Red Pill TheoryDon't become her texting buddy (self.TheRedPill)

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This may sound obvious to the average Red Piller, but it came as news to me. Texting for hours on end does not build attraction. Texting is not a replacement for in person game. When you text her you are telling her two things: 1) she is your main priority at the moment, and 2) you have nothing better to do with your life than to text her.

Texting too much can cause strain. In my personal life, I once dated a girl who absolutely loved dogs. So I texted her dog meme after dog meme. You can guess what happened: she broke up with me, saying that all the memes were "pushing it".

Women respond to mystery. By being constantly available and open, you absolve yourself of all mystery. There is a difference between being a stranger and being mysterious. With texting, it does not build any sort of rapport. If anything, it detracts from your mystery, leaving her bored and in need of a new texting partner.

It's called a telephone. Our smartphones all come pre-installed with this spectacular device. What you do is you dial a person's number, hit send, and it automatically links up your voices together, if she is also available. I highly recommend making a good old fashioned phone call in order to gauge whether or not you even want to see this person in real life.

The irony of texting is that girls want someone who isn't available when they are available to text them. They want someone who is living a better life than they are, one full of fun, adventure, and excitement. So much so, that texting between the two of you is minimal at best.

Texting is like medicine. An ounce of it will do wonders. Chugging the entire bottle will make you sick. Similarly, texting once or twice a day is all good, but this binge texting where you go hours on end texting back and forth is not only not generating attraction, it is in fact detrimental.

Conclusion: Set up parameters in your day where you will only text during those hours. Fight the urge to text her all the time, regardless of how available she is. Build a life full of things that make it so you don't have so much time to text. Try using the telephone once in a while to gauge the type of woman you are communicating with.

[–]Popular-Culture 316 points316 points [recovered]

Cheat code: Actually have a busy life that restricts your ability to text all day. That was the difference maker for me.

Also, I like to keep my read receipts off. A women's hamster is your absolute best tool of seduction. She doesn't know whether or not I read her text, and suddenly she thinks I'm banging Mia Khalifa.

[–]1GroundhogLiberator 93 points94 points  (4 children)

I had my receipts off (when I had an iPhone) but once saw a guy on here make the case for leaving them on.

Imagine how a hot chick feels when a guy doesn't give her the attention she's accustomed to. You know how angry an orbiter will be if he sees that his oneitis has seen his text but didn't care enough to reply? Now multiply it by ten.

[–]trippinallday 68 points69 points  (0 children)

It works if you don't read it as well. It's been two days and you haven't even OPENED her message, let alone replied? Imagine the hamster then.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep. Double edged sword though because the girls that respond to it very well also tend to be the craziest.

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[–]1RXRob 41 points42 points  (1 child)

Also keep your phone on silent.

I check my phone when I want to check my phone, not when it screams for attention.

[–]zero0x 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That works, I check my phone only during lunch breaks and after I leave work.

[–]royal_fucktard 52 points53 points  (1 child)

This. And to take it even further, just don't give a fuck about your phone or the people trying to contact you. It sounds harsh and borderline sociopathic--but we all know how well those guys do with the ladies.

[–]DntPnicIGotThis 20 points21 points  (0 children)

As a matter of fact, cancel your cell phone contract and stick with US postal mail.

[–]jgwould714 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I didn't realize this until recently. Now I am semi-productive and less needy, naturally. UUUGE.

[–]chedder 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, just this; I'm wondering who the fuck has time for this shit, I barely have time to fucking sleep. Fuck me.

[–]DotishGuy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

letting a person know you've read their message IS a response in a way. When you indicate that the message was read, they'll wait for a response and will be less likely to hamster. When they think you didn't get the message they'll send more to get your attention, and the hamster wheel spins.

[–]hyugafan -1 points0 points  (8 children)

This. Read receipts off, people.

[–]kraken9911 41 points42 points  (7 children)

I just use android. We don't have that privacy invasion nonsense.

[–]LegDay2017 25 points25 points [recovered]

I was gonna say...I don't even know what those Apple people are talking about. Lulz

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not iphone specific unless referring to imessage.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are referring to imessage and not SMS.

Also, the same applies to Android if you use whatsapp and various other messaging apps that are more popular than SMS.

[–]filitantmeminist 98 points99 points  (2 children)

Ive done this before intentionally. The difference is night and day. I will go a few days constantly texting. Burnt out. Go a few days without saying a word and just an "ok" if its critical - wild weekend sex.

Its all about availability and status. If you are busy you are too good for her. If youre texting shes the best you can do.

[–][deleted] 48 points49 points  (1 child)

I had a girl I was texting daily. Nothing to talk about she was on vacation and I was waiting a week for her to get home. Eventually when I she got home we were still texting constantly almost forced. Stopped talking completely and she randomly text me to come over. Mortal of story the ignoring shit works. Females don't wanna talk 24/7

[–]Endorsed ContributorAuvergnat 66 points67 points  (0 children)

Females don't wanna talk 24/7

They do. To their girlfriends. Don't be one of their girlfriends

[–]bigtuna45 84 points85 points  (5 children)

Texting is like medicine. An ounce of it will do wonders. Chugging the entire bottle will make you sick. Similarly, texting once or twice a day is all good, but this binge texting where you go hours on end texting back and forth is not only not generating attraction, it is in fact detrimental.

