Field ReportI fucked up. Don't be like me. (self.TheRedPill)

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[–]MlQUE 626 points627 points  (43 children)

"She then showed me her text messages with him, telling me that she wanted to be honest."

She didn't want to be honest, she was getting off on crushing you. Don't ever reply to a message from her again.

[–]1jb_trp 212 points213 points  (13 children)

It's like the nuclear shit test. That will be the lasting impression this girl has about OP. Within a week or two she will be disgusted by him.

Don't ever let them see you cry.

[–]MlQUE 77 points78 points  (4 children)

Eventually she will when she gets tired of the "hot'n/cold"-game she plays, but for now I can see her being fascinated by how many times he'll let her twist the knife. She obviously enjoys submitting to alphas, he's just her emotional support-vehicle after she's been gorilla-fucked head first down in a couch allowing her to not feel slutty afterwards.

[–]rognos 42 points42 points [recovered]

Wouldn't surprise me if she tried twisting the knife again, like a psychopath in training little girl slowly stabbing a puppy, seeing how many times she can regain its trust before it runs away.

[–]obama_loves_nsa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what is going on. I have never heard that pattern described more accurately. OP needs to be the one twisting the knife or he'll continue getting knifed in the future

[–]harsha_hs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it takes some time and lot of lurking in this sub to move from being played hot/cold games from them to playing hot/cold games with them.

[–]TomRoberts2016 19 points20 points  (2 children)

Yeah, pretty much.

Most women will successfully lie and hide cheating and are experts at trying to turn it around on the guy and pretend he did something wrong to take attention off themselves.

Only reason she'd be doing this, is to prove to herself that he's weak and not worthwhile and yes, getting off on crushing him.

[–]Mckallidon 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Eventually a boy must learn to never cry over a female unless a relative dies. Then he has permission to become a man.

[–]TrumpBull 6 points7 points  (1 child)

The amount of wisdom in this one comment is blowing my fucking brain.

[–]who_the_what 48 points49 points  (6 children)

Yup! It gave her pleasure for OP to read those messages.

[–]Sementeries 41 points42 points  (5 children)

I'd say the whole point of it was to see OP break.

[–][deleted] 69 points70 points  (4 children)

You're right. If a girl is trying to win a guy she'll put in so much effort. She'll make her apartment spotless, pay for meals, delete texts and contacts. She left that crusty shit on the floor on purpose or at the very least was indifferent whether or not he sees it.

Ugly bitches are more ruthless than attractive ones in my experience. If they know they're losing a guy who's out of their league it's imperative that they crush him so that they don't have to face the fact that they're ugly and not worth as much as him. They have to feel that he's so beta that it was 100% a good idea to move on.

[–]Sementeries 23 points24 points  (0 children)

She didn't give a shit, she was already on some new dick.

All bitches can be ruthless doesn't mater if they are short, tall, fat, skinny, ugly, or attractive.

[–]Wilreadit 3 points4 points  (2 children)

No indifference. She wanted him to see it. To ensure the message got through, she talked about the bruises on her ass.

[–]Steve_Wiener 50 points51 points  (7 children)

Yeah, I doubt she left two used condoms on the floor by accident

[–]Ibex3D 19 points20 points  (5 children)

As soon as I read that, i knew that it was intentional. He is my question though; is she aware of what she was doing? I get rationalizing the text away as being "honest" but how can you do that and not know that you're doing it to fuck with the guy? I mean, leaving cum covered panties and used condoms on the floor is not normal when you have someone coming over(or at all really) so I have to wonder if this girl is a straight up psychopath who was completely aware of what she was doing and why she was doing it. I mean, the hamster can't be THAT strong, right?

[–]TurduckenII 10 points11 points  (4 children)

We can't know whether she was conscious of this behavior or not (i.e. "I should clean up that stuff so...nah, I'll leave it out so it'll crush him")

From my (limited) experience, denial doesn't feel like denial. Her motives seem so obvious to us when we look at it from a 3rd party perspective reading an account of the situation. However, denial is her looking around the room, and the thought of "I should put that away" just never coming up. The thought simply does not occur. The brain subconsciously chooses not to focus on it and to focus on other things.

[–]1Soarinc 21 points22 points  (1 child)

Hey Turducken, you understand a concept which maybe 20% of those on the forum are aware of but for some strange reason is never communicated in posts or on sidebar.

I call them "self-awareness blinders" and there was a great example a month ago where a girl was confiding in her friend that she cheated, but 2 weeks later in that same text message conversation, she writes "my boyfriend thinks I cheated but I didn't even let Chad near me"

The girl texting her female friend admitted to cheating and then 2 weeks later is saying it didn't happen (after being easily able to scroll up and read earlier in the conversation that she admitted to cheating).


I've been crushed by a girl who isn't evil, but only because she was not consciously aware of her behaviors. It's very important for people to learn more of the technical processes of hamstering because it's the same type of scary shit that can make her (out of the blue) 2 weeks after consensual sex call her parents and start crying on the phone saying how she was raped.

The hamster sounds like a cute, playful rodent but it's more like a black widow spider that you're sticking your dick into.

[–]Ibex3D 10 points11 points  (1 child)

I get that but they were fucking used condoms. Then again, maybe she is just normally a filthy human being so this wasn't too much of a stretch for her.

[–]redartist 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's actually that she just literally gives zero fucks about OP.

It really is outcome independence for her whether he finds out or not.

He's just a well-off beta chump, even for a 5, they are dime a dozen. Abundance mentality is built-in for women with regards to betas.

Not to mention that she's still on CC and in no hurry to lockdown provider like OP.

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[–]ned_harriman 17 points17 points [recovered]

forget what she said, erase that shit from your mind because it's not normal, it has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with a sick trip on her end.

What? OP says: "I tried to convince myself that NAWALT and look at the result, she's not a princess after all" and you turn around and go: "hang on OP, don't lose hope! You can believe in the fairy NAWALT godmother! Not all women will twist the knife to make themselves feel better"

Fact: all women will twist the knife in this situation. Fact: he said he dated down in RMV, and FACT: a girl with lower RMV won't always be more faithful, but they will almost always be more vindictive. Like /u/PlanofAction said:

Ugly bitches are more ruthless than attractive ones in my experience. If they know they're losing a guy who's out of their league it's imperative that they crush him so that they don't have to face the fact that they're ugly and not worth as much as him. They have to feel that he's so beta that it was 100% a good idea to move on.

[–]Wilreadit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.

[–]Senior Contributordr_warlock 25 points26 points  (1 child)

This shit right here. You can't help but love this sub. It's real as fuck.

[–]1scissor_me_timbers00 12 points13 points  (2 children)

She didn't want to be honest, she was getting off on crushing you. Don't ever reply to a message from her again.

Interesting take, I hadn't thought of that. I guess it makes sense -- a dark look into the sadistic enjoyment of the female mind.

I think it boils down to wanting to see him crumble as a way to assure herself that she was right in cheating on him. If she can find out how truly weak he is, she can feel justified in leaving him.

[–]TehJimmyy 13 points14 points  (0 children)

100 like vote. When i saw the word honest and associate with women. My mind was like

BEEP BEEP BEEP AWALT. Theres no truth coming from women unless they want to crush you .

As read in many books like The Rational Male when women tranfer from covert to overt comm they are out of options and want you to gtfo.

[–]MasterGoshinki 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100% this

to me, its about power for her

[–]Crimson_Cleric 336 points337 points  (15 children)

Tough love time. Pull your head out of your ass. That bitch is dead to you. Full stop. Zero contact from now on. If you don't respect yourself enough not to be her tampon, no one else will. You are only now approaching your prime, and there are literally billions of women in the world. Stop shopping for bargain bitches hoping they will reward your lack of standards. Get hard, motherfucker. Get your mind right.

[–]enRutus 63 points64 points  (1 child)

Best piece of advice on here. Sounds daunting to start anew, but, /u/rugga123, you are in your prime.

One more thing that I'd add is that always be weary of how much you're investing emotionally. Sounds like you're good with money, you wouldn't put everything you had into a startup with an average idea. Don't do that emotionally either.

[–]throwawayfb1995 26 points26 points [recovered]

Really goes to show that just because some guys here read a few posts doesn't mean they apply it in real life.

[–]Myollinir 16 points17 points  (0 children)

being aware of your illness doesn't cure the illness

Much like studying psychology and crowd mechanics. The red pill is a consciousness raiser, but humans are still humans and everyone is susceptible to the tricks that still work on our minds.

