I posted a thread in the past about how if you were not able to get the partying, drinking, and debauchery out of your system in college; then it might just be the time to spend a certain portion of your life getting it out of the way after it. At one point, I even said you don't have to do it forever, but maybe a year or so to just get it out of your system.
Little did I know, these kinds of comments poured in:
Bleh partying is so lame, grow up already, bleh!
Not everyone is low IQ and wants to get wasted!
You should party in your 30s! What kind of a moron does that? What is wrong with you? See a therapist!
Oh my god, do something more interesting with your worthless life than partying, drinking, fucking sluts, and getting wasted. Read Plato and do art like the rest of us you fucking white male!
So I get it, partying and drinking is not for everyone. Some of you want the quiet life of staying in all day and looking at deer outside your house or painting on a quiet morning. The issue is, not all of us (even in our 30s) want that kind of life. Just like how some men want to get into LTRs instead of spinning plates, some men want to party and live it up rather than reading Plato on a Friday night.
The issue here is, we have a lot of scholarly guys on TRP who look down on the Hugh Hefners, Dan Bilzerians, and Leonardo DiCaprios of the world or those that aspire to be like them. Last I checked, reading complex books and writing research paper caliber essays on the dating market should not be required for all guys taking part in this sub.
Maybe it's because of a disconnect between the younger guys on here versus the older guys who think that everyone should "grow up". Maybe it's because younger guys on here who experienced that lifestyle forgot the fun parts of it despite the consequences and now want everyone to avoid that lifestyle, even its fun parts. Maybe it's because younger guys who are social outcasts think they are being edgy or above the Chad or HB9 by not partying. Who knows?
But lets talk about this "grow up" card, sound familiar?
Older woman who is 35 sees a guy her age get with a hot 25 year old, what does she say? Grow up! Stop valuing a woman for her looks! Appreciate a woman for "something more than just her looks" (translation: Forgive me for being a post wall slut you fucking male!). Be a "real man" who takes care of kids she might have had from her first marriage and stop pursuing what you want in life. It's time to be a dad you fucking male! It's time to "settle down" because "all grown ups" do that.
We can apply this exact same logic to guys who hate other guys for wanting to party and live it up in life.
You still down shots and go to clubs in your 30s? Grow up!
You might as well say, you still sleep around with women in your 30s? Grow up!
You still get wasted in your 30s? Grow up!
You're still not married in your 30s? Grow up!
Grow up! Grow up! Grow up! Grow up you fucking male!