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Red Pill TheoryHow To Have Time For Everything You Love And Achieve Long-term Success: Learn the Hidden Truth About Time (self.TheRedPill)

submitted by Snufek

Achieving Success

 

Do you feel the urge to achieve success as fast as it is humanly possible? To have a 6 pack in three months or to learn Spanish in a week? To fuck 8s and 9s, well, if not right now then certainly at a party tomorrow?

 

Do you want success asap?

 

You should.

 

That burning desire is an invaluable tool in a man’s arsenal. It moves us forward. This is the spark that makes us start things RIGHT NOW and not someday in the future. But let me ask you:

 

Are you content with your ability to finish things?

 

If you say: ‘I will do it!’, do you really?

 

If you are like me and countless other young men… you don’t. That was the biggest problem of my life. I’d take on new things with a tremendous passion only to dump them a month or two later. And I’d always mock myself for it.

 

I loved those things. But I lacked the mindset to keep doing them.

 

Let me share with you the secret about time, which helped me change my life. Hopefully, it will change yours too.

 


 

The Dichotomy of Time®

 

‘But the difficulty is to teach the multitude that something can be both true and untrue at the same time.’ – Arthur Schopenhauer

 

To fully understand the meaning of what I want to share with you, you must open your mind. The secret is both true and false. But it is the Truth. And as always, it is incredibly simple. Here it is:

 

Fear each passing second, but fret not: the time is endless.

 


 

How to understand it?

You have no time and all the time in the world. Your dreams cannot wait, but they must wait. You must take action now, but you must take it always.

 

It’s about how you perceive time. The society, calendars and clocks, fooled us into thinking there is past, present and future. Whereas in reality only NOW is true.

 

The past and the future exist only in your mind. They are projections.

 

If you would like to read more about it, check out: The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

 


 

How to use it to your advantage?

Let’s get back to your goals. Would you like to be jacked? If yes, the only time to do something about it is now. Repeat it every day. It’s that simple.

 

Want to play the piano? Practice 1 hour each day.

Want to be better with women? DO. SOMETHING. ABOUT. IT. EACH. DAMN. DAY.

 

Gentleman, it’s not rocket science. Only NOW is real. That means if you are not doing something to improve your life RIGHT NOW – you are doing nothing. Please, don’t be a stupid slobbering kid about it. I’m not telling you to deadlift 5x5 three times a day. I’m not telling you to approach women 8 hours a day. If you think so, you missed the point.

 

All I want you to understand is this: You have no time and all the time in the world.

 

The future is now. Do something about it.

 

‘Day by day, nothing changes... but when we look back, everything is different’ - J.R.R. Tolkien


[–]hbPUA 134 points135 points  (19 children)

The act of doing. Creates abundance of time (flow state).

The more I practice. The easier it becomes.

The less focused I am on the outcome (limited time). The more relaxed I am and the results come more effortlessly.

The act of getting one thing done well each day. Leaves me with the question, "how can I improve until next time?"

And the satisfaction of one step closer towards my goal.

[–]koolkat182 21 points22 points  (2 children)

Wow. That hit me like a brick in the face. I'm going to stop focusing on the future.

[–][deleted] 13 points14 points  (1 child)

Read the book he mentioned (The Power of NOW)

[–]dingman58 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Mind's eye opening book right there. Truly powerful

[–][deleted] 17 points18 points  (12 children)

Yes. Inproving 0.5 percent a day will make you 100 percent better in 200 days.

[–]theONE843663 13 points14 points  (11 children)

Realistically speaking tho, I don't think the improvement curve is perfectly linear. I think it's more logarithmic in nature as the law of diminishing returns should hold up. But wtf you can improve way more that 0.5% a day easy.

[–]wax_idiotic 10 points11 points  (4 children)

Yup.

Learning some small part about a certain subject, like learning how to draw eyelashes well instead of just the whole eye, with learning how to draw an entire face being the ultimate goal is a good example, I think.

When I had to learn Japanese out of necessity (long story), I used a method called All Japanese All The Time, where everything was a learning opportunity. Even just learning one word could open up a whole new channel of communication for me. I don't even think you could measure certain skills with percentages. You just gotta keep doing the thing.

[–]theONE843663 8 points9 points  (1 child)

Lemme guess... You are into anime hardcore and don't wanna admit it? No shame bruh everyone does their thing as long as you stay with the red mindset, it's all good lmao! (Relax just kidding tho)

[–]maxofreddit 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Would LOVE to hear your experience with AJATT... I've been SO close to doing his Chinese program (silver spoon) a couple times, but it's been just enough out of financial reach, that I never pulled the trigger...

Was it worth it?

