A story of ~4.5 years in the making
I hoped that my first post on RP would be about my own journey; it will come though. In the meantime, I have a story for you guys about a friend of mine that I cannot help but share with the community that has helped me in so many ways.
My friend "Mark" is one of the nicest, most humble, and virtuos human beings you could come across. We've known each other for over 7 years. When he was 19, he got accepted into school of dentistry, and the man was ecstatic.
For a while before that, he had a crush on this girl, "Sarah", whom he would constantly try to get with, but to no avail. On Sarah's part, she was never direct in her rejection, and this is what made Mark abit insecure about the whole situation.
Come a few months before the start of his college, he went to Sarah, and told her plainly and directly that he was intersted in her, interested in persuing a relationship with her, and wanted her to go to his college, and see if things work out between them living in the same city. Sarah was direct in her answer this time:
Mark, I think you are one of the nicest people ever, I don't want to lose our friendship. Maybe we could try it later. I can see myself with you in 5 years, but not now.
Needless to say, this was a devastating blow to Mark's ego. His entire demeanor changed for the worse, till our gang basically grouped up on him and gave him the macho/bro treatment, that he needs to snap out of it, that the bitch is the loser in this equation, that she doesn't deserve him. Thankfully, he got the picture fast, put his feelings away and focused on what is to come: college.
The first 2 years of college where a nightmare for him, in the sense that he had to continuously study, which meant keeping hobbies and social contacts to a bare minimum; and it paid off.
Come the next years of his college, he didn't have that much pressure put on, so he started taking dance classes, hitting the gym, developing a nice social circle with his colleagues, mentors and chief doctors. He took charge of his life, and developed nicely as a man.
He will be graduating at the top of his class in December, aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaand look who just came back into the picture! It’s Sarah you guys!! Last saturday, she came to the city where Mark and I live, on the charge that she is visiting one of her girlfriends. Mark told me she contacted him through FB and she asked if he had time to see her, after she is finished taking care of a few things with her friend. He obliged, saying she could meet him at the local restaurant-bar, where he would be hanging out with a few friends. She argued that it would be nice if they could be alone and talk. Mark didn't care for the idea, so she had to go with what he gave her.
Now I see that Mark has grown emotionally, aka he no longer cares about Sarah, and views her as an infatuation-episode of his past, nothing more.
We are already at the bar: Mark, myself and one more guy from the old gang, and 5 of his colleagues from school, 4 of which are bomb shell blonds with the tighest of bodies. Sarah came a few minutes late, but she finds us and comes towards us.
It seems that she took on a few pounds, though nothing extreme. Her skin complexion is abit darker, prolly tanning or sun bathing or whatnot. But most importantly were the eyes; that youthful glint that I remember, holy fuck it's no longer there, even at ~23.
We all started talking and joking and laughing and drinking and eating, having a good night, yet I can see that Sarah had abit of discomfort. She seemed to try to strike a "real" conversation with Mark, but he woud brush it off nicely and continue making insider jokes between dentists or tell some other random stuff, pretty much anything to keep the mood lit well.
Mark excuses himself to the bathroom, and , as you expected, so does Sarah after a while. We in the group are still having a blast, but it seems that Sarah and Mark are taking their sweet time to come back. Roughly 15 minutes later, we see Sarah coming to our table with tears in her eyes. She drops money for what she ordered, and leaves the bar with no word. Mark comes towards us all chill and relaxed, and he takes a seat with a subtle smile and says "so what's up." A girl from the group says "well, YOU tell us what's up." He shrugged it off, saying it's nothing important, and we continue with our night.
Later, when the group dissipates to go home, Mark and I walk to our part of the city. I ask him what went on about. He said she came to see if they would come together, and he basically gave her the same answer back, in that he wishes to keep things platonic, and has no interest for the romantic with her. She tried to twist and tweak as much as she can, but Mark didn't budge. He even remarked on the same things that I observed (weight and skin), and said that she has changed for the worst in the last few years, and that he deserves better.
Theory: Your long Journey
*(Most) women do not wish to be part of your journey, but they gladly wait for you at the finish-line.
*If you play an instrument, it doesn't enter their mind that you dedicated months upon months for your craft. If you have a ripped body, they don't think about the hardship you took upon yourself when hitting the gym. All their perspective revolves around the end-product.
*Sarah didn't care to get with Mark who was starting to get a grasp on his life, since this was probably her time to shine on the CC.
*Instead, she went for the "more complete" Mark when her social value started to decline and his going through the roof, trying to see if she can score her own BB in him.
Reading TRP has helped me put so many things into perspective, and hopefully I can give back to this great community as well. I wonder if Mark is a TRP reader like me.....