My step by step to not being a bitchless/lazy/scrawny/lifeless piece of shit who couldn't get his dick hard. (reposted cause mod removed it for linking other TRP posts) (self.TheRedPill)

submitted by heytherecutiemcbooty

This is my (pretty basic) 8 step plan that I personally used to improve my life drastically. A lot of this stuff is stuff thrown around on TRP a lot, however I think It's simple, straight to the point, and extremely effective. Do everything on this list and your life will improve. Most of the things on this list can be further researched, please do so if its not something you are sure about/ want some extra help accomplishing. Please ask anything, add suggestions, or criticize.

And if any of you vets out there have any other recommended steps please comment, would love to add.


If you are an employee or employer, DO YOUR FUCKING WORK. If you are a student, DO YOUR FUCKING SCHOOLWORK. These are the two things that have the most influence on your value. KNOCK THEM THE FUCK OUT NOW. THE MORE STRESSED OUT YOU ARE THE LESS PUSSY YOU WILL GET


Find some way of monitoring your time spent during the day. Set an alarm every 30 minutes to keep yourself aware of your efficiency. DO SOMETHING like this in order to be aware of how you use your free time. Your goal is to INVEST free time, DO NOT SPEND IT.


-STOP JERKING OFF, STOP WATCHING PORN. *At the very least don't jerk more than once a week

-LIFT, and eat a diet that is appropriate for your goals.

These two habits are extremely complimentary to each other. Stop jerking off and you’ll be more willing to lift; start lifting and you’ll be less inclined to jerk off. *Regular exercise does increase sexdrive

If you want to do the bare minimum to drastically improve your sex life, this is it.


This step is about habit replacing. (step 3 was a habit replacement as well, but the most crucial one) Replace ALL VICES with something that CONTRIBUTES VALUE



-STOP SMOKING WEED, START JOURNALING(for tracking progress. Ex. Dear diary, i haven't wanked in 30 days, ive gained 20 pounds and i haven't played video games in 23 days. Samantha also gargled my balls today)

You will be in withdrawal from some of these things, that’s ok, after a week away from each you will adjust. The hard part is sticking to good habits. Replace a bad habit with a good habit one at a time. Stick with each replacement for a week or two until going on to the next. Eventually you will no longer spend time on things that do not add value.

SIDENOTE: Vices can add value. Example: Using weed as a social tool, and using Netflix to spend time with women. But if you spend your free time smoking weed alone and then watching Netflix while you are high and alone you are fucking yourself.


DO STUFF: If you eliminate all your vices, you will have free time. Find a hobby. Go to concerts, rock climbing, learn to slackline, do sports, art clubs, yoga, make music. DO SOMETHING THAT ADDS VALUE TO YOUR LIFE AND THAT YOU ENJOY. PREFERABLY SOMETHING WHERE YOU CAN MEET (or bring) WOMEN.


Get a tinder (or other dating app) and practice texting women. Learn what works and what doesn’t. Maybe fuck a couple *of tinder chicks. The biggest use of tinder is to start sending retarded shit to women until you really don’t give a fuck. Build IDGAF mentality.

Read "One Key Step to Not Giving a Fuck" on the sidebar under References


TALK TO EVERYONE YOU CAN. This will help with approach anxiety and maintaining FRAME

Read "How to Talk to Everyone You See" #5 top post on TRP



Find women via: Bars/Clubs, Social Circles, Hobbies, Tinder, On the street. They can be found.

Find that one slut to get you back on the horse or to be your first plate. Fuck her while you work on replacing her/adding to your plate collection. Develop ABUNDANCE MENTALITY. Stop being picky if you have trouble getting pussy. Honestly it can be better to start with women less attractive cause you can get more comfortable and practice game/fucking without over thinking/ being self-conscious about shit; helps with FRAME. The more women you have/had, the more women you can get.


