Summary: While religion can be a good thing, it has also been weaponized by progressives and feminists to shame men into submission. Don't let religion keep you from becoming the best man you can be.
Full thread here.
Now I don't want to get into a holy war here on TRP, so this thread is not so much an approval or condemnation of religion in general. Just a note to point out that feminists are slowly infiltrating religious establishments like they are everywhere else, and turning these into tools to further estrogenize society. Watch out.
A great example can be found in the Christianity subreddit. For those of you who go there, you'll know the sub is full of the pastiest, wimpiest, most liberal pansies on the face of the planet. This is a sub where the number of "rainbow colored cross" flairs (yeah, you know what that means) outnumbers regular users. This is the sub that refuses to stand by its own Biblical passages if they go against modern society. It's full of losers who can't even defend their own religion from progressivism.
Say hi to OP, the newest loser of the bunch.
I need some Christian advice. I've done plenty of reading about this on the internet, but it's clear the advice out there isn't very good. Me and my wife are both christians so "get a divorce" just isn't an option.
When I met my wife she was just as overweight as she is now, but it didn't really bother me that much. Or at least there were plenty of other things about the relationship that compensated for it. And since we weren't married yet sex wasn't really a part of it, so it didn't matter if I wasn't mad with desire for her body. And even as the relationship got more physical (making out, still no sex) it didn't matter because it was still all so new. It was still fun.
Now we're married less than a year, and the physical part of our relationship is barely there. She's always the one who gets things started. Sometimes she complains that I don't take charge and make it happen more often.
Eating healthy and being in shape is important to me. I thought it was important to her when we were dating. We went to the gym together and talked about how much easier it'd be to eat healthier once we were married and living together. We could cook healthy food for each other. Then we got married and it never happened. I cook something healthy and she comes home with fast food. She barely comes with me to the gym anymore. The only time we ever really spend time together is sitting on the couch watching TV.
I often covet. Sometimes when I'm out I can't help but look at the other women who are all in shape, or the couples working out at the gym together, or when I see couples jogging down the street together. I can't even get her to take a walk with me. She's always tired, or doesn't feel good, or stressed, or something. And it makes me think of all the junk food she puts into her body.
All that said, it's not like I'm not attracted to her at all. She's pretty. And even though she's overweight (technically obese) I can still tell that if she lost some weight (about 70lb would be perfect) she'd have EXACTLY the body type that I love the most. I wouldn't be able to keep my hands off her. That's what I want, and I know that's what she wants, but she's the one who has to decide she wants to put in some work. I'm doing everything I can, or at least I think I am.
Years of being brainwashed at church has convinced this poor sap that if his wife balloons up like the Hindenberg and his penis hasn't gotten hard in a decade... that's his fault, apparently. That he's not a good enough husband. That he's evil for checking out other, hotter, younger women.
And the commenters are no better. Here's a few gems:
Get marriage counselling. Seriously.
The number one advice on any Reddit thread. Go throw $200 at a counselor who got a degree in Gender Studies and will just talk to you for an hour. Yeah, that should solve everything.
It sounds like your wife may be depressed. On top of marriage counseling, I'd do some digging on that front as well, undiagnosed mental illness can devastate a relationship. Best of luck to you, I hope you two get everything figured out.
Hamsters rolling hard here. Trying to find some kind of explanation to absolve the wife of any responsibility... she must have depression! Great excuse. Surely it can't be that she just doesn't have the willpower to get on the treadmill and eat healthy. No, no, must be some psychiatric disorder that's out of her control.
First, you can't tell her you don't find her attractive, or otherwise use her lack of attractiveness to you as a motivational factor; she almost definitely has self-esteem issues, and that will just make them worse. Likewise, I'd avoid religion-based approaches for improving the situation (e.g "Your body is a temple").
This is a fucking pathetic world we live in if a wife isn't motivated by the desire to sexually please her husband. But there's beta marriage for you.
Don't let religion convince you that you're some sort of martyr and need to put up with women's shit. This guy would benefit from some solid dread-gaming and getting swole, not marriage counseling and praying and tip-toeing to avoid hurting wifey's feelings.
Don't be this guy. First of all, don't get married. Secondly, if you do get married don't let belief in a higher power turn you into some sort of feminized subservient creature.
TL;DR: Religion has been taken over by feminists and progressives, and is actively anti-male these days. Don't fall into the trap and let it destroy your self esteem.