          Most people today don't actually put in any effort to better themselves. All you have to do is make the effort.

          Yea you might not be chad yet, but you're putting in the effort, which is more than everyone else will do.

          [–]ShouldersofGiants127 4 points5 points  (0 children)

          Keep going bro. Bill Bowerman said it best "There is no finish line"

          [–]CheeseFanatic 5 points6 points  (1 child)

          I'm right there with you man. Good shit with the Crohn's! Mine finally went into remission this Spring; crappy disease (pun intended).

          [–]williesmokes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

          Good shit, man. Congratulations.

          [–]Thebilboestbaggins 1 point2 points  (0 children)

          Thanks for the post. Its easy to forget where you came from. Still not getting laid nearly as often as I'd like. But one thing I can say for sure is I'm much happier than I use to be.

          [–]MachoMonk 1 point2 points  (1 child)

          I struggle with this because im pissed im not totally alpha yet. 5"9 350-190 Social recluse to Party animal with a lot of friends Virgin to 2 lay counts( Both are now plates) I start for my college rugbly club as a freshmen.

          All in 2 years but to my new mindset it seems like rubbish and i have bouts of depression

          [–]RedDeadCred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          Overtraining and undeating produce depression as a symptom. Something to think about.

          [–]sea_weasel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

          Congratulations brother, my aunt had Chron's, she's absolutely convinced diet is the key. I'm sure it was absolutely shitty for you all the while though.

          [–]GunsGermsAndSteel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

          It's also worth considering the not every one of us wants exactly the same things. For instance, I skip most of the posts here about stuff that takes place in bars/clubs because I don't like going there and I don't WANT to like going there.

          I like going to the gym, riding my motorcycles, going to work, and hiking.

          I don't enjoy drinking, I don't do a lot of socializing and I don't want to. I have a number of friends I'm very close to and whom I'm sure I can trust. Not really looking for more.

          [–]Luckyluke23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

          I do this all the time man.

          on Saturday i went to the club ( haven't been going out lately) talk to heaps of people ( way more than the friends( they are wings as well) i was out with and got 2 girls facebook. ( sure they low quality but there wasn't much around that night, it is winter where i am). Plus i also had a great time.

          yet here i am beating myself up because i didn't get laid and i screwed up the facebook convo i had with one of the girls.

          I really need to give some credit for having a fun night out.

          [–]play_time_is_over 1 point2 points  (0 children)

          As someone whi has been complacent before, I knoe beating myself uo is a good thing. It means I have high standards of myself and will keep pushing.

          [–]30fretibanezguy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

          I doubt i would have had the drive to get 2 A stars in my A levels without this subreddit. The people here have truly set me up for life with this achievement. In 7 years i hope to have the title Dr and be still all round better than i am now. Gained 2 stone of muscle in my time here too.

          [–]Yashugan00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          You're doing great ! Keep it up.

          [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

          On Jan 1, 2015 I was a 195 pound 24% BF depressed and anxious underachiever with low self esteem.

          Today, I'm a 144 pound 14% BF confident dude with a 3.9 GPA. I've come pretty fucking far. Not done yet.

          [–]askerman97[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

          If you dropped over 50lbs then your bf% drop was probably a lot more than 10% drop, depending on your height you could have been much more than 24% so it is even bigger accomplishment.

          [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          You're probably right, actually.

          [–]CertaintyIsAbsurd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          Hey that's great, but don't forget what you have done is the easy part. Virtually everyone can lose weight like you did. The hard part is keeping it off. Statisticaly, any wise man would bet against you keeping it off for five years, RP or not. I don't tell you this to discourage you but to help you deal with reality and to maintain good habits.

          [–]jonnug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          Just wanted to chime in and say congratulations on your progress, great work.

          [–]Vicycle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          Keep going brother. I took a very small step yesterday in buying a Nalgene, cutting out soft drinks and going with mainly water. Will mix in some unsweet tea or black coffee but trying to stick to just water. Next comes overhauling my diet and getting off my ass.

          [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          This is what I needed today. I always appreciate posts like this, now I'm going to study so hard rn

          [–]drew967 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          I think the quote: "Proud but never Satisfied" -Christian Guzman, is an appropriate TL;DR for this post.

          [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          Weight (read: fat) is probably the single most destructive aspect of most people's lives. Fat people don't often realize how badly it affects them.

          Recently I've been reflecting on my life in the past, and it all pretty much ties back to being fat.

          Being fat makes you repulsive to most people. When you don't realize this, you interpret the events in your life as "I'm shy" or "I have social anxiety" when in fact you're just fat that's why no one really wants to talk to you.

          When you feel like people avoid you and you have no power to change it (due to perceived social anxiety) you become depressed and desperate. You get fatter and lazier and your moods get cranky all the time so now not only you look bad but your personality is also bad.

          [–]Expectations1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          Do not reduce the present moment as a means to an end - eckhart tolle

          [–]badblankets3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          From a guy recently diagnosed with Crohn's, good for you keep up the work

          [–]TopKekSkye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          Great achievements op, and good luck in the future. On my end I need to gain weight, which will be tough but I am up for it.

          [–]grewapair 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          Your chance of getting cancer decreases markedly when you lose weight. Obviously heart disease too. You'll never regret losing weight.

          It's really tough to do, and particularly tough to drop the habitual eating, but not only will you feel better for the rest of your life, you'll live longer too.

          And the effect on women, by going from overweight to normal weight is probably greater than anything else you could do. My experience is that weight loss >> muscle building if you're overweight.

