Summary: Branch swinging is embedded in the female DNA. There's no getting rid of it. Even if she marries you, the hypergamy reins supreme and she will always, ALWAYS be looking for a better man.
Full article here.
I didn't know whether to laugh or cry after reading this article, which first caught my eye on Yahoo News' frontpage. Laugh because it proves every damn thing we say on TRP, or cry because society has devolved to the point where female hypergamy is just seen as a cutsey little thing that men have to shrug, accept and live with. An article celebrating cheating and hypergamy on the front page, for Christ's sake. Anyway, I digress. Let's dissect it...
We think it's fair to say that every married gal gets a little antsy on occasion and Robin Rinaldi, author The Wild Oats Project, is no exception. But unlike those of us who simply wonder what it would be like to take a break from our husbands — Rachel and Ross style — Rinaldi actually acted on it.
After being hitched to her spouse, Scott Mansfield, for 18 years, she made the critical decision to enter into a year-long open marriage so that she could experience life (and by life we mean sex) with other people.
And by open marriage, I assume you mean banging Chads around the world while hubby gets to stay home and water the lawn and cook dinner. Is my assumption correct? Let's read on.
Rinaldi, 51, who lives in San Francisco, says that she and Mansfield, a brewer and wine-maker, were "stuck in a rut." She told the New York Post, "Our once-a-week sex life was loving, but lacked spontaneity and passion."
I.e. life with a beta. The woman will sigh and spread her legs out for him once a week or so just because its her wifely duty, but beta males don't arouse any passion or excitement. Women love uncertainty. They love danger. A doting husband is the opposite of that.
But, unimaginative sex isn't what convinced Rinaldi to try her experiment, and ultimately write a book about it. She says that she finally reached a breaking point in her early thirties when she realized that despite years of pleading, Mansfield would never be willing to have a child with her.
She wrote in The Wild Oats Project, "I refuse to go to my grave with no children and only four lovers ... If I can't have one, I must have the other."
She had her beta husband but couldn't put the ultimate lockdown on him - kids. Growing frustrated, she realized that she had made a huge mistake settling for this subpar male while her body was going baby-crazy and needed an alpha to impregnate her.
"I reached a point that a lot of us face in midlife where I was about to have an affair. I knew I was going to cheat, or we were going to get a divorce and something had to change. And I figured if I was going to do it, I was going to be fair and give him the freedom. I knew it was a long shot," she explains.
Bolded emphasis mine. Observe the brutally honest female, admitting that all of her girlfriends have thought the same thing. It's almost refreshing that this woman is so open about the fact that women cheat and lie. Usually the feminist-types try to hide this fact.
And now for the terms: Rinaldi rented an apartment where she lived from Monday through Friday. There she was allowed to court as many suitors as she liked. On the weekends, she returned to her husband and they lived like a happily married couple without asking each other what or who they did during the week.
"It wasn't as strange as you might imagine. I liked it. It was the perfect balance, living on my own during the week and then returning home," she writes. "We had sex as always and the open marriage spiced things up — at least at first."
The few conditions were that they had to practice safe sex, could't sleep with mutual friends, and had to avoid "serious" relationships. Perfectly reasonable clauses, though they were all violated.
Rinaldi, who had been off the market for awhile, began her exploits by posting an ad on nerve.com. Within one day, she had 23 offers.
Her first paramour was a 40-year-old lawyer but she quickly moved on to younger men. She recalls texting her hubby goodnight from a Las Vegas hotel room immediately after a 23-year-old guy left her bed.
Over all, she had 12 encounters. Two were with women, one of them was a threesome.
After her trial year of condoned dalliances was up, however, Rinaldi and her husband struggled to make their marriage work.
"Moving back home full time proved more difficult than I had thought. After you open up a marriage and experience a whole range of sexual variety and aspects of yourself you've never had before, it's hard to put everything back in the box. You're changed."
"Suddenly I found an updated version of myself. The person I was at 44 was so much different than the woman I'd been when I was last single at 26. She was less shy, more confident, wilder."
Mansfield, had changed too. For nearly six months he had been exclusively seeing one woman, who happened to be younger than Rinaldi but she says that didn't bother her.
Okay, let's take a breather and compare the two. The woman slept with 12 other people. The husband slept with 1. THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT REDPILL LESSON ON THIS THREAD. Women always have more options than men in the dating world, so an open marriage is inherently skewed. By agreeing to one, you're agreeing to a built-in handicap.
She wrote: 'The turning point was hearing from Alden [one of the men she had slept with]. He sent me an e-mail, out of the blue, several months after the project had come to an end. Before long, we were having sex again. Being with him was exquisite. After reconnecting with Alden and falling deeply in love with him, there was no going back."
Robin says she's grateful for the experience of being married to Mansfield. "But for now," she continues, "For for this part of my life, I believe being with someone who is the most temperamentally like me is where I can learn more."
I'm just gonna let this article sink in without any more analysis. Put simply, if you read this article and haven't decided to reject the concept of marriage, you are stupid. There is no benefit - none - for men that outweighs the risks. If your wife of 20 years one day decides she needs fresh cock, she can coerce you into an open marriage, sleep with 12 guys in Vegas, and then divorce your ass while leaving you with nothing but empty memories and half your wealth. How can you look in the mirror and call yourself a man after that?
You get only one life. Do not waste it legally shackled to a female. Hypergamy and branch swinging is too powerful for men to control.
TL:DR Don't get married, thanks.