Also Hollywood, stories, fantasy novels, video games - everything is forcing us to believe in the get married, have kids, and both people will love each other forever narrative - this shit is ingrained in our minds since we are kids. They are habits, forces of nature. There is nobody here that is not immune to it.

Being aware helps tremendously toward the will's decision making, but it won't override years and years of programming and evolutionary structure

[–]Sementeries 15 points16 points  (3 children)

Unfortunately, this shit will still happen, annnd you'll see some retard post this exact same thing.

OP said that there's no better lesson than experience, which is true, but I'd like to learn from other people's misery. If you can do that then you're eons ahead in the game.

[–]ThatHoeOverDere 384 points385 points  (8 children)

Better now that you walked away. She could have taken half your stuff if she wanted to after marriage. Just focus on your life, 26 is a young age and you already have success that many cannot. It only gets easier from here

[–]redparadigm 131 points132 points  (0 children)

This man speaks the truth.

I know it might not feel like that, but really, you just hit the fucking jackpot. No children or assets to divide. It takes something radical like that to truly swallow the red pill. You will thank your stars in a few years after you dig yourself out of the emotional pit.

Stay strong, Lift hard. Good luck.

[–]Endorsed ContributorBluepillProfessor 37 points38 points  (3 children)

Definitely dodged a bullet. He has not a clue how bad it could have been.

[–]ned_harriman 9 points9 points [recovered]

He has not a clue how bad it could have been.

A smart man learns from his mistakes. A wise man learns from others mistakes.

The question is, will OP learn from those who have tied the knot, or (I just shuddered a bit) will he learn this lesson, but have a good crack at the marriage lesson later, but this time ignoring MRP instead of ignoring TRP?

[–]Endorsed ContributorBluepillProfessor 1 point2 points  (1 child)

The guy should definitely ignore MRP at this time. He needs PUA right up and to spin plates before he even considers an LTR.

[–]HeinousFu_kery 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Do this: Walk away with your head up.

You may feel like you've messed up but all you've really done is pay tuition in the school of hard knocks. Many of us have. Other posters will tell you all the other crap that could have happened (divorce wallet-rape, false assault charges, deadly diseases), but you're past it and in one piece.

Some lessons are harder than others, and I guarantee that your radar will be on and dialed in when you start to circulate again - you'll have no problem letting go with the next head case you run into (and there are plenty out there).

A good landing is one you can walk away from, a great landing is one you can fly the aircraft again. You're in better shape than you give yourself credit for and your wings are intact, but it will take a little while before you realize it.

You'll be back.

[–]heelface 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a guy who had a 5 (5!) year relationship he walked away from at 26 (and wasn't married) it will suck for a little bit and then get much much better. Soldier on OP!

[–]LordThunderbolt 83 points84 points  (13 children)

How do u get cucked by a chick you're not even dating/fucking anymore lmao? This chick doesn't give a single fuck about you and enjoys torturing you. Everything she did was to make you feel inferior and like a little butch. She left the condoms and panties on the floor for u to see them.

Honestly though, you live and you learn. This is what happens when guys think "Oh I'm Chad, my girls can never fuck me over or cheat on me like that. I'm Chad, I know how to pick them and I'm the greatest pimp this planet has ever seen, my girl is not like that. The rest if the women are,but mine is not because I'm the one who picked her. How can I be wrong? I'm THE Chad of Chads."

Fact is, you ain't shit. You're not special, you're not the best, your girl ain't shit, she's not special, she's not the best. You're nothing with all the money, "godly frame", nice cars, aesthetic physique and Chad looks, and great social calibration. She will make a cuck out of u just because she felt like it and you will look like a moron because you thought u were a unicorn.

[–]ANGRY_ATHEIST 18 points19 points  (1 child)

And this guy says he is a venture capitalist. Did he front the cost for his niece's lemonade stand I guess?

[–]fearl3ss 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Being a VC at 26 means he's playing around with Daddy's money. It's clear he hasn't ran into life's problems head-first yet. He'll learn (or won't).

[–]1PantsonFire1234 13 points14 points  (6 children)

How do u get cucked by a chick you're not even dating/fucking anymore lmao? This chick doesn't give a single fuck about you and enjoys torturing you. Everything she did was to make you feel inferior and like a little butch. She left the condoms and panties on the floor for u to see them.

Exactly, this Turbocunt is doing all of this for kicks. No idea why but you can be absolutely sure she's getting a high out of all this drama.

[–]flat6turbo 273 points274 points  (52 children)

lol @ telling you about her sore ass.

sometimes i just read TRP just to make myself feel better about how the worst thing i ever did was buy some nice dinners and send some boring text messages to chicks who weren't into me.

[–]ObservantOmega 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Seeing how bad others have gives you perspective. Not that it's great for anybody involved.

[–]1PantsonFire1234 22 points23 points  (5 children)

That's really fucked up though, showing shit like that to your boyfriend. Somethings wrong with that girl. Even nowadays I wouldn't do that to the plates I pump and dump.

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[–]1PantsonFire1234 33 points34 points  (1 child)

Remember that she wanted to get a rile out of you by telling you all that sexual shit. Think of what made that weekend so special. Her potential branch swing was away on trip. This made her scared that he would pump and dump her. Women fear being alone more than anything in the world.

Which is why she showed and told you all this hurtful stuff. I bet that guy showed her little to no emotion and made her believe he didn't care for her. When he left for that trip the feelings became unbearable for her. So she invites you to hedge her bets and decides that if she can't make him care about her, she definitely can make you care.

Thus she hurts you by doing all the things she did, in order to feel better about herself. In a way this is what you can expect from HB5's. They know their ugly, fat and undesirable. Can't compete with hot bitches and thus live in a world of constant uncertainty.

If you yourself are anything above a 7 then you should feel superior to her in every way. Look down on her low value sluttish behavior and become more alpha.

[–]omega_dawg93 3 points4 points  (0 children)

hate the guy? if he's not taking the pussy, then guess what... SHE'S GIVING IT TO HIM!

don't ever think it's your pussy when it will always (even in marriage) just be your turn.

my advice: she's dead... and her will reads, "my ex bf needs to fuck a lot of different broads in my honor."

now go get your dick wet & enjoy life.

[–]Ibex3D 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also, keep in mind, if he is aware of you at all, she has been telling him how awful you are. If he had half an idea of her treatment towards you he would probably be disgusted by her unless he's a total pussy whipped faggot. Just as she's playing you, she's playing him as well. Honestly, I'd feel bad for him if I were you because he might be next if she can trap him in a relationship.

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[–]southernmost 129 points130 points  (16 children)

Don't try to shift agency; you're not a victim. You let her do this. Learn from your mistakes.

[–]halo1233 54 points54 points [recovered]

Yeah he got cheated on twice and still stayed with her. It should have ended it right there and then. Instead he goes crawling back like a lost puppy.

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[–]2awalt_cupcake 17 points18 points  (2 children)

this is an amazing analogy.

[–]systemshock869 20 points20 points [recovered]

0/10 on the, punctuation though.

[–]TimmySatanicTurner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Guess we know he isn't an English major.

Good on Him!

[–]brasileiro555 3 points4 points  (0 children)

rose colored glasses red flags

"You know, it's funny; when you look at someone through rose-colored glasses, all the red flags just look like flags." - Wanda the Owl, BoJack Horseman

[–]Endorsed ContributorUEMcGill 13 points14 points  (1 child)

Your mission should always be your priority. Take it from an old married guy, take that pussy off the pedestal, quit trying to be captain-sav-a-ho:

, she's a 5. I felt like that because she wasn't as hot as the girls I used to bang, and that she has emotional issues, she would be a loyal good girl

Be awesome and reject low quality women for LTR material. Only the highest quality should be up for consideration, and rejected the moment they fuck up. Millions of high quality women out there. Go forth and slay.

[–]GenghisKhanSpermShot 16 points17 points  (0 children)

It's true but just burn this into your brain HARD for next time if a girl pulls this. There are special snowflakes out there, i have an amazing trusting wife and love my marriage but if she were to ever pull any shit like that i would be done.

[–]Sementeries 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Should've ended the first time she cheat on him.