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[–]wax_idiotic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup, I would recommend it. Got me to learn it well enough to hold a job as a technical translator and go to a Japanese-speaking school.

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    [–]theONE843663 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Yeh apparently 10,000 hours is what you need to put in for mastery.

    [–]Expectations1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    Its not even logarithmic, its like several logarithmic curves that end on plateaus that you need to push past followed by my more logarithmic curves

    [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    I used that number as an example because that's how improvement in jiu jitsu works for most people at the beginning. It really depends on the activity and the person. But bottom line is improvement every day is the goal, no matter how small

    [–]Kolbykilla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    The key is it doesn't matter if its .1, 5, or 30% per day, just keeping working on improving, whatever your goal is. Be consistent about it and don't worry about the past or the present, worry about what you're doing right now today, and ask yourself if what you're doing today is gonna make you improve tomorrow, next week, next month, 5 years from now ect.

    I highly suggesting reading the Slight Edge, it really opened my eyes to this fact, and how the society we live in ingrains it in our brain that we need instant gratification, when we don't. There is no big epiphany moment in our lives where we become successful, but yet a gradual series of small moments that bring us closer to whatever we are trying to accomplish.

    [–]theONE843663 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    This is good stuff right here man. Esp the outcome independence part is so true. Wen I feel the flow, I don't give a shit and everything ends up great somehow.

    [–]JackGetsIt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    This is basically the thesis of Thomas Sterner's 'The Practicing Mind'

    [–]SnarkyFella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Great comment. You are 100% correct.

    [–]1ShallITinder 27 points28 points  (8 children)

    This thread is part of the reason why I strongly advocate that younger guys not have this overly optimistic outlook for life in their 30s. I don't like how the red pill pedestalizes life at that stage, it makes these guys think it's all going to work out when it really isn't if they get lazy.

    Your 20s are the time to go at it full of energy and pursue your dreams and life experiences with relentless aggression.

    [–]Franklinstain 15 points16 points  (6 children)

    If you don't do it right in your 20s you find redpill in your 30s and think "Wow, I pretty much wasted a decade".

    [–]Ivetakenthepill 8 points9 points  (2 children)

    Well that's depressing for guys in their 30's, don't you think?

    The way I see it is that if your life experience led you to TRP in any way, then it's absolutely not wasted time. I'm in my late twenties but if I didn't get burned as a blue pill fool in my early/mid twenties then I wouldn't have the perspective I have now. I'm thankful for all of it.

    If I found TRP earlier I can't tell you what would be different, but one thing I see on here is a lot of posts of a young guys who don't really get it. Some do, a bunch don't.

    It's great to learn from stories and advice you find here at age 17, but until you live through the shit and feel the agony of deception, until you get your world and ingrained beliefs turned upside down, it's (probably) difficult to appreciate the true nature of what this place means and how crucial it is for men everywhere and every age.

    [–]Franklinstain 3 points4 points  (0 children)

    As I go deeper into self reflection, I don't see it as wasted so much as misguided. However, when I first found my way here I was pissed on several levels. Example? I have two college degrees, and I hated both careers. Now I work as a bouncer at a bar while I "figure it out". The money isn't terrible, but I never would have imagined at 20 that I would find myself wondering what the fuck I was doing at 33. I wasn't ever a total blue, I never had trouble meeting women and getting laid, but I also ended up in a lot of friend zone moments in my early 20s before "lets be friends" became "I am ok with you never talking to me again" to my ears. But I had to find out the hard way that unicorns don't exist. Any guys in their late teens or 20s that have already found their way here should consider themselves lucky. I don't even see it as just a way to get laid, I see this as an overall way to get what you want, period.

    Waiting around for things to change is like standing in the rain wondering why your cock is so cold and wishing for a sunny day instead of going inside.

    [–]RPFlame 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Well that's depressing for guys in their 30's, don't you think?

    It is, as I'm 35 and I know that it's real. But you can tell "if I don't do things right now, I'm pretty much fucked for the next decade".

    He only added numbers to put the time frame from 20's to 30's into perspective. Better to learn and apply red pill late, than never.

    [–]afkb39sdfb 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    Early thirties here. Yep.

    All those tomorrows, next week, next month, next year... add up. Ten years from now you'll wish you started today.

    [–]evolveto 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    I found it at 30's, but I'll be in top 5 % of the men in my 40s with TRP wisdom. What if , I would never have found TRP ? What if, I would remain a beta and thought the same thing, that living a top life is not for me, it is how it is, not in my hands.. bla bla being a pussy!

    [–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

    Well 30s do seem like the best decade for a man with the caveat that he spent his 20s making something of himself. Plenty of guys or rather most guys peaked in their 20s because they squandered their time on unproductive activities, and are burned out and ready to "settle down" in their 30s

    [–]Troll_Name 20 points21 points  (2 children)

    "Champions are made in the gym."