Side notes:

-Have a Approach Anxiety? A crippling fear of rejection? Go to some public place about 45mins-1hour away from where you live. Search for a perfect 5/10 girl (5 being the lowest you personally would fuck) and say to her:

"hey whats your name"

bitch - "im bitch"

"well bitch i thought you were pretty cute and came over here to see if you'll grab coffee with me this week"

bitch -"yes/no"

"whats your number" / "bye"

Thats all you gotta do. One girl that's not that intimidating and who doesnt live anywhere near you or know anyone you know. No possible male hamstering for why you shouldn't approach. JUST THAT ONE GIRL. Then maybe if you're in the mood go up to another(you did drive an hour). This time she can even be a 6 if you want. Just slowly work your way up.

-Get some bros. Meet them in the gym, through your hobbies, or at work/school. You can find some bros to chill with if you try. You have to have bros in your social circle.

-Be impressed with how good you look every time you go out.


[–]Mckallidon 159 points160 points  (11 children)

I kegel 20lbs while smoking in a cold shower. Works like a charm.

[–]glawkneintehn 19 points20 points  (1 child)

Almost fel off the treadmill reading this....

[–]Mckallidon 22 points23 points  (0 children)

If only I could fit a treadmill in my shower....

[–][deleted] 13 points14 points  (2 children)

I like to take a cold shower and wrap rubber bands around my nuts. Pain makes you stronger, nobody deserves pleasure.

[–]Mckallidon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Iron crotch Kung fu is the manliest of all Kung fu.

[–]2 Senior Endorsed Contributorvengefully_yours 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wait, it's not pleasurable to wrap your nuts with rubber bands?

Who knew.

[–]tallwheel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the response this post deserved.

[–][deleted] 19 points20 points  (2 children)

Good post. Cut out all of the shit that doesn't benefit you, work on what does and implement habits that will aid in this.

[–]biggybadwolf 17 points18 points  (0 children)

"hey whats your name"

bitch - "im bitch"

"well bitch i thought you were pretty cute and came over here to see if you'll grab coffee with me this week"

bitch -"yes/no"

"whats your number" / "bye"

haha dude i fucking love your mind

[–]sunderfrost 36 points37 points  (13 children)

I can't highlight the cut out porn and masturbating one enough.

Porn sets unrealistic expectations, and masturbating often can downplay how awesome sex feels.

When the moment comes to get your dick wet? You'll discover a deep primal side of you, that's fun to succumb to as, for me at least, is very take charge dominant.

Regardless, porn and masturbating often is a serious burning of one of the most precious resources - time. Save your cum for the ladies, not for a tissue.

[–]iamz3ro 15 points16 points  (6 children)

I can't highlight the cut out porn and masturbating one enough.

Did 14 days. relapsed. Started again. Now on day 16. I'M FUCKING DOING THIS.

[–]glawkneintehn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha it's crazy. I went 16 days. Got in a heated nudes exchange with tinder Bush. Accidentally came like a gallon and a half. I couldn't believe it lmao.

[–]slay_it_forward 1 point2 points  (4 children)

Did you feel different after 2 weeks? More / less horny?

[–]glawkneintehn 7 points8 points  (1 child)

Absolutely way more horny. I find myself eyeing almost anything with a vagina everywhere I walk. Its a good motivational tool to go approach.

[–]sunderfrost 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's hard to get through. My workplace js 100% male. It's tough. Felt the need to fap if I was at the pc at home? Found a video game or something on a forum to read/research. Started reading a book. Oh, it was hard.

Not saying go cold turkey, but, two weeks is pretty good. Just remember, two choices. You can either cum on a tissue, or cum down a girls throat. You already are probably aware of how explosive your orgasm is atm. You decide which is more fun.

[–]iamz3ro -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As others have said, way Horner. I'm waiting for my flatline to come so I don't have to have this constant thing hovering above me...

[–]Toussant -1 points0 points  (2 children)

Hmm, so the objective is to be more attracted to the ones you see irl by avoiding watching the stars? do you also avoid movies with leads who might look better than porn stars? What about billboards and store displays?

[–]Bisuboy 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It's not the only objective. While fapping to porn, you feel like you're fucking a super model. Your brain makes you feel like a champion, although you literally just fucked your hand.

It lowers your drive to be succesful, it lowers your need for real women, it might give you problems at getting your dick hard. Fapping has so many negative effects for a few seconds of fake joy.