[–]tempusers 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You're not a victim. You caught feelings. It happens.
Had a similar story years ago. Chick cried to me to come comfort fuck her after I broke up with her. Problem she was back in another dude's apartment by next morning. So more than likely she left to his immediately after I left her place.
I was an emotional tampon. I let myself be an emotional tampon. Just learn from this and move on.

[–]harsha_hs 87 points88 points  (1 child)

Wow dude, you're young and not have to go through divorce to learn this shit. Life is only going upwards for you from now on.

You got to learn one of most important lessons in life for almost no cost. Consider throwing some party to your friends and cheers to life.

[–]stemgang 149 points150 points  (26 children)

No. No fucking way. This has to be a parody. When I read this, my jaw dropped.

Don't bother pretending you have learned anything from TRP. The next step is you watching him fuck her while you cry into your hentai pillow.

The only reason I'm being this harsh is that your post is just a creative writing project. No person could be so clueless, and no person could withstand the consequences that such a mindset will produce.

Well written, I suppose. Lesson learned: don't anybody be like this guy.

[–]7Tomus 57 points58 points  (4 children)

yea, I guess this is how cuck fan fiction must look like

[–]kafka-tamura 4 points5 points  (3 children)

I can't be the only one who finds something fishy here, in addition to the cunt. Sorry, not buying it.

[–]Endorsed ContributorBluepillProfessor 32 points33 points  (5 children)

You would be surprised how weak men are today. I cried for a long time in my first break up and sent cringe worthy letters on my next 2. The degree which she is trying to turn him into a sexless cuckold is also not unusual

[–]captainaryan 10 points11 points  (3 children)

The great testosterone shortage of the 2010s, what a wonderful time to be alive

[–]J_AsapGem 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you know what is fucking strange bro... why are all of our stories almost similar, that's a mind fuck man i did the same shit, I WROTE A FUCKING POEM I'M NOT EVEN A POET.. like what the fuck... i'm actually really concerned bro this has me really mind fucked how can most of us experience and do the same thing, is this what social conditioning is? i literally wrote this bitch a fucking poem bro, confessing my " undying love and gratitude for her " i feel so fucking stupid man, i mean i'm over it now but just seeing that other guys went through the same thing has me feeling some type of way

addendum - fuck the fucking elites.. the pieces of shit that programmed humanity and destroyed masculinity it's fucking pathetic and disgusting. i'm still baffled by that even now.. i'm not even a poet and i was thinking to myself " maybe if i spill allllll my emotions out in this poem to express my love for her, she will realize how much of a good guy i am and we will live happily ever after :). pathetic.

[–]goldnhorde 17 points18 points  (2 children)

yeah I do not think I can believe this story. I have never ever stayed two seconds with a girl that I even suspected that she might have thought about making out with someone else. and if one of my boys did, I would give him so much crap that you could bet that he would leave her just to shut me up.

I don't think you can be that successful in that business arena and this dumb in relationships. maybe a super successful IT guy, or something more isolated or siloed, but not with a managed funding group. you just have to be a lot more clever with relationships and almost paranoid to make that kind of job work.

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[–]Krunjar 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Oh I don't think this is so unbelievable..

I knew a girl once who had the outward appearance of the sweetest cutest thing ever. But she had a hobby, which was trying her best to get guys to catch oneitis over her, and then feed it, without any mercy, and totally cuck them. I mean in a way they were just beta orbiters, but she made sure they went as crazy as possible. Some of these guys I'm sure were borderline suicidal, but she didn't give a shit, and these guys couldn't even see through it, they were totally blinded and simply couldn't see what she was doing, they all stupidly thought they had a chance, and thought that she secretly loved them but for some reason it just wasn't possible for them to get together.

When you think about the amount of people she mercilessly chewed up and [eventually] spat out, all while maintaining this "Butter wouldn't melt" persona, you realise women don't give a shiiiit how the other person feels, as long as they're getting what they want, in fact they feed off it. Its allll about them. And as far as they're concerned, if you're stupid enough to fall for it, its your own fault (which in a way, is true, but still...).

[–]lIlIIIlll 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Once you find a girlfriend for real and not the Internet you'll understand, senpai.

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I don't want to recount my entire history to you, but it's pretty fucking rough. Similar, but it's what turned me to trp. Even then I still used to put up with some retarded shit.

[–]2awalt_cupcake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you have to remember a lot of young males are coming from a mindset against the one they were raised with. For instance, a young male might try and think more sex-positive in order to adapt to the world and get his needs met. It's all new and all confusing. Some see flags sooner than others.

[–]grngr 54 points55 points  (37 children)

Lingerie crusty with cum, used condoms nearby....WAT

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[–]Weirdtual 71 points71 points [recovered]

His point was more : who doesn't clean up things like this, especially before inviting someone else in your bedroom ?

[–]thor_away92 65 points66 points  (2 children)

Dirty sluts aren't called dirty sluts for their well upkeep of their homes.

[–]alecesne 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's what the word slut meant in the past; a messy or disorganized woman. That's all.

[–]1PantsonFire1234 29 points30 points  (5 children)

My guess she secretly wanted to him to find that, like she was planning to reveal all this shit to him in the first place. To completely break him and prove to herself he was the beta she thought he was.

Something fucked up like that.

[–]wes1274 15 points15 points [recovered]

There is absolutely no excuse for condoms anywhere than the trash on on your junk

[–]1Maverick1 176 points177 points  (15 children)

This post makes me sick. Get up off your ass. Stop being a pussy. This wouldn't have happened if you weren't being a giant vagina. Whoever this slut is is clearly just a slut. Turn those things you think are feelings off, do some crunches, hit a punching bag and get on with your life. I'm gunna leave the vomit here on my screen to remind myself to never be like you.

[–]LordThunderbolt 55 points56 points  (3 children)

That's what we need around here instead of feel good bullshit.

Dude hamsters hits easy into committing to a 5 with obvious problems and red flags that he recognizes from the start. 5 proceeds to abuse him since she's well aware that she ain't shit and this dude just be dumb. OP then find out that he got cucked by an unattractive bum ass dude and is surprised. Considering the fact that hes young, run his own business, is fairly successful with HBs, and decided to commit to a damaged 5, it's only right that he gets the reality check from the 5 fucking another 5. He didn't never been there in the first place.

[–]1PantsonFire1234 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It's actually usually the 5's who pull shit like this. They've got something to be angry about and they take it out on men. Also they are at larger odds of being dumped and thus widowed.

[–]alecesne 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She did you a favor. Learn and grow dude-

[–]tylerdurden6767 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Exactly fellow bro. OP needs to suck it up and hit the gym. Wake up up the next day and hit the business with focus.

[–]unknownknowledge 2 points3 points  (3 children)

I thought I'd do a quick afternoon scour to see what's happening and fuck me I feel sick. OP, I wanna slap you and man cuddle you at the same time WTF!

The deprivation of it all is palpable. My brother, for fucks sake make sure you learn from this...pls

[–]TRP VanguardArchwinger 66 points67 points  (3 children)

Good news. You're in your 20s, and you didn't marry her.

So you walk away with all of your money and success, scott free. The only thing you've lost is some piece of shit girl, who by your own admission was a 5. And a cheating slut. And a lazy ass. I mean, she doesn't even clean up used condoms and dirty underwear off of her floor after sex? How fucking lazy can you get? That's just living in squalor.

You didn't lose much. There are 3.5 billion women on Earth. You can't spit out your window without hitting another woman who's better than this one in every single way.

That's really the lesson here. No woman is unique or special. Some are blondes, some are redheads, but the pussies are pretty much interchangeable. And as much as we'd like to believe otherwise, the personalities are pretty much interchangeable, too. They're all like your ex to some extent.

Any girl you're staring at right now, there's another one that's better in every single way out there. You're young. In the future, don't commit. Just fuck half a dozen girls at any given time, non-exclusively, and swap them out when you get bored or if any of them get to be too much trouble. You'll be fine once you get a few more fucks with better women under your belt.

[–]1jb_trp 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Just fuck half a dozen girls at any given time, non-exclusively, and swap them out when you get bored or if any of them get to be too much trouble. You'll be fine once you get a few more fucks with better women under your belt.

This. When my ex left me I was devastated. I drank heavily for months and was in a very dark place. Eventually I found TRP. I started taking care of myself, spinning plates, and I was happy. OP dodged a bullet, and now has a great opportunity in front of him.

[–]SemperPrimus 18 points19 points  (1 child)

Its amazing how women feel the need to totally humiliate a man. And thats what this was. Condoms and cum dont just lay around. You dont show sexts just to be honest. She wanted to crush your spirit.