    "The teacher can show you the door but you must walk through it."

    "The road to success is paved with failure."

    "Genius is 1% inspiration and 99% perspiration."

    [–]Eyeswears 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    “What is called genius is the abundance of life and health.” - Henry David Thoreau

    [–]Swallowed_the_pill 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    "You can't climb the ladder of succes with the hands in your pocket."

    [–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (3 children)

    Personally, I have better outcomes when i focus not on success or time but on process.

    When I am laser focused on the plan, the success is inevitable.

    Example...want to find a bigger job with more responsibilities and a fatter compensation package?

    Plan 2 coffees/drinks per week with industry insiders where you ask for advice and counsel only. Share your goals, stay in touch, and ask if they know anyone else you should be contacting. Rinse repeat.

    See what I mean? the energy is spent on the process. Fuck time and end goals...the goal is to get todays action plan done.

    [–]Frenetic_Zetetic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    This.

    Direct personal action and initiative with high-leverage tasks (like you mentioned above) yield better outcomes than over-analyzing a check list that does jack shit except make you "feel good" as you check off each box with no real results being produced.

    [–]Top_Ozone 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    Networking is something that I need to improve on, do you have any recommendations for becoming better at it? Books, resources, etc.? Specifically - staying in touch, how do you do so without coming off as overbearing/annoying?

    [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    ask people by phone to go out for a coffee for advice on a matter

    [–]2 Senior Endorsed Contributorvengefully_yours 8 points9 points  (1 child)

    I'm a car nut. 60s and 70s V8 muscle is my passion. Lots of people like these cars, they'll go buy one that needs a shit ton of work, tear it apart, find out how much work it really is and let it sit like that for years or decades. They won't sell it because someday they'll restore it. Until one day they realize they can't do it and they either scrap it or sell it to someone like me who will finish it.

    Do I love it that much that dumping 2000+ hours of my life into a rusty pos is enjoyable? Work is work, even if you enjoy it. The key is to do what you can, every day. Even when you can't stand the thought of it, you go out and get dirty making shit better. They look at the entire job and get discouraged. I look at the different systems and parts of it and tackle them one at a time. The longest is always body and paint.

    An engine takes 3 months gathering parts, getting it machined, then assembling it. A transmission is a weekend at most. A very rusty car can take years of cutting, shaping, and welding, then the immense job of filler, primers, paint, color sand, and buffing. Shit I can have a six pack in less time.

    I get burned out, don't want to sand anymore, want to do anything else. So I work on other shit that needs done, there is always something else to do.

    What motivates me? That's simple. It's not the build I enjoy, it's driving it, going racing, beating the chevys, fords, mopars, and silly little imports, plus doing it on a small budget. It's the fun at the end that gets it for me, the work to build it is only what needs to be done to get there, so you do what you gotta do to get what you want. The results are the payoff.

    I sure add fuck didn't enjoy the work required to get the muscle mass I have, but I damn sure enjoy being able to lift heavy shit and the way girls look at me.

    [–]madeaccfortrp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    I sure add fuck didn't enjoy the work required to get the muscle mass I have, but I damn sure enjoy being able to lift heavy shit and the way girls look at me.

    Its even better for working out. The amount of time you put in results in a net gain of energy/time. Lets say you spend 5 hours a week working out. The mental benefits will make the other 163 hours in the week more productive.

    Even if you gain the bare minimum (5 hours faster productivity), you've essentially just bought a muscular body for free.

    The best benefit is that working out subconsciously trains your brain into thinking like this. You're no longer motivated by dopamine hits (short term stimuli) but rather long term benefits.

    Instead of going 'paycheck-to-paycheck' with your time, you've become an investment banker. And... as time is our #1 resource, you've become mentally rich.

    [–]Senior Contributordr_warlock 22 points23 points  (3 children)

    Get rid of everything above "dichotomy of time". Needless robotic like adhesion to the academic style for idea pitching. Get straight to the point.

    Otherwise decent.

    [–]Snufek[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

    Thank you for an honest opinion. I'm not a native speaker and I feel like I adopt the style of writing by reading. What I read in English is mostly self-help and alike...

    My point with the first paragraph was to create a deeper interest in the topic, but I also see how there is little value to it when you look at it separately.

    Will try to do better next time.

    [–]tubarao312 6 points7 points  (0 children)

    Everyone wants to go back in the past to change the present
    But no one wants to do something RIGHT NOW to change something in the future...
    Good post op

    [–]M1ster_MeeSeeks 5 points6 points  (0 children)

    Put more simply:

    No zero days. Someone had a good post on this awhile back. Don't let days pass without making progress.