          [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          I needed that. Have made amazing strides but have been in a bit of a funk. Beating myself up. I've pushed myself & my body needed the break but my brain didn't want to accept it.

          [–]1PantsonFire1234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          When I was a 12 year old kid I was small, skinny and generally a push over. I stayed social savy, thank god- or else I may not have made it.

          This was years ago, at one point I started this self improvement thing long before finding TRP. Like you all know this became addicting, then I found TRP and things only accelerated after that. It's safe to say that I have been at it for quite some years now.

          Here's the results you can expect:

          I have absolutely crushed each and every person around me in every facet of life. Friends of mine who've likI've grown extraordinarily, both physically as mentally. Hard work pays off. The quality of my friendships have improved, the quality of family life has improved, the quality of my relationships have improved. Women love me, men respect me. People value me. And it's not

          I've got few doubts left to conquer though enough goals to chase. I only view this as the beginning. There will always be new adversaries to beat, new role models to look up to and so on. The future has never looked brighter despite the horrible state the world finds itself in. I'm ready.

          The only thing that has not happened yet at the age of 24 is that I became an 'uber-suave-slayer'. When I was 16 I dreamed about it, at the age of 18 I never thought I would be it, when I was 22 years old I accidentally began living it- now at 24 I can honestly say I don't care

          There will always be girls and I'm sure that when men's SMV peaks in the late twenty's, there will be a reckoning. I'm curious about the older RP'ers who've been busting their asses longer than I. But lets get real gentlemen. It doesn't matter if you plate 1 bitch, 5 bitches or 10 bitches in a year. The only important thing is yourself. Focus on that.

          [–]Caster_Oil 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          Congrats, did that little pep talk you just gave yourself, I mean everyone, get you the attention you wanted so that you feel better? Do you need affirmation? Stop being an effiminate bitch, and keep on keepin on.

          [–]JvSOUL -1 points0 points  (0 children)

          Actually I'd like to counter that. Beat yourself up, Feel the pain, embrace the shittyness, because without the pain and Stress and Hurt things won't change. Pain is truly important in this Stage, because you will have noticed that you are at the very bottom And there is no way for you to go BUT UP.

          NO PAIN NO GAIN. Stfu you Beta Pussy and Change, GET YOUR SHIT TOGETHER. no more mr.nice guy Fuck the old you HE'S FUCKING DEAD. You slight his throat and Burnt the body, now your a New man.

          Move from Mr.nice beta Guy all the way to a Narcissistic/Sociopathic Asshole who is having more Fun than anyone in the Room. Embrace the Alpha Life.

          [–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

          Self improvement is masturbation

          [–]AnimusAlpha -3 points-2 points  (2 children)

          Really so your tips is to stop drinking soda?

          I think you should take 5 red pills every morning and evening!

          I stoped drinking soda now for 2 years, don't eat wheat in 3 years now, quit smoking, eating only healthy foods, every day i drink spinach smoothie with ginger, omega 3 oils, Almon Oil, beet juice. I do everything I FUCKING CAN FOR SUCCESS. IF I NEED TO KILL A HUMAN I WILL FOR SUCCESS!

          You should have "Everything or nothing" mentality. Like fuck you and fuck your excuses!

          Let me ask you something. Do you remember the pain you feelt 94 days ago? No you don't, even the pain you feel now you will not remmber in 40 days. So it does not matter what you feel now! GO FUCKING DO IT! KILL IT! DO IT! DO IT!

          [–]vorverk -1 points0 points  (0 children)

          Been on TRP for 2,5 years. The progress get's even slower later. The first year is where the most changes happen, because you start doing things. So changes from week to week and month to month are even less noticable. Steady progress is not noticable. But even now I'm a completely different person than I was 12 months ago. It's true. I forgot what I was 1 year ago, let alone 3 years ago, before TRP. It's like it was another life.

          [–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

          That actually made me feel pretty good as fat slob myself currently working out.

          I've been upset that i wasn't getting results with women and barely any status/value in social circle, but i now realized its a very long road ahead of me, as i haven't started from zero, but rather a negative value.

          [–]matryoshkabomber -1 points0 points  (0 children)

          Hey man, great accomplishment. Implementing a large weight change through diet can be super taxting mentally, I'm glad to see that you've gotten closer to you goal. (Will any of us ever /actually/ reach our ideal goal since it's ever changing) Anyways, this is my first reply on this sub and I'm looking forward to becoming a part of this community.

          [–]baconOclock -1 points0 points  (0 children)

          Success breeds complacency. Complacency breeds failure. Only the paranoid survive. ~ Andrew Grove

          [–]dgillz -1 points0 points  (0 children)

          Do you mean Crohn's Disease?

          [–]CreamiestCream -2 points-1 points  (3 children)

          get into a prestigious and respected University degree

          Best of luck getting out of it! Also, you're young and have yet to realize this, but academia breeds conformity not prestige. The real world will promptly take a massive shit on your piece of paper following graduation as you've only demonstrated an ability to parrot back what's told to you.

          [–]The1WhoCsAll 0 points1 point  (2 children)

          ...if you get a useless degree.

          [–]CertaintyIsAbsurd 0 points1 point  (1 child)

          I start ALL interviews assuming ALL degrees are worthless...

          [–]The1WhoCsAll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          If you have a 3.5 GPA in engineering or hard science from an accredited university, you will find employment. If you barely scrape a 3.0 in business administration then you're going to have to fight significantly harder. You'd be surprised how many dummies are coming out of college beneath 3.0 in a do-nothing major, expecting a decent starting position. HA!