[–]who_the_what 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This should be higher. Internalize this OP. She wanted to crush your spirit!

[–]d4ng3rz0n3 16 points17 points  (0 children)

This will become the best thing that ever happened to you.

[–]TRP VanguardHumanSockPuppet 51 points52 points  (6 children)

One day, a fat man decides to step onto a scale to see what his weight is. The numbers scramble steadily upward, and after a moment the counter reads "355 lbs". In that moment, the fat man is astonished, angry, and ashamed all at the same time. He steps off the scale and kicks it in disgust.

His feelings are entirely legitimate. But what matters most now is if he understands how he got here.

If he is wise, he will realize that it was his lifelong eating habits that led him to this moment. It is not the scale's fault he is an obese mess - the scale is merely describing the result of his neglectful habits.

If he is a fool, however, he will only remember the moment he stepped on the scale.

You see, memories that have strong feelings attached to them are the memories we tend to recall the most readily. So it's easy to look at these one or two moments with your ex and give them more significance than they're actually worth.

The fight with your fiance and your man-boobed cuddle session - that's you stepping on the scale. It's not the cause of your woes, but merely the events signaling to you that something is wrong. But since you have such strong feelings attached to those two events, you will be tempted to fixate on them.

Never lose sight of your real problem: your self-neglect. You haven't been lifting, haven't been developing your stoicism, haven't been pursuing interests outside of work that give you pleasure and purpose.

Instead, you deposited all of your hope for happiness into a single investment. And what's worse, you deposited it all into a single investment with known market instability. As a venture capitalist, you know how insane that is.

Concentrate on your work. Get your ass to the gym. Pursue non-woman interests that bring you happiness.

Bitches aren't the source of happiness - they are an inevitable side-effect of being happy already.

[–]reddymcwoody 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much man, you don't know how life changing this is for me.

[–]BlueNoMore 1 point2 points  (1 child)

In my modest opinion OP doesn't need any advice from us, he knows exactly what he should be doing but he just couldn't and can't commit to it.

OP you're feeling like shit and there's nothing wrong with it. Actually you should feel exactly the way you are feeling.

OP suffered from this situation in an unnatural way, for if he was balanced he would have never put himself in that situation or tolerate that disrespect.

This situation turned into a trauma. Every trauma we suffer in our adult life is the reflection of a trauma that we have lived in the past and buried deep in our memory. Something in this story triggered old memories of his childhood, he probably was neglected and stuff by her mother (I was in the same situation).

OP consider this: embrace your feeling and let it expand, don't fight it. You have to resolve the multiple trauma of your childhood first.

Suggested book: The completion process

[–]Endorsed Contributorsqerl 16 points17 points  (0 children)

"Fucked up"????

I missed the part where you got her pregnant, you got a STD, married her anyway, then divorced, and you lost all your business, and custody.

Suck it up buttercup, you'll be fine. Only thing that broke was your expectations... and those bruises? That's your ego. No worries, back to lifting, making $$$, and move on.

Your goals in life are long term... her's are short term... she found a flake with short term spontaneity... get back on your mission. There'll be plenty of futures 'ones'...

[–]Rebekahruby 22 points23 points  (5 children)

I'm a woman and I don't know if I'm allowed to post here, but this made me so upset. Sometimes you guys are way off when it comes to girls and their reasoning, but this time, most every guy here has been right: she wanted to crush you.

Whoever this dread guy was made her feel insecure, and she ran to old faithful for comfort. She probably didn't bother cleaning up the crusty panties and the condoms because she didn't plan on having you over (i.e. she wasn't thinking of you, or your feelings, or taking your meet-up seriously at all. You were the human equivalent of reaching for quick, comforting junk food when you feel like shit about something: cheap, easy, available, and you know exactly what you're getting. She was using you for a boost of security/comfort/affirmation that she's desirable/affirmation that her life isn't actually as messy as she's afraid it is), it was an afterthought. You came running, then you freaked out about the crusty panties and gave her yet another ego/security boost. That's when the little devil on her shoulder told her it would be fun to twist the knife a little more and read you the text messages. Any person who is serious about "being honest" with an ex they're reconnecting with will be on MUCH better behavior than this girl was from the get-go. It's one thing to disclose that you've been with another person during a breakup, it's another to rub your nose in the steaming pile of shit that is the details of their sex life. For the record, she's also setting you up to be the "psycho ex who won't leave her alone" if things get back on track with ol dreads and you have understandably mixed your feelings up in her once again.

Never ever talk to this girl again. Don't talk to anyone who knows her. Cut her off cold, hard, and complete. Don't even give her an explanation. When she contacts you in two months for another ego boost because she realizes ol dread is a complete loser who treats her like doo-doo, don't respond. Stay gone. She will understand why and she will respect you for your firmness and it will teach her something about how not to fuck around with other peoples' emotions because sometimes you lose them if you do that. But only if you never talk to her or see her again. Seriously. If you see her 30 years from now at a restaurant with her grown ass children, don't speak to her. Have some self respect. Have HEAPS of self respect. In 5 years, you'll literally be able to date whomever you want. You seem like a decent person.

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[–]Osoto_Gari 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She's been telling people how crazy I am. I'm actually really scared now. She texted me a pic of her bruises just now.

A cold chill just ran down my spine. Do you have a lawyer lined up? Better chase up what to do if the Police turn up at your door / workplace

[–]slip-down 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I used to feel terrible reading these kind of stories. Let me give you some great advice. Getting sex to women even a 3 is easy, getting a good man to commit? Nearly impossible. You sound like you got your game of life figured out (career, success and head screwed on right). It may not some like it now, but all of those pay high dividends. My advice is simple. Walk away, delete her number and never contact that women again. No games, no stringing her along and vice versa. Walk. She will blow you up even of shes already with another guy. That doesn't matter. You matter, and only you can take care of yourself not her. They are extremely fragile. That guy who's rocking her in bed? Don't get caught up in that nonsense. What do you think she was telling her friends when she met you? It's nothing man, trust me. Trust trp. Go no contact and I promise that you'll be the guy who alpha widowed her. Every guy who meets her (even this new guy) will have to meet some unrealistic standard (my ex was a venture capitalist, he was cut, he was great in bed...blah). Forget about her, let time unravel her own damages that's not your problem.

[–]ReddittFeist 8 points9 points  (1 child)

I'm going to apply some 2x4 therapy to the side of your head. Take it in a positive light. I'm doing this because I care about guys who put themselves in danger because of onetitis, not because I'm disgusted with you.

blamed one guy for raping her

What.the.bloody.fucking.hell man!

If she did this to 1 guy, valid or not, do you think she wouldn't use the 'rape card' on you?

This is about whether you care about your life's work, and where women and female companionship stand on your list of life priorities.

Here's the deal: a guy who runs a fund can have his work destroyed if a woman accuses him of rape.

It doesn't matter if you win your case in court. By that time enough of your investors will have fled that it will be over. And try starting a new fund when searching your name could dredge up the charges labelling you as a rapist. Many people will not want to touch anything involving a guy charged with that, no matter whether he was proven inncocent later or not.

Look at these articles and think long and hard:



If you know that a woman has accused a guy of anything: rape, assault, "financial abuse" or any other SJW-inspired crap ...

run the other fucking way. Have nothing to do with her. Full stop.

This is just basic RP Male Self Defense 101.

Advanced lessons to follow.

Advanced lesson no. 1:

Women want to be with a man who values himself, and who puts his life success first. This is part of being the Jerk Women Love.

If a woman sees you being with a woman who has used the legal system to wreck a man's life, it's huge DLV. And even with the accuser woman you're thrying to White Knight- she'll hold you in contempt for being stupid enough to be with her, for not valuing yourself and your life's mission enough.

[–]razioer 24 points25 points  (3 children)

Put the bottle down, and sleep it out. The more you drink the harder its gonna be when you go lift tomorrow ;).

And you should go lift. Make some new friends at the gym while you are there.

Then once you are feeling a bit more stable, take GLOs advise and write a post for TRP.

Im dying to learn more about venture capitalism, and how to manage a fund already!.

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Honestly, two years from now you will laugh about this shit. You're a 26 year old venture capitalist. If you stop putting so much energy into thot 5s, and focus that energy on number one, you will slay in a year or two. Look at women as a pattern of behaviors, and not special snowflakes. Once you see the commonality in their actions, it becomes comically easy to predict what they will do/feel/think.