[–]sunderfrost 1 point2 points  (0 children)

By all means, if you want to pursue someone who has a bleached asshole, go for it. I'll never discourage people from pursuing someone attractive and in shape (depending on your porn I guess. ..). However, I'm addressing things like, 12" dicks, how a vagina needs to look, how having sex should look, etc.

Then you'll have a pervasive problem when you'll get bored with your porn and go look at other more extreme stuff to be aroused. That takes a psychological toll that translate over to when you might have a hot blond in front of you, but you can't get turned on because you're dick isn't caged while she's being breeded by some swole black guy you found on your vacation.

[–]hb8only -3 points-3 points [recovered]

well.. my first girl what I was fuckig was.. not bad.. but the body was no so tonned and firm and hot like in porn and I was like - is it just a fantasy..

best thing - I broke up with her and found a girl with 100% porn body - firm tonned quality meat - sometimes porn can help you find out what you are really after

[–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (1 child)

Porn didn't tell you fit girls are hot- that's bullshit. Your instincts told you fit girls are hot.

[–]obama_loves_nsa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well the problem is blue pilled men see 100 fat girls for every 1 fit girl out in the real world.

But yeh biological drive > blue pill brainwashing

[–]Battle-Scars 34 points35 points  (6 children)

Say hi to Samantha for me...

Seriously, good post op.

[–][deleted] 101 points102 points  (5 children)

Samantha can't talk right now

[–]Battle-Scars 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Oh right, the gargely thing...

[–][deleted] -2 points-2 points

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[–]slay_it_forward -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Literally cried? Holy fuck. How high are you?

[–]jay1451 16 points16 points [recovered]

The only thing I disagree with is tryna flirt with ugly girls. My game is 10/10 with girls I don't wanna fuck. My game is 4/10 with girls I actually wanna fuck. Girls who im not attracted to are low hanging fruit and I'm positive the only way to "level up" is to practice game with 9/10s and up. Good post overall tho

[–]glawkneintehn 11 points12 points  (1 child)

For getting started, op has good advice. Just pretend the 9 is a 5

[–]mihaja414 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That is actually a solid advice.

[–]Fulp_Piction 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ignore her beauty. Focus on her femininity, see if she matches up with how masculine you are.

[–][deleted] -3 points-2 points  (1 child)

'910s and up' 11s are pretty rare around these parts.

[–]AlphaBetaDeltaTheta 5 points6 points  (6 children)

I'm going to get straight to the point. I'm very new to enabling myself to be a better man. Been lifting for two months, stopped smoking weed, started studying, started to read, started to eat healthy. I'm currently doing my second year at uni but I still play video games over weekends since I seem to have a lot of free time during those two days (about 8 hours a day free on non-examination weekends). I truly enjoy playing, it's a lot of fun for me and it allows me to enjoy myself. Do you think I should quit cold turkey or should I slowly start adding more things to my routine so as to not have any time to play video games?

[–]RPFlame 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Some activities aren't inherently bad, as long as they don't drive you to use them to hide yourself away from priorities and burdens.

Look at Japan, where boys prefer to lust over 2D anime girls instead of going outside, work on their social skills and themselves and attract a real girl. Watching anime, in this example, is bad because they're using it to avoid human interaction.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I recommend adding things to your routine, but if you think you can quit cold turkey than do that.

[–]dickie_smalls 0 points1 point  (2 children)

video games arent all bad. much better than just watching netflix.

they can increase reflex speed and eyesight, as well as critical thinking with certain games.

be warned that competitive games spike cortisol while playing, thus interfering with with testosterone production

[–]AlphaBetaDeltaTheta 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Tell me more about the competitive games aspect you're talking about. I play CS GO and it's a competitive shooter.

[–]dickie_smalls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

can't find the study i read. but from a quick google the consensus is this: relaxing games lower cortisol, competitive multiplayer games spike adrenaline and thus cortisol.

[–]glawkneintehn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pick up a new hobby or interest. Maybe learn Make video games? Go outside interact with people instead of playing?

