Summary: If you haven't checked out Flirting 101, refer to my post history and click top posts of all time. Otherwise, in this followup post I will be going over more flirting tips. There's a secret for how to flirt with women that most guys don't know about - and I'm going to reveal it here. You could call it a hidden ingredient for flirting with women that gets overlooked about 90 percent of the time.
First of all, when you discover how to flirt with women, you realize that it's not about pickup lines or seduction techniques - or any of that. It's about something that guys give a lot of lip service to, but don't focus on nearly enough. Stay with me and I'll reveal what that something is.
In Flirting 101 I revealed these 3 flirting mistakes: Waiting too long to approach or start the conversation, flirting with your mouth instead of your whole body, and asking for a date instead of just a small "upsell." Here are 3 more!
Mistake 4: Complimenting a woman's looks.
The first thing I see a lot of plugged in guys go for is the flattery angle when they try to flirt with women. WRONG! The unfortunate part is that this tactic does work, but not when it's done carelessly.
The best thing to compliment a woman on is her appearance, but not on the parts that come naturally to her. The things she was given - her looks or genetic traits - don't feel earned. Better is to compliment her on her CHOICE in appearance. The easiest way to do this is to compliment her on her clothes or jewelry.
You see, her appearance is something that she had to consciously think about and choose, and compliments you make about this are felt far more deeply. Women are looking for validation - as everyone is. But when you're validated on something that you can't control such as her appearance and looks (except with make-up and hair products), it doesn't resonate.
Remember that when you want to know how to flirt with women, you have to target the areas that she is most likely to respond to.
Mistake 5: Relying on words alone.
This is quite similar to Mistake 2 in my Flirting 101 post, but I really want to drill this whole body language thing in.
Again, most guys think that a woman is only listening to what he's saying when he walks up, and that she will believe what he says. The guys who are the best at meeting women know that what you say is just about the least important thing when you discover how to flirt with women.
Women are actually keying in on a bunch of signals from you, including your body language, tonality, and eye contact. All of these things are much more important than the words you say. In fact, when men focus too much on words, they actually turn women off because they become ten times more obvious by saying it instead of hinting at it with their body language.
No matter what you say, women know immediately when you're hitting on them.
Being smooth is overrated.
Don't be smooth.
Mistake 6: Not being GENUINE.
If you haven't figured it out by now, the hidden ingredient for how to flirt with women is really simple: it's sincerity. It's your authenticity and willingness to just be yourself. It's because this is what she needs to know in order to trust you and feel safe around you.
The big mistake that most guys make is to try to hide their interest in a woman, and hide their sexuality in the process. This is what kills attraction for women because they sense a man who is not in harmony with himself. He will seem like he's trying to be deceptive, even when he's doing what he thinks the woman wants.
Or, if he's not honest about his interest, she will think he's "just friends" material, and that kills attraction right away. Not to mention that converting a woman from a friend into more is ten times harder than if you just did it right in the first place.
When you try to keep your sexual interest hidden, she will also sense that you've got a hidden agenda.
And that feels plain sneaky.
The real source of attraction is always in the power of uncertainty with a woman, while being true to yourself. When she feels your power as a man, and doesn't know where she stands with you, that leaves the door wide open for romance when you're learning how to flirt with women.
I hope you took something useful out of this.
The Lesson: More flirting in a nutshell.