[–]blackhawks93 10 points11 points  (1 child)

As far as I'm concerned, you lucked out by not marrying this girl.

[–]PUSSIES_WILLBE_RAPED 14 points15 points  (3 children)

Did you feel extra bad because you thought you were saving a broken HB5 bitch while you were a 7-8 and she should be grateful? That she can't recognize value, like a kid flushing a diamond ring down a toilet?

These sluts are so thick. Emotional vampires, letting you suffer while she got her cuddles. She probably thought that you were even, since you were there holding her and therefore were forgiving and understanding, and that your rage wasn't real, otherwise you wouldn't be there. That you'd get over it. She felt bad that you were crying because it made her feel guilty, and she didn't even consider feeling bad for not feeling bad about your suffering.

You make an exception with an LTR if you're red-pilled. It's someone who's worth the sacrifice and the risk (because the risk is always there). And you think the expected value of the relationship is fidelity and happiness. Thing is, even a 1% probability of cheating is fatal, because on a long enough timeline, it only needs to happen once, and it will. The value of that 1% is a negative infinity.

[–]Nottonystark69 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Piggy backing on that point, I can only think of a SINGLE woman in my life who has had the ability to be empathetic or even think about how their actions might affect my emotions remotely. And no it isn't my mom or one of my sisters.

Girls always whine about how guys are dicks but in reality most of the men in my life are really responsive and either care about my wellbeing or don't and they prove it with their actions. With women it's always the latter and it's harder to see because blood is going to your other head.

Man the fuck up and don't ever acknowledge her existence again. Think with your head and not your dick, no girl will ever have the emotional capacity you expect of her or return your "love".

[–]FlemJef 9 points10 points  (3 children)

Wow, brutal story. I feel for you, man.

On a side note: who are these people that leave used condoms next to a bed? That's just plain unsanitary!

[–]TB3o3 5 points6 points  (0 children)

dirty skanks with no self respect

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[–]obama_loves_nsa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You didn't fucking just get up and laugh your ass off and leave?

Dude this WHORE was getting thunderfucked just minutes before you got there and she's probably getting off on some nerdy poor retard this very second. SHE IS A GRADE A WHORE OF THE DARK LORD OF SAURON DUDE. THERE IS NOTHING BUT DEATH FROM THIS RETARDED SLUT

In 5 years she'll have 3 bastards from 4 different fathers, be fat as fuck and old as a hen.

In your future if you keep lifting and making good investments is women begging to be your wife. Of course you'll vet the shit out of them now and not treat them like a snowflake again.

Or this is all just made up bullshit and I took the bait holy fuck

[–]Disciple_of_Libertas 6 points7 points  (0 children)

OP, this was pathetic, full stop. Now that I've gotten that out of the way, read the sidebar especially Rollo's stuff (his "best of" series is some of the most profound shit I've ever read.). Read the books No More Mr. Nice Guy and Models. If you ever feel angry again go to the gym and take it out on a bag, then get lifting. You can't give a fuck about stupid shit if you're physically too tired to do so. It sounds like you have the rest of your life together so really you have nothing to be ashamed about. Hitting the bottle when angry solves nothing and turns you to emotional sludge(like a woman). Since you have some issues with your emotions, I'd recommend the work "Meditations" by Marcus Aurelius. So get out there and snap out of it OP.

[–]1Jax77789 16 points17 points  (0 children)

This is classic AWALT. Just lurking around here more would have avoided this massive beta slip bro.

Why I check TRP at least twice a day. It really helps staying in the clear.

[–]Usecod 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Everyone makes mistakes,but you should learn from them.It seems that you dont learn from your mistakes.I think in the near future you will repeat the same mistake.

[–]RedPillFusion 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Stick around kid, there's glory to be had on the other side of this thing. There are fringe benefits as well. Once we get your head straight and after you've plunged into the darkness of masculine self-actualization, you will find yourself in a far better place than had you not experienced this rude awakening.

For now, deep throat the sidebar . Sort by top all time, and read.

Let the posts digest, taking a little time in between to consider. Get in the gym. Today.

The rest of us will chuckle at the future dread Nancy will feel when she crosses future Rugga's path. By that point your shit will be so tight and your game so on point that you won't even have ill will towards her. You'll see that she's operating on such a lower plane of existence that you almost pity her. Almost.

Dig in and follow the path. Your life will never be the same. Decide today, this morning, right now that you are reborn. It begins here.

[–]CaptainWasHere 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You already got a ton of great advice but I'm going to add some more based on my recent breakup. I'm older than you and dated a girl for nearly 3 years. We were supposed to get married this summer. I broke up with her beforehand.

Most of us guys find at least one woman in our life that we just fall for. We know she's not the sexiest, smartest, best... whatever. But we fall. The chemicals in our brain say, "This is the one. I'll do anything for her." And then we turn into beta pussies. I was hooked like this with my now ex-fiance. Frankly, I was still hooked on her for several months after. It took a while for me to overcome each of the instances of missing something about her, wanting her back, and blah blah blah. It's just the chemicals. Ignore them and they will go away. As they do, you'll start to see her for who she really is.

What helps that hard grind back to reality? - I asked my closest friends and family what they really thought about her. It took some prodding to get real answers from them, but everyone had something to say. Their critical words helped me to realize what I was either blind to or consciously ignoring.
- Date! You need to get out and date some girls. Quick flings or long weekends. Whatever. Just learn more about other women. My current g/f is better for me in EVERY area that the ex and I had problems. It's insane. She's really showing me that I was ignoring a lot of red flags. - Get out of the house. Do not sit at home sulking. Especially if that's where all your memories are. Change the furniture. Change the colors. Heck, move into a new pad if you need to. But drop those memories that are anchoring you. - Travel! Get the endorphins going by getting out of dodge. - Ignore her. She knows she owns you. She's counting on it. Begging you for comfort while she has cum filled panties on the floor is one of the most disrespectful things I've ever heard! She doesn't give two shits about you. All she cares about is how your bitch ass makes her feel while her Chad is out of town. Think about that! Do NOT accept any calls or messages from her at least through the rest of the year.

Hope this helps man. PM me if you want any other personal thoughts. You WILL get through this. 6 months from now you'll be in the middle of a date thinking - man this is definitely an upgrade. I'm nowhere near Boston, but if I were I'd buy you a pint man.

[–]sabinmightyfist 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Don't get too down on yourself; most guys on this subreddit have had similar experiences. It takes a great awakening for men to internalize TRP truths and these awakening are always incredibly painful. For me I started dating the best girl in the world; at the time I remember feeling so lucky this perfect girl wanted to date me (objectively speaking HB6). Life was pure ecstasy. I found out months later that she was fucking my good friend and a couple other guys. That sent me on a downward spiral until I hit the lowest point in my life. For months I mopped around depressed, couldn't concentrate on school, never went out, couldn't eat etc... But looking back I'm incredibly grateful for the experience. My friend showed me TRP after the breakup and everything clicked; having the girl I loved fuck my best friend was the awakening I needed. Three years later I have a great relationship with a women because of the principles I've learned here. TRP gives you the tools you need to have happy interactions with women. But until a life changing event happens (like the girl you love fucking other men) you'll never really understand the principles discussed on this site. I know it sucks to find out your special snowflake is a whore but this truly is a good thing; one day you'll be grateful that she gave you this experience. This experience will change the way you interact with women forever; you're no longer blinded by the "disneyfied" world that mainstream society pushes on people. You know the truth. And the truth is the most powerful thing in the entire world

[–]SACRlion 3 points4 points  (1 child)

You know that every letter you wrote, you might as well have just wrote "I'm your beta bitch" over and over and over again. Every little meaningful trinket you bought her had 'beta bitch' stamped on it. Every time you came to her house to cuddle her to help her sleep, your shirt said 'beta bitch'.

Dude, stop being a beta, and stop drinking. This slutbag definitely isn't worth it.

Tomorrow is going to be the best day of your life, because you're going to be without her. Swallow the Red Pill, and move on.

[–]2Bait4Me 3 points4 points  (0 children)

"Men are the “romantics pretending to be realists” and women; vice versa." - Rolo

[–]Endorsed ContributorBluepillProfessor 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I wrote two fucking letters to her explaining how I became better. I bought her fucking flowers, gifts that I know would mean a lot to her and so on. However, she ignored them

Just a few more letters and gifts and you can qualify as a stalker.

the week straight after we broke up she started sleeping with this gentleman. I don't fucking get it. Some pimply faced dude with dreadlocks and no career. What. The. Fuck.