[–]Tall_Irish_Guy 34 points35 points  (6 children)

You sound as equally full of self loathing and lack reality in a similar way to SJWs and modern feminists. Albeit your methods are more in line with self improvement instead of self destruction, I respect that. But I don't respect calling women 'bitches' and demonising pass times that are fun. Each to his own. Gaming calms my mind and de-stresses me.

I've dipped into this sub for 4 years and tried to take away the best elements while shunning the worst. Posts like this really characterise all the aspects of this community I hate. How do you plan to live the rest of your life hating women and banging randoms? It gets old fucking quick. You may begin to feel completely shallow and fake. Do you plan to die alone with no children?

Cos I know most of you will get triggered and downvote me to oblivion just hear me out honestly, if it gets you questioning everything. I'm 6'6 Irish and live in London making decent money so I've tasted different elements of these lifestyles. I can honestly say I am happiest and most fulfilled when I have a good girl and a clear purpose in life. Being a real high functioning person isn't easy and comes at a cost. If you're comfortable chasing whatever it is you want and knowing who you are, that's great. But for fucks sake stop making us look bad by treating women like shit, even if you've had a bad run of it or playing up to these ideas that you MUST meditate and read and approach people in the street. Your confidence should come from knowing exactly who you are.

[–]prodigy2throw 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Take what you want from the post and leave what you feel is not relevant to your situation. That's the best way to approach TRP as a whole.

[–][deleted] 14 points15 points  (3 children)

I get your point but you're going too far in the opposite direction:

I can honestly say I am happiest and most fulfilled when I have a good girl and a clear purpose in life.

Good for you, but this self-righteous "if you don't feel like I do then you're fake, misguided and a hateful misogynist too" is not grounded in anything but how you personally feel about this matter.

I agree with you that proposing "live like a monk and approach like a maniac" as a one-size-fits-all life plan is bullshit.

[–]Tall_Irish_Guy 4 points4 points [recovered]

Ok fair point, I guess I felt like I was looking backwards at the journey taken and thinking I could see something he couldn't. Maybe not.

[–]heytherecutiemcbooty 1 points1 points [recovered]

what do you mean by looking back at the journey taken? You mean you went through a phase like this before?

[–]Tall_Irish_Guy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeh in a way. I see it happen to other people, women too. Usually after a breakup. Some people go so deep into this self improvement / fitness lifestyle change that they try to subtly impose it on other people or call their friends out. I see it as a cry for attention or love. I spent 2 years after I dumped the only girl I've ever properly loved, sleeping around turning into some kind of 'player'. It's all animalistic and egotistical. There's really nothing to be found at the end of the single road, only shallow solitude. You can keep spinning plates but the girls know what's up. I've never seen a girl be ok with that kind of arrangement long term, they always want more. Some people may be ok with playing hard ball and keeping them jealous under your spell but I feel manipulative and sad in the end. Maybe the game is more cut throat in American culture but I don't like breaking too many hearts after a while.

[–]buli145 10 points11 points  (7 children)

Cool post.

I read it and went to Steam to see when was the last time I played something. It was in July, 07/08/2016.

Since this date I read almost 10 books (250 pages each on average) and I also watched a around 10 movies that are in the "top 250" in the IMDB. I like to watch those movies to have a good cultural baggage.

I think that giving up the gaming vice, which doesn't bring anything to the table (fuck those guys that say:"gaming help me improve my reflexes") and replacing it with something usefull is changing my life bit by bit.

Thank you red pill

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (2 children)

Your net worth to the world is usually determined by what remains after your bad habits are subtracted from your good ones. - Benjamin Franklin

Good job on quitting gaming and keep in mind that watching a bunch of movies and books can become a vice as well(if the books don't have much substance). But I definitely feel you on the cultural baggage. It can definitely become useful socially.

[–]aussydog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a good fucking quote. I'm stealing that. Thanks.

[–]buli145 0 points1 point  (0 children)


Yep, I know that watching a lot of movies and series can become a vice as well and would be as bad as gaming a lot.

I don't know how it is in the US, but here in Brazil movies and series are a common conversation topic. So I think it's good to at least see some of the good series such as Breaking Bad, Stranger Things or Game of Thrones. You probably will have some good openers and subjects to talk about. But watching a lot of series and movies doesn't make sense

And the books I read are always the ones that are a challenge. Like the classic books of literature, dostoievsky, tolstoi, hemingway and etc. And these 10 books I read were about body language, the "classic" RP, like "no more mr nice guy", "48 lays of power" and some about oratory.

