I've had this self created dilemma where I'm sketched out and have approach anxiety in public. It's the fear of falling on my face in public trying to holler at a girl, or look like some creeper with no game. But, I'm so over Tinder and online dating, it makes me feel like a fucking chump.
This all changed last night when I went to a concert. Before the show started I made it a point to be as outwardly social with everyone, regardless if they are a HB8 or a group of dudes. This turned out to be a great way to break out of my mold. When the time came to approach, I was already in a social mood and was vibing out. It all came so much more natural since I was already being social, and wasn't social just towards single women looking thirsty. Most were cold approaches, no IOI's or eye contact prior, place was packed. First approach to a decent looking girl, definite 6, was a bust. After talking for 5 minutes I could tell it was time to eject. Moved on to a group of girls I saw and approached them all with a sarcastic comment about the venue, it landed well they all laugh, I feel great. Few more minutes of talking and I come to find out they are all out with their boyfriends and the dudes eventually come over all over-protective with their macho bullshit. I maintain frame and just laugh it off like they are my boys and it's no big deal, what was awesome because they ended up apologizing to ME for coming at me like that. They turned out to be some cool dudes, kind of low value men though I could tell I was in charge of the situation and leading. During our conversation I make eye contact with a cute girl across the venue. I walk over and we chat about the band, flirting and being playful. Not wanting to appear thirsty, I end up walking back to that same group of dudes and we end up getting a beer together. I still see cute girl eyeing me from time to time. Show starts and I have a blast. After the show I hear someone calling my name, turn around, and what do you know, it's cute girl. We hit up the bar in the venue, things escalate fast, constant joking, playful teasing and nudges, I knew it was a done deal once she touched her hand on my leg at the bar. We leave and come back to my place for a night cap, the sexual tension is thick and we end up getting right to work as soon as we walk inside.
I've never pulled in public before, didn't expect to close, but last night I felt like a natural with how in the moment I was. Gentlemen it feels fucking great, I felt like a fucking man for once.