Dude, this woman was absolutely enjoying torturing you. You want to know the end game of all this? You working the video camera while pimple face fucks her raw and you sob hysterically. Then when they are done you can clean up your princess while they make fun of your dick. That is EXACTLY how this girl is treating you. Are you unable to see that?

Im lying there with a woman a love, and she's showing me how hard she's been getting fucked straight after we broke up.

Almost all women like rapey, rough sex with lots of bruises- so long as they perceive in the hamster mind that he is high value.

You thought differently, and that is why you are so upset. That is probably also why she took such delight in showing you. This is her way of saying fuck the next girl harder if you want her to stay around.

Look up Archwinger- every unhappy married woman is a rape victim. Weirdly enough, your weak, shallow thrusts are what women perceive as "rape" and not the choking, biting, bruising, and manhandling. She thinks of you as a rapist and that is why she was getting off on torturing you! Think about it, and then move on.

You are in a much, much better position to find and create a much better relationship but why do that? Read up on Plate theory my brother. That is your short, mid, and possibly even long-term solution.

[–]Endorsed ContributorFLFTW16 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If you ever talk to her again you're a faggot. Get on with your life Christ you are 26 the world is in the palm of your hand. Feel shitty for a few days but the quicker you start having new experiences and women the sooner the pain of this experience will fade away.

Go to a museum. Go to a concert. Go fishing. Do different shit. Get out and experience life. By yourself, but always invite someone you respect and if they accompany you, great. You'll be ok. Oh and you better hit the weight room. Whiten your teeth. Practice your smile. Buy a new suit. Get a fresh haircut. Clean yourself up. Don't mope around in sweatpants eating ice cream like a female would. Conquer this.

[–]AlerioX 3 points4 points  (5 children)

Wow, this really reminds me of my own story when my exgf broke up four years ago. Well, I was 19 and not 26 years old but that doesn't matter, most of us have to go through such an experience to learn that every single one of those hoes are like this.
My ex always wanted to meet up with me right after she had been together with the drug abuser she replaced me with a month earlier. She then told me about how he gave her vine and she was totally drunk and did everything for him.
LOL, when I think about it know, 4 years later, it really shows that this bitch wanted to destroy me completely.
Then three month after the breakup I got a phonecall from her:
"Hey, it's Dilan."
"Hey, what do you want?"
"My boyfriend is at work at the moment and I am alone. He comes back in four hours and I wondered if I could use you to fill the gap!?"
"Are you fuckin kidding me? No, just leave me alone. I had a good week and I dont miss you anymore. Just don't message me again!"
"Well, okay. But please imagine how he will fuck my throat tonight, okay? I will be his dirty whore while you will be all alone. Have a nice day."

It's so obvious now that this sardistic bitch that I thought would be a unicorn wanted to slaughter the shit out of me.

[–]LifeWithTRP 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wow that's like borderline cucked man. The only thing you can do now is to cut this girl out of your life and work more on yourself.

You sound like you have emotional issues of your own if you're going back to her drunk and holding her as she tells you she's been screwing some lowlife.

I've been there man, albeit not as bad as this, but you can recover. Accept you fucked up but don't allow yourself to do it again.

Just make sure you cut this girl out completely, let go of your petty ego and pride around once "having her", that's bullshit. Your ego will let you run yourself into the ground trying to fuel it by doing dumbass shit like talking to her again. Hell, in a few months you might get a text from her and your ego will try and convince you that you can cuck her, fuck that noise bro, it is a waste of time.

Take this moment to shatter your bullshit pride and ego. You've admitted you're wrong which is good. You say you're a VC, you're a part of something bigger than yourself, run at that area of your life harder than you ever have.

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Wow. Good on you for being honest and sharing.

I don't blame you. I once bought a girl a Tiffany necklace before we even fucked...ended up never fucking. Also had another in a similar situation - her affair was 69ing with an ex-felon (he told me, not her). She too wanted me to stay and cuddle with her right after I found out. Might be a conscious manipulation tactic.

I'm not the same person now, but these things had to happen to me for me to learn.

[–]1PantsonFire1234 4 points5 points  (0 children)

However, I decided to go for my one special snowflake. objectively, she's a 5. I felt like that because she wasn't as hot as the girls I used to bang, and that she has emotional issues, she would be a loyal good girl.

Yep been there man, you think the girl would have some self knowledge and consider herself lucky with you. But nope, she believes herself to be hot stuff (sometimes) and stabs you in the back anyway. Honestly I wouldn't pay it much heed, she's obviously bellow your league and pretty low value. Typical loser slut, your ex was the equivalent of a beta.

I picked it up, it was crusty with dried cum. And lo and behold, two fucking used condoms lying right there on the ground right next to it.

So predictable, when you wrote this sentence I already guessed she only had you around for comfort because lo and behold this guy she was getting fucked by showed conflicting messages. And she was afraid he was banging some slut and didn't care about her, you were the back up.

You need to take a couple of breaths and understand that this isn't all on you. Understand that your ex showed great signs of low value which makes her equally as big of a loser as you were. Perhaps even more since she probably will get dumped after this adventure of hers. She's a 5 like you said so lets be real, she hopes he will commit to her but in all actuality he only considers her good enough for a rough fuck.

The worst part was all the bruises on her body man. I asked her what happened and she told me the guy was really rough.

I've heard this in the past, I got no idea why women find it necessary to say shit like that. In my case it was in the vain attempt to get me angry and cause a fight so I could receive all the blame for the bad behavior. The reason she didn't let you fuck her that hard was because he had already committed, while this guy is playing hard to get.

I dated a girl once I was hardly attracted to which made the sex meh. She constantly asked me if I enjoyed it and told me I could do anything to her. I had zero interest to do so because she didn't arouse me in that way. She was chasing me hard at the time and wanted me badly..

..eventually we got semi-together and she stopped saying all that stuff, which was a great relief to me because I didn't want to hurt her feelings telling her she was not that hot. Eventually she pulled the same stunt your ex did and gleefully told me how she had been fucked rough by some guy and that she just didn't have that desire for me.

This was the same girl that begged me to do anything to her if I only would commit later on. Which she probably completely forget about or hamstered away. So don't be fooled man, your ex is just trying to harpoon another guy and when she fails it's all on her.

[–]Mrm1ster 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I never have posted here or commented but been a lurker for about 5 months now. After reading this, I felt inclined to finally post. I did some of the same things you did with the flowers and letters and such when my ex left me. Reading this I was like "Oh shit, here's a guy in the same boat as me." Then I read the shit with the condoms and lingerie and all I can say is wow man. You're situation is way more fucked up than mine. Fuck that bitch and stay the hell away from her sorry miserable ass. What a fucking cunt face she is. Keep doing you man and make yourself #1 priority. I now have 2 women compeating for me and my love and it's fucking wonderful. Didn't happen till after respecting myself and reading TRP daily. Keep your head up man. I think it's great that you shared your story for the new guys floating around here.

[–]InsurmountableMind 3 points4 points  (0 children)

AWALT. Hypergamy wins again!

Just remember there are billions of women in the world, she's not special. Neither are you. It's just how it fucking goes.

I've started to realize with my most recent plate that women are all the same, some behave better than others, but mostly it's just the same. Keep your head up high.

[–]bp000 18 points18 points [recovered]

Here is what you need to do:

First and foremost quit fucking crying. It is over, move on, do not answer her calls when she tries to call you at some point, do not follow up with her. Permanently delete her from your life. SHE CHEATED ON YOU FUCKING NEXT THAT BITCH.

Now, I want you to think about what made her cheat in the first place. The first thing I'd say is clearly you didn't hold frame so she lost respect for you. Secondly, it sounds like, she dead bed roomed you or at least made it duty sex instead of enjoyable sex. To me it sounds like all the things you did to initially get her changed into all the things that make a relationship fail when a guy get's comfortable.

Regroup, keep reading, learn from your mistakes, start working out again, and get it together. The faster you do all of this, the faster life gets better. Don't procrastinate it.

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[–]TB3o3 6 points7 points  (3 children)

Females? Males are 3x more likely to commit suicide, and are way more likely to not acknowledge it to people who can help them.