[–]JLCitadel 2 points3 points  (3 children)

I used to spend 12 hours a day on games, I'm even fucking better now when i play every once in a while. Best change I've made right next to my change in eating habits.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (2 children)

I was 6'2" 145, changing my eating patterns put me at 175. I'm no longer look like a cancer patient and the bitches be noticing

[–]dwcmwa 5 points6 points  (1 child)


But then how will one learn of the wisdom of TRP?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe that trp is the only subredit where its users will tell you to


I also think that reading sidebar (1 week most) should be enough for most people

[–]NeckbeardVirgin69 15 points16 points  (28 children)

I still don't get the no masturbation thing. If I only masturbated once a week, I would last seconds in bed. I masturbate 1-3 times a night as it is and my sex drive is super high.

[–][deleted] 23 points24 points  (18 children)

I just have to say that when your not jerking it, your psych will naturally put yourself in a better position to get pussy. Idk how to explain it, its a lot of pseudoscience / anecdotal stuff in regards to nofap but I personally felt the changes myself and try to recommend it to people. But if you have a masturbation/porn addiction, problems getting hard, or problems with energy I would definitely say give it a go.

[–]NeckbeardVirgin69 4 points5 points  (16 children)

You may be right about it helping you get pussy, but I think overdoing it may make you perform worse when you finally do get it.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (15 children)

Yeah you'll come quick as fuck the first round, but the second round will be just fine. The benefit is that your dick will be significantly harder which means better sex. My approach for the first round is to pull out before I think i'm about to start cuming and go down on the girl for a second then go back in when my dick settles.

[–]NeckbeardVirgin69 3 points4 points  (14 children)

That works as long as you don't have one of those bitches who find out you came and then get totally turned off about it.

Cuz she's gonna know something's up when you pull out and change what you're doing.

[–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (5 children)

If you worried about cuming quick then you dont have to nofap, but for me its more about me actually being able to get hard, or at least thats why I started not fapping. But at this point I don't think I could go back to fapping/watching porn cause it made me very non-sexual. I literally had 0 drive to actually pursue women in real life.

[–]Boovs4life 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I did NoFap for 30 days and i will say i got more shit done and had more energy. However my balls started hurting like hell and when i finally did jerk off and came i had this intense pain in my balls it didn't even feel good to come it felt horrible. Idk if that's even normal but the pain i get from not fapping for a while discouraged me from doing it again

[–]RPFlame 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tried NoFap for 2 weeks, then I started waking up in the middle of the night after ejaculating in my boxers. Sexual dreams became the norm and was like "well, my brain is having porn anyway" so I dropped nofap in favor of "masturbation diet" as Manson calls it in the book "Models".

Now I'm only allowed to fap once a week at most, and I cannot use pictures, video or sound, only imagination. And the girl I'll imagine myself fucking has to be someone I approached lately.

[–]NeckbeardVirgin69 2 points3 points  (2 children)

I was that way until I got back into lifting. Now that I lift and take protein, I can fap all I want and still almost pop boners when talking to attractive girls.

Oh I also think stopping drinking and not smoking weed helps a ton too. But seriously, since I started lifting, I was told that I have the hardest dick a girl ever felt. And that was just a random comment made without it being mentioned before. I guess it's not just lifting in my case, but I did stop smoking weed and drinking 2 months prior to lifting and didn't get those benefits.

Edit: Still, do what works for you. Just my perspective. I think diet and exercise is more important than no fap, at least for me.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's pretty interesting. I suppose that's why the golden rule of TRP is to LIFT.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Dick hardness is directly proportional to cardiovascular health and hydration, with a very light side of capillary health in the penis (i.e. don't fap so much you abuse the blood vessel tissue that maintains your erection).