    I optimize my weeks, not my days, but the same principle applies.

    [–]RPFlame 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    The "action" mindset was always coupled with masculinity.

    Your actions is what people judge you, even if it's something you said or wrote it becomes more than an internal thought the moment that you share it.

    I was at the same tier of inactivity as you, OP. Drifting through life playing video games and masturbating to porn, or seek for good advice to get a "motivational high" but it wouldn't translate.

    Much like having suspicion about red pill truths before you reach this sub, I had the feeling that "only now is true" when I picked up guided meditation through some mobile application. ** Through meditation I experienced what you mean before I read it, but I couldn't put it into words.**

    When the guy in the guided meditation said "if you catch your mind wandering, simply bring your focus gently back to your breath" I had problems understanding wtf "gently" is even supposed to mean. I realized later that it's about putting your weight in the act of focusing in the breath instead of first going through the act of judging your mind for wandering "wtf I did it again I'm so shit at this". If you're into video games, it's like trying to beat a boss in front of you and instead of focusing to dodge the next attack you're too busy struggling against yourself for thinking that you suck because you got hit 2 seconds ago. What's done is done, focus on dodging the rest of the attacks! But even then, the average player will judge himself a shit ton once he loses the fight "I'm so incompetent, so bad at this game, I suck balls, maybe I should play Barbie's cock carousel adventures instead". People are socially conditioned to give destructive criticism even to themselves! But that's a whole another thread.

    People will identify as "being constantly distracted" and victimize themselves by pointing to mobile apps, their phone notifications and websites like Reddit. By being control in the "now", the place where you choose where to focus, you can start creating "now" moments that chain together. The moment becomes a minute. The minute becomes a couple of minutes. Eventually you have your attention span back in ways you thought you lacked because "ADHD".

    I also like how people go "oh yeah I have ADHD, I'm officially diagnosed by a doctor". I dunno, maybe because I had enough doctors in my life to know that they can also do wrong.

    [–]Paratonir 2 points3 points  (5 children)

    A nice book I've been reading on this topic is The slight edge by Jeff Olson. While the author kind of beats around the bush a lot while making a point, the lessons you will learn from this book are real and will stick with you. I'm still 60 pages in but I've already figured out the reason why i just couldn't seem to stop procrastinating.

    [–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (3 children)

    I've already figured out the reason why i just couldn't seem to stop procrastinating.

    Mind talking some more about this?

    [–]Paratonir 3 points4 points  (2 children)

    Of course! Basically what the author says is that the problem is not a simple lack of motivation or a lack of pure mindless discipline. The problem resides in your philosophy while undertaking a certain task. To break it down through a personal example: I've been trying to start coding everyday for at least an hour, and my reasoning for it was "if I don't do it I'll lah behind my dedicated friend". My commitment lasted 1 week for the following reasons:

    • I had no long term Goal worth pushing for.
    • From above, I could not breakdown my Goal into tiny tasks which by adding up would help me reach it.
    • I was doing it for the wrong reasons (philosophy).
    • An hour of dota2 sounded more appealing than this forced work.

    The Slight Edge dives into each of these points and gives you the tools to fix your mentality and basically start making the right decisions for the right reasons, one small seemingly insignificant task at a time.

    [–]Kolbykilla 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    Agreed I LOVE the Slight Edge, it taught me that there is no "ah amazing moment" where I came up with this idea that will make me successful in life. But yet a series of small moments that are building me up to my goals in life. And I'm ok with it taking time, and I know if I am consistent and do something or a series of things every single day to help me further reach my goals I'll eventually get there.

    [–]syf3r 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    I'm currently reading this as well. my eyes would roll whenever I can sense he would go into fluff with could have been a book that's 90% shorter. but then it wouldn't sell as a book now would it.

    [–]Celdron 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    I read this on the toilet and felt both inspired and at the same time felt as if bowel movements were beta.

    [–]randomkloud 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Huh. I never thought to see things this way

    [–]NotMyBestEffort 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    read "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle.

    .... so clearly explained.

    [–]Katavasis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Man i am always impressed how people in the TRP have very similar mentallities. Both your post and many comments could be very easily being written by me.

    Check this out.I think you are gonna appreciate it.

    [–]RPFlame 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    I started reading the book you suggested, and at one point he says:

    One day you may catch yourself smiling at the voice in your head, as you would smile at the antics of a child. This means that you no longer take the content of your mind all that seriously, as your sense of self does not depend on it.

    So basically, when your inner voice is judging you as an idiot it's the most equivalent thing to a shit test that your inner voice can give you.

    [–]Olga_Schmutzer -1 points0 points  (0 children)

    How to make a sentence without all-caps.

    [–][deleted] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

    Step one: get off reddit.

    ... damn.