He can cry as much as he wants to until he actually gets over it and moves on with his life, and getting real with TRP.

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[–]TB3o3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

More so how supressive and insulating men can be with there emotions. I mean, you beat the dead horse on AWALT all you want, but try and not distract from the fact men are the the ones worth talking about. Wellbeing > opposite sex.

[–]Osoto_Gari 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We ended up watching Netflix in bed, just like old times.. You know? Cuddling and shit as if nothing happened. And then I took a fucking glimpse to the side of the bed and I see her lingerie lying on the ground. I picked it up, it was crusty with dried cum. And lo and behold, two fucking used condoms lying right there on the ground right next to it.

Two used condoms, not two condom packets. Far worse IMHO. She planned this out. Two used condoms next to her bed, invites him to watch TV on her bed knowing he'll see them and get a huge kick in the guts

[–]FrameWalker 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If it makes you feel any better all women are like that. Ltr is hardcore no doubt about it

[–]RedShock1 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yep AWALT. Now become the most red-pill man you were supposed to be

[–]TheRedStoic 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You dodged a bullet, learned a lesson, and only had your heart stomped. (Yes your fault by your own admission and my agreement)

But youdodged a bullet, learned a lesson and only got your heart stomped! That in itself is awesome. No divorce rape. No baby anchor. No "till death wait, got railed by the postman and I'm taking half"

You got away young, doing well, and in charge. It'll hurt, but now you know and you had very little taken from you to learn something immense.

Hang in there, go fuck something hot again, then something hotter than that, then some of her friends. You'll feel great.

And yeah, block/remove her from all contact. It'll reduce the need to drink. You've been around her finger long enough - don't you think it's time to stop?

[–]PoofyPossum666 4 points5 points  (0 children)

•Block her. Phone, social media, the works. Have any friends that are also friends with her? Distance yourself for the time being. •Stop drinking. Let yourself feel the pain, don't hide from it. When you have the urge to drink, work out instead. Any kind of work out will do.Monk Mode - Activate!

[–]pcadrian 2 points2 points [recovered]

Be the guy that fucks. Happens man. The chick I'm seeing right now... she left her fiance, calls me the same day, and we bang. And a week later she tells me how I'm the most amazing man. I don't think she shed a tear for her ex.

This is completely normal if a woman meets an alpha after a beta (flowers... come on man, I can't remember the last time I got flowers for a woman, must have been 2 years now). The tingles are so overpowering she forgets about the old guy in a heart beat. Read the rational male, particularly the war bride section. It's really hard to believe until you are witnessing it first hand, either as the alpha or as the heartbroken beta.

Realize all women are capable of this. Don't hate it, become the fucking animal and the gentle lover all in one, so the next guy will seem like a boy in comparison to you.

This chick tells me how with her ex, she needed many days between sex because it was bad, there was no desire, she literally would force herself to do it. Where with me we fuck 3 times a night and this is completely new to her. She says she doesn't need to get in the mood. I want what I want, I come to take it, and her body is just ready. Her words.I don't doubt it. But I know if I slack off, I will suffer the same fate. I've come to terms with that, with the reality that I need to be on top of the game at all times.

Become me.

[–]Luce_Bree 6 points6 points [recovered]

I have to admit this was tough to read. And confusing.

You claim you've done well with women, you've claimed this girl is only moderately attractive, you know that this sub exists and therefore ostensibly are familiar with TRP philosophy, yet this encounter had devastated you.

Was this your first "love"? Why were you so attached to this girl? I would understand it if it was the first cut, which is always deepest, but you claim to be more experienced than that.

[–]redpillren 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Feel for you man. Been there. Lift some heavy metal when you sober up. The iron never lies, unlike them hoes. It always makes sense.

[–]TyrannyVengeance 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Man..... You really need to read no more Mr. nice guy. If a bitch ever asked me to come back to her house after I stumbled upon two used condoms on her floor I wouldn't even respond.

Here's the thing it's not about self respect technically you two aren't together (though I could make an argument to myself that it was) , as it is said here often. She isn't yours its just your turn.

What it is about is principle. What kind of a nasty skank can't fucking throw away used condoms and just leaves them laying around?

She sounds like a walking yeast infection of a human.

[–]other_worlds 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel for you, and I hope you remember this moment for a long time. The emotional pain will fade, but remember this low point.

At times like that, let her bruises keep her company. She's using you, and has no respect for you. Rubbing it in your face like that, what a sickening display that must have been.

Don't rage. Don't pity yourself. Do add to your understanding. Just let bad consequences of people's actions take place. Its not your job to save women from themselves.

[–]salty_syrup 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Man up dude. Be the fuck buddy, not the cuddle buddy.

[–]7SM 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The three of be you beta turned alphas don't get is you have to constantly work unless you exude all things alpha.

This is a frame of mind and personality type, not a physical attribute such as being a jacked meatbag.

Your problem with women stems from what are called "covert contracts", why are they covert you ask? Because you the man, are too much of a pussy to talk about needs, wants, desires, openly an honestly.

Most men want a fuck toy, but a loyal and sweet and charming one, tell her this, if she walks, oh well. You are the ultimate decider of your fate. Make it. Don't be Lamar Odom, a mediocre NBA star who turned to crack and alcohol because of his Kardashian whore of a wife destroyed his male psyche.

Don't be a statistic.

[–]stoicismexpress 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Holy shit this was a particularly bad one...

[–]Forcetobereckonedwit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hurts like a muthuhfuckuh, and it will haunt you for a few months. Get ready for those waves of shit to grip your feelz and stomp on them. When that happens REMEMBER that those are just chemicals in your bloodstream and you just have to ride them out. They are not reality. They are not you. When you felt them earlier you thought it was love and she was a snowflake and blah blah blah. Wrong. Now you have to deal with the hangover, and just like a booze hangover, it will fade and disappear eventually. They are crushing feelings but they are like the flu. Your body will process them and they'll be gone and you'll rebuild.

You fucked up.

Cry like a baby for a few days and then stand the fuck up and start the rebuild.

Just think, you could have gotten married and been raising Chad's babies before you learned how "special" Nancy was.

Glad you posted instead of doing yourself more self harm.

We're here for you.

[–]InformalCriticism 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good work, man. You got it all out of the way by 26? Jesus, you have so much time to enjoy life. You better wake up feeling like a million bucks, because for every mistake you made, and you made plenty, you learned a lesson from each.

You have a wealth of first-hand knowledge and experience, now.

[–]chahmana 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fuck man, I've never felt so sad after reading any post. The sociopath in me too felt sad for you. May life bring you happiness brother. Peace

[–]forthegiggles1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry bro but "Nancy" is the one that fucked up the relationship. You acted weak, but we all make mistakes and sometimes that shows that you are more of a man than most. It shows her true colors. You have a community here that has your back btw. Either never talk to her again or start chasing other tail and let that destroy her soul. She deserves a world of hurt and will soon regret fucking up the chance of being with a guy of your caliber. Eventually it will catch up to her if shes that narrow minded to only search for the next temporary high.

Edit- I'm also close to Boston btw

[–]TWYW 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're overreacting quite a bit man. It's normal because it's recent but trust me, the whole situation is laughable. You will laugh about it in a couple of months. You're young, you have a great career and you must have a good SMV if you never had trouble with girls.

She's a 5 when still young, imagine what her SMV can be years from now.

Really, this is nothing.

[–]Turquoise_HexagonSun 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was with the same chick for 5 years, and dealt with pretty much the same shit as you. It gets easier, man. You just gotta realize the ONLY person that will ever be there for you is YOURSELF. Be dedicated to yourself. Welcome to the best realization you'll ever make.

Also, realize that if you love again it can be gone in an instant. It's like a job, put yourself into it 100% but know deep down you can get "fired" or "laid off" at a moment's notice, so prepare for that.

[–]madethewrongmistake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, you're telling my story man. Except you forgot the part where I was sitting next to her with my whole extended family at Christmas dinner and felt pressure building in my prostate until I couldn't sit and was getting visibly ill in front of everyone and then left that night for the emergency room. I didn't know what the symptoms were, but they did.... And she sat there perfectly innocent, six days into her course of antibiotics.

They don't give a fuck about you.

[–]ntvirtue 2 points3 points  (1 child)

26 yr old Venture capitalist?