On top of this, it fucks with your head a bit. You don't see this person or talk to them, yet you have these conversations with them. With so many missing pieces (context, body language, voice, etc.) your mind can't help but idealize the interaction. Enough idealization of her and you develop oneitis like no other.

Finally, it fucks with your game! "I don't need to approach that girl, I can text suzie later!" was a common rationalization I had. Complete and utter scarcity mindset.

[–]xenongamer4351 25 points26 points  (3 children)

Completely true, also I think it just looks bad when you're out in public. To me, nothing looks dumber that dude who goes out and has his head down all night with a slight glow on his face and his fingers racing. Why even go out at that point? Your entire focus is on your phone, not the bar, event, party you went to.

[–]bigtuna45 20 points21 points  (2 children)

I've decided that it makes you look like a teenage fucking girl. You're right - get the fuck off the phone unless it's to do something quick (logistics).

[–]xenongamer4351 13 points14 points  (1 child)

Spot on man. Got a close friend that does this. He's a good looking dude, so he can pull, but it's nuts when you see this kid try and talk to girls, even when they're completely into him. Stuttering, sweating, twirling his hair, checking his phone, I've never seen anything like it. It worked back in college because these girls just wanted a cute face, but now it's nuts how little he gets post college.

And I know it's because he's always texting paragraphs to girls, he literally has no social skills now. Heaven forbid this kid gets like a scar on his face or even a pimple, he'd be done. Joke around with him about it all the time honestly.

[–]JFMX1996 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Seriously. I got rid of all that social media in January of 2016 when I was 19. I'm 20 now, and I rarely look at my phone unless it's for logistics.

I can't tell you the feeling of what it's like to sit in these classrooms and be the only one not on his fucking phone. All these morons are even on their phone disrespecting the teacher during class with these huge glows on their faces, not paying attention and then failing tests because of it.

It's hilarious because I remember in high school (graduated 2015) when I'd approach girls they'd choke the hell up because it became taboo to not take the usual route of finding the girl on Instagram or Facebook, and drop a like, and then DM her saying "Hey I've seen you around school, we should text" and so on. I see it as a crutch for the castrated fucks that have no approach confidence or girls that suck at conversations. If she can't talk on the phone and only wants to text I immediately lose interest because I fall under the idea that she has no social skills and will be a boring broad.

I've gotten tons of compliments from older, alpha dudes and folk in general for not being one of them. Girls have also complimented me for it saying most guys don't have the guts to approach them like I would and would take the pussy route (was 18 approaching 27 year olds, haha).

All that stuff is a detriment in reality.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, it is easier for some to manipulate/lie over text than in person or over the phone. It is because it is devoid of body language or even voice inflection and also they can edit and re-edit.

[–]WardBurton 56 points57 points  (4 children)

So I texted her dog meme after dog meme.

Amazing that this strategy didn't work. :)

[–]kraken9911 39 points40 points  (1 child)

You've now been subscribed to dog facts.

[–]SOwED 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know. OP's overall idea in this post isn't wrong, but the fact that he thought that was evidence for it is astounding...that's just evidence that you don't text anyone meme after meme of anything if you want them to keep talking to you.

[–]Buffphan 18 points19 points  (1 child)

LOL you got dumped for dog memes

[–]KingFriday_13th 17 points18 points  (4 children)

Keep texting to a minimum. Text to set up the next date and that's it! Even if she's the one initiating the texting, don't engage in too much conversation. Get to the point and set up that next date...Example: "Hey great to hear from you. When are you free to get together?" Don't become her texting buddy. And really...what are you going to have left to talk about when you do see her if you're texting back and forth all the time?

[–]schall1991 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Who wants to talk? More sex, less talk - that's my motto. Let your D do the talking. Tell her how you REALLY feel.

[–]KingFriday_13th 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Obviously. But the time between meeting up with her for the night and actually fucking, there's going to be some amount of conversation going on at some point. The less the better, I agree. I just prefer to do it in person rather than text. Excessive texting is for pussies imo. But hey, if you can get through the whole night without a single word spoken (without the use of duct tape) please enlighten us...

[–]zero0x 0 points1 point  (0 children)

but when I ask her to meet, she says don't need to push. Also is it good idea to initiate a text?

[–]FrozenHearth 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Really depends, OP.

There was this one girl whom I texted day and night for a long time. We even dated for a while. And broke it off cuz she shifted abroad. Anyway, even though I texted her all day, when I met IRL we both were different people. Sure, she knew somewhat about me through texting, but, she told me how mysterious I was IRL, and told me that she thought she had figured me out, but in reality, hadn't. We both were younger and had a shitload of free time, and mind you, a lot of people texted her, as is common with any woman. But, she told me how much she loved our convos over phone. Point is, if she