tl;dr - Unconditional Positive Regard is the basic tenent of mental health first aid, crisis interventions, medical treatment, psychotherapy and counselling. Developing it for yourself so that you don't require external validation is the key to frame. Let's begin...
Whether you are someone in an emotional crisis, in an altered level of consciousness or someone getting some counselling for their gambling problems there is one thing that the patient needs - a positive spin on everything they tell you, even if its not right away.
Someone's breaking down, telling you how they were abused as a kid and have been a prostitute for drugs since they were thirteen? You say "wow, most people in that situation never even see a way out but it sounds like you want a change, that's amazing!"
Something so simple as unconditional positive regard can change someone's life immediately and most of the time they won't even know it. The chances are that the day you give someone their first dose of unconditional positive regard is the day that their life really starts getting better, so let's see what happens when you give it to yourself?
Let's say you're feeling guilty about spending the whole weekend on WoW and you you swear you're quitting this week. "Wow thats pretty amazing, how many millions of people out there are hopelessly addicted and have no idea they can even have a better life, but here you are ready to try again at quitting a habit. That's awesome!"
You were out at a bar, you had a crack at a girl and she didn't bite, even though you have been working out, looking better, studying more, working harder, reading red pill and holding frame... you're feeling like a loser... Well motherfucker there are like only two hundred thousand red pillers on the entire planet and even fewer than that are trying as hard as you are! You're awesome! Cmon man you got this!
I'm sure you guys are smart enough to adapt this to your personal situation. Pass this on boys, and next time someone is feeling like shit, spin them in to some unconditional positive regard and maybe save a life.