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Don't lose frame about it "ugh you already came??" "bitch I was trying to be nice, the second load goes on your face and now you won't drown in it"

[–]darknes66 0 points1 point  (4 children)

This can go one of two ways. Either she'll be turned off because you're a two pump chump, or she'll be turned on that she got you that worked up. Either way, you're taking care of business by pulling out and switching up. That's much better than laying on top of her and pounding away for 3 minutes until one of you cums

[–]NeckbeardVirgin69 4 points5 points  (3 children)

"Much better than laying on the top of her and pounding away for 3 minutes until one of you cums"


[–]darknes66 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Seriously? If you just pump and dump she will really be like wtf. I like to switch it up because it's more enjoyable for me. I actually like eating pussy and am pretty good at it. If you fuck her got, she'll keep coming back

[–]NeckbeardVirgin69 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Okay. I was just confused because penis in vagina orgasms are a normal part of sex. I get the part where you want to add variety, but you make it seem like any normal penetration is boring for her.

[–]darknes66 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not at all. And I didn't mean to come off as a dick. The end goal is to get laid, but you don't want her to feel like she made a mistake by letting you fuck her. Even if she doesn't cum, I think it's important to perform. Dominate her a bit. Pin her arms down and see if she likes it. Go down on her and see how wet she gets. Maybe she does just want to get fucked, who knows. The goal is to keep plates spinning. If you want the plate to fall then be bad in bed. But if you want to keep her spinning then you need to give her something to get wet about when she's thinking about you in her office chair

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (1 child)

That works as long as you don't have one of those bitches who find out you came and then get totally turned off about it.

that's crazy, taking into account your user name, I need to ask you if you're speaking from experience?

[–]NeckbeardVirgin69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. I've had girls who saw that I came and shut me down when I tried to change it up.

[–]evilpuke 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also builds testosterone, which makes you lift better and just be more manly.

[–]mdcrubengonza 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Among the many benefits, nothing beats spraying a week's worth of nutsack of cum on a girls back/chest/face. Plus the orgasms are like two-three times as intense.

This is also a huge turn on for a girl.

[–]thisishowiwrite 1 point2 points  (2 children)

If youre under 25 youre sweet. If youre over 25 and have high test levels, youre sweet. For the rest of us, it's important.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

as a 19 yo, thanks for giving me a different perspective, from my point of view, half hard/limp/ED dick isn't even imaginable

[–]FlaccidSlap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Until one day it is. My test levels are still stupid high but my dick gave me the big fuck you till I stopped the jerkin

[–]PUA_Wanna_be 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. I tried no-fap and no-porn a few times, the longest streak being 3 months. Didn't notice any improvement in any area of my life, except for the time saving.

IMHO it's just a cultish movement, not supported by science, like a lot of ideas in the self-help world are.

[–]PortiaOnReddit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So last seconds.

Last time I had a girl over we fucked 4.. or 5 times.

Who cares if the first one is 10 seconds?

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (2 children)

NO masturbation is not good - studies show regular masturbators are less likely to get prostate cancer. Once a week, or once every 3-4 days, is perfect.

As for lasting, the short-term solution is jerk it before fucking (either earlier in the day/before the date, or, if surprised, do it right before and then eat pussy/erotic massage until you're hard again. The long term solution is to learn about/study tantra and get in touch with your sexual mind. The invisible third option is to not give a fuck about nutting early, just nut quick, then focus on her (cunnilingus, massage, BDSM, etc) and then go for you again when you recover.

[–]Awotwe_Knows_Best 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like the nofap me better than the fap fap me. It may sound like some nofap bs but I get a more idgaf attitude when I abstain from fapping. Also cumming from sex is more rewarding. The feeling is much better after real sex than after masturbating

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (4 children)

/u/heytherecutiemcbooty, how much of this have you actually implemented? I ask because it reads more like an idealized "perfect TRP life plan" than something realistic. Reality is usually fuzzier and dirtier than that.