[–]TelemachusRising 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Low SMV bitches are SMV vampires of the guys they put down. They're never grateful to have a guy out of their league (and yes, there are leagues); they want to bring you down to raise themselves. This will occur not only with great discrepancies in looks, but also in intelligence, social standing, education or career success. They strive to rise in ranking among their girlfriends, and the self esteem carcasses of you and your ilk are what they build that rickety ass ladder out of. Be glad you learned this so young.

[–]IronMeltsinmyHands 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude, she wanted you to be miserable! She showed you those text messages because she wanted to see you devastated! This girl is a 5 but she is pure fucking evil!

And she didn't let you 'thrust too hard?' what the fuck! Homeboy!

FUUUUUUUUCK!!! This ruined my night. Fucking hell. Learn your mother fucking lesson!

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)


What is this?

[–]theBreadSultan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I mostly read this sub because in truth it's boys learning how to be men. It's somewhat facinating.

You must be in a pretty bad place right now Rugga, thats sucks, that burns, and it will burn.

The burn is not bad. It's there for a reason. spend a few days and just wallow in it - play moody music. listen to some moody breakup music - murder some n00bs on your favourite game.

let yourself feel yourself and let the understanding and realisiations percolate into your mind as they naturally want to. you don't need to force it.

Also take a moment to reflect on what caused you, and led you to acting in a way towards her that was clearly bang out of order. I don't know what you did - but suffice to say, I can confidently say it was no way to treat "the mother of your children" - which is what we ultimately chose women to be.

that place where you behaved in that way was a dark place. you need to see what happened in your relationship that took you there and identify the red flags. Do not be that dickhead. there is no excuse for losing your shit like that.

also - it is highly unlikely that she did the things she did, consiously and specifically to hurt you. I read it that she wanted absolution. but it matters not. she is no good for you. clearly. she might be a good woman (and I don't for a minute believe she was a 5) but you and her, where you are at right now in life is just not to be.

you didn't fuck up - you made the mistakes that you needed to make to be the awesome man that you are in the process of becoming

take courage young padawan - things will get better. don't go too deep into TRP - but do work on your self-esteem. (thats what any of the useful advice on here comes down to - is have self-esteem and don't loose sight of it - be the prize)

your post was genuinely painful to read - my heart goes out to you.

it will be rough, but it will be ok. it's no place for anyone here to advise...but in truth you probably are better off without her. centre yourself. and no...not all women are like that....recognise the signs of the many that are -

its gonna be ok bro - your one step closer to the happy one :-) - who is the happy one because you understand how to find the happy - and keep the happy the happy one.

General rule number 1 of women...a good woman brings out the best in you. If she starts to bring out bad things in you... internal (self-doubt - worry - bs etc) or external (bad behaviour - losing friends - dropping focus) then jump out.

the commitment is yours to give...

here is some music to get you started on your wallow - self reflection phase: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yfx5vS7146I&t=26m58s

[–]p00pey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mighty fine TRP pr0n, mighty fine...

[–]ser0402 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At least you have the Red Sox

[–]AzzyMcGee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been there. I wanted to kill the bitch. But I just left it all. I actually broke up with her. Cheating came out, i said "let's work past this" but I couldn't get past it. She kept treating me like shit and I believed she would cheat again and justify it like she already had. So only a few days after agreeing to "work with eachother and see what happens" I called her up, said "Its done", and she seemed shocked. Her voice quivered "Y-you... really wanna do this over the phone?" "Yea" I said. Then I said goodbye and hung up. I felt free. My night went extremely well after that.

It was only in the following ltr and breakup that I lost my balance. It was a fucked up relationship. Lots of gay sex, leather, costumes, orgies, drugs, real fucked up shit. After I got away from that I kind of lost myself. Haven't worked steady, haven't kept up with friends, etc. Maybe I'll find a way to give a shit again maybe I won't. Time will tell for sure.

[–]MeatCurtainRod 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Much like most lurkers here, everyone thinks it will never happen to them. To those of us who came here because of walking your same path, we can't iterate enough the warnings on TRP. I would love to say your example is textbook case of why you should never trust women, and ALWAYS beware of red flags.

Chin up, brother, a mark of a true man is to keep climbing no matter how shitty of a hole you're in.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

AWALT, there isn't anything else I can say.

[–]Neroky 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes life hits us totally unexpected right where it hurts. We get broken, but the purpose of it is not to harm us. It is so we can pick our pieces up and rebuilt us into a stronger version. By getting hurt, we get to recognize our weakness and eliminate it.

Don´t run away from the pain. Embrace it.

When one door closes, another one opens.

Also don´t stay/get Jaded. There is a difference between Jaded and Stoicsism.

Good Luck.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well the good news is, you hit rock bottom.

Onward and upward from here pal.

Also, for future reference.. Keep your career and financial life confidential and separate from your dating life. Don't dress in clothes that scream "I'm pretty fucking wealthy" if you want to avoid ho's like Nancy.

[–]uniquevoid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy shit women are evil. I feel you bro, a girl I was dating once told me after we had already broken up that the dick of the new guy reminded her of mine

Fucking abusive human beings

[–]yallapapi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jesus man where's your dignity? Next her and move on

[–]JohnnyRaz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The fact that youre this emotional and/or surprised about it...I dont think you swallowed the pill quite all the way yet

[–]namelesstext 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jesus. To be honest, this reads like a troll post. If its true, man...sorry.

Before RP, I dated what I thought was a reformed promiscuous chick. (Think meet and fucked several guys off of a college sports forum.) Even went so far as defending her to others that knew her past stating shit like, "Nah, you don't know her, she's not like that any more." HA. I found out she cheated and dumped her right away. NEVER tolerate that shit. It later came out from a mutual buddy that the guy I found out about was her FIFTH guy she cheated on me with. Its all a FR for an other time but... AWALT. She's now about to marry that cuck. Haha, good luck guy.

AWALT. Burn it into your memory. She has you as her emotional tampon now. FUCK THAT. Sounds like you have a good foundation professionally, and not far from working on yourself to start crushing it. But do it for YOU. Your pedestal should always be higher than pussy's.

[–]shhRP 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Daddy's money couldn't get you out of this one, huh?

[–]LOST_TALE 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Turn to yourself? Your best love friend and acquaintance!

You're so lucky. It could have been so much worse! You could have married her!

[–]DrHolz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't worry Bro. Stay strong. We're there for you if you're feeling lonely and just need to talk.

[–]TheGovernorPR 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, bro. Drop her ass from your life completely, and start brand new. She was getting off on you knowing that she was fucking some other dude, stay way from that bitch.

[–]trpobserver 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you sure this woman isn't actually Satan?

[–]singleandgrateful 1 point2 points  (0 children)

LOL. Are we going to pretend like OP didn't cheat on his girl WHILE they were in a relationship, and just focus on the fact that she slept with another guy AFTER the relationship was over?

Reverse the genders. Would the outrage be the same?

[–]-The-Pussy-Whisperer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You sound like a little bitch.

[–]Fidditch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just read an unmitigated dumpster fire.


[–]SpinPlates 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is one sadistic bitch you got there man... be glad you didn't marry her

[–]nointernetforyou 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Never ever reward a female by getting back with her after she cheats.

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[–]Aphoc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I knew a woman like that

Excuse my writing as my computer can't spell check for shit

she started out with an acquaintance of mine called Danny, then when their relationship went down hill (mostly from her being a bitch aching to betafy Danny and assume control) she fucked a friend of mine called Matt a day after he broke off with his girlfriend. (Who was also a bitch)

after 2 months she texted me about some shit, can't remember what, but I poked her with my IDGAF attitude and asked her if she wanted a threesome. She did.

Now, I got to admit. Matt was more of a friend then an acquaintance, but I have already lost one friend from telling him a bitch is a bitch. So I just rolled with it.

It was one of my darker periods in life.


she was a 5. 6 on a good day with makeup. but she had a wild and dark undertone. and I wasn't gonna say stop to those selfies she sent me.

I guess I was kinda turned on that she wanted me while being with another guy. Fucked up. But true.

At one point. Matt wanted to do a party, she texted that she had frilly clothes on that could easily be pulled up. It was still hot outside so it wouldn't be a problem.

But I had other plans, other girls.

She got pissed, broke up with Matt. Told him some shit. Disturbing shit

Turns out she just wanted to lead him along because she got turned out of him giving her everything she wanted, and I being the Alpha she dreamed about

a few days after breaking up with Matt, she got together with some old ex, and got married after a month.

Beware around ugly girls, they're the worst.

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