[–]heytherecutiemcbooty 1 points1 points [recovered]

To be exact about what I have and haven't done:

I haven't built a meditation habit yet, I probably meditate twice a week right now, and need to make sure I do it daily. I had stopped smoking weed for a month or two, and was doing well, however i relapsed and is one of my only remaining vices aside from a bad reddit habit. I also do not talk to everyone, i wish I did I'm just not that talkative of a person. I just find that every time I get rid of a vice and replace it with a good habit, my life gets noticeably better. Every time. After your brain adjusts to not having that hit of dopamine from playing a video game, smoking a cig, jerking off, watching netflix etc, you start to become a little bit happier and more productive.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

That's good. That process of trying, failing, getting back on your feet, changing tactics and generally moving more in a sort of Brownian motion + drift is what happens in real life when you implement change; the straight line to target is an idealization.

[–]swallowthatshit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Only thing I'd add is that getting off reddit is good for any other purpose than coming here. Coming here to read TRP has been one of the biggest changes in my life. I continue to come here regularly to refine my mental models of thinking and find better strategies in which to apply the core principles taught here. Love you guys, this place is collectively like my second dad.

[–]UniversalFapture 6 points7 points  (10 children)

Everything is good in moderation. But im sick of the bas rap gaming gets. Im not gonna stop doing something i like just to get approval. Ill stop when i want. Unless its hurting your health or someone else, then do whatever you want. Smoking is worse. But again, i dont judge.

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (3 children)

Gaming intruded on my schoolwork, eating and lifting. I had to cut it. No regrets. And I fucking loved gaming. But yeah you do you

[–]UniversalFapture 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Great reply. When it starts negatively affecting you, then you can cut it.

Thats why i reduced most game time to the weekends.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just do it like me - one round of cod online // lift weights or push ups // repeat

[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points  (5 children)

If you won't do it just to get approval, how about to get more money, more women, or more respect from your elders and peers?

[–]UniversalFapture 2 points3 points  (4 children)

You can still do all of that if you game in moderation. Im not buying into this stereotype

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (3 children)

You don't have to buy into stereotypes that you're a part of. Other people do...

[–]UniversalFapture 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Im not sure what you mean.. Rephrase that

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

The black sheep doesn't know he's black.

[–]biggybadwolf 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Get some bros. Meet them in the gym, through your hobbies, or at work/school. You can find some bros to chill with if you try. You have to have bros in your social circle.

serious question. I am very selective of how I use my time. I don't see any major benefits to hanging out with bros. I'd rather spend that time studying new stuff (physics/psychology/etc) than spend it shooting the shit with some dude(s) drinking or whatever.

so why waste that time / money? (i get girls on my own, so no need for wingman or whatever)

[–]heytherecutiemcbooty 2 points2 points [recovered]

It's enjoyable to have bros. And you might be able to help each other out from time to time in other aspects of life

[–]biggybadwolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if it's just for enjoyment i don't value it much as i find it elsewhere.

great second point. I never have needed help that I haven't been able to ask friends, but I suppose I won't know the extent to which it could be beneficial since I don't have any.

[–]throwaway320_ 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Regarding step 4...

I am unable to spend nearly all my free time doing merely productive things. Playing an instrument isn't as fun when you play for hours on end, and I can't play sports 8 hours a day.

Where is the line between healthy unwinding doing something useless (i.e games and tv shows) and wasting time?

[–]noob_said 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If doing for enjoyment in moderation, fine. But if you are using these as a means of avoidance from fear and outside world then you gotta focus on getting your mindset fixed. Read books by Albert Ellis on REBT and other cognitive therapy books.

[–]SuperSexySoapTurtle 1 point2 points  (4 children)

Ill do all this shit but theres no way in hell im gonna stop gaming

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[–]SuperSexySoapTurtle 0 points1 point  (2 children)

I see no benifit though, srs. I understand no fap, but i dont get no gaming. You lost interest, but i grew up on that shit

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[–]SuperSexySoapTurtle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah i get you. Its all about a perfect balance. I just dont believe in dedicating all my time to a girl, i eat sleep lift and hang with friends, but always make time for ME. My life doesnt depend people.

[–]Stythe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like this post because it's direct and literal. As much as I love the philosophy of doing things, the ted pill has a su stantial lack of literal examples. Vague ideas are good but it takes me than that to really figure things out.

[–]biggybadwolf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But if you spend your free time smoking weed alone and then watching Netflix while you are high and alone you are fucking yourself.

fucking yourself is masturbation, which as STEP 3 stated, you need to STOP. 💯

full circle. this post makes too much sense.

[–]hb8only 2 points2 points [recovered]


..this is so hard for me.. I am literally addicted to TRP and refresh every half hour some days :/

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[–]Kubomi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm busy at work, I don't have time to waste talking to coworkers/everyone I see.

[–]1PantsonFire1234 0 points1 point  (3 children)

This is really the dumbest shitpost I've read on TRP in ages. It sounds like it's written by someone who unplugged for like one month. You sound so naive, this is just allot of self improvement new years resolution crap.

Be real

Find some way of monitoring your time spent during the day. Set an alarm every 30 minutes to keep yourself aware of your efficiency.

You aren't gonna keep that up. Do you really believe you're gonna hop around like some ocd C3PO robot snoozing alarm clocks all day just to keep up that efficiency?


What the hell man, you used to play video games for hours so now you're just gonna meditate all day? And what's this crap about journaliing. All a man needs is a couple of minutes at the end of his day spent in contemplation while he's having a drink. That's it.

Also reading just for the sake of reading won't get you nowhere. You need to find some actual interests in life, preferably also professionally. Then delve deeper in those subjects because you actually have to.

Get a tinder (or other dating app) and practice texting women.

Why the hell would any sane person devote time of his life 'practicing' texting game on an App that's specifically designed to cater to female validation. You might as well run into a brick wall to develop forehead skeletal density. Because both will yield you equal results.

TALK TO EVERYONE YOU CAN. This will help with approach anxiety and maintaining FRAME

I've heard this dumb shit advice before. Leave it to a Sperg to take something as "all of them" or "everyone" and take it so literally that he actually starts to yap with every stranger he meets.

All the natural Alpha mates I have would never do this, what kind of idiot would you be to spend your living days having random conversations with people you aren't even interested in. There's a big difference between contextual small talk at the right time and place and some dumb shit bothering random strangers whom are on their business.

There's no need for some special sequence to begin your daily routine or the exact right amount of calories to compliment your workout schedule. All you need to do is get real and set earnest goals for yourself that you will actually set out to achieve.

Everything in life is trail and error and if you need to write these mistakes down in a little gay notebook in order to memorize them, then you probably didn't care so much for your dreams in the first place.

Maybe some people are just so far off that they need a specific binary way to jump start their lives. If so fine, use this guide. But for gods sake don't start taking it in like the freaking bible.

I know guys who I suspect secretly found TRP/Manosphere posts and are implementing them in the most checklist-eque-way you can imagine. Thinking they made it to the NBA or something. Whilst in reality they are the biggest joke in town. All because they took this shit so literally and stopped thinking for themselves. They became RP robots.

The best advice I can give someone is to develop an understanding of social interactions and nuance and have an earnest interests in their day to day occupations. Start looking at the world like a real place and not some video game you are trying to beat by getting +7 stamina on your wizard hat.

[–]heytherecutiemcbooty 1 points1 points [recovered]

But im trying to get player level up to 99 :(

[–]1PantsonFire1234 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Lack of ambition right there, should've aimed for 100

[–]swiddie 1 points1 points [recovered]

Should I read Ayn Rand too?

[–]heytherecutiemcbooty 2 points2 points [recovered]

why do you say this? not getting the reference

[–]yendorion 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Exactly, that's the problem with your post. You post basically suggest one to sacrifice self-cultivation time for a full time obsession. Sounds edgy but this gets nobody anywhere.

[–]heytherecutiemcbooty 1 points1 points [recovered]

I suppose I should spend more time reading.

[–]yendorion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The necessary benefits of self-cultivation shouldn't be underestimated, reading, gaming are very important. As far as you can, be decently familiar at everything might be capable at, from culture to cooking. Most may not into play in many situations, in others it may make or break an opportunity. Self-dependency is key & a visible virtue.

[–]biggybadwolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)


yeah, in retrospect, I don't know that I can do this. This community helps me with shit (like grooming, to my mindsets for this like this community).

Currently, I sometimes repeatedly check to see i have new messages. I was considering redditing perhaps just once or twice a day. going cold turkey would be unnecessary and seems to be detrimental to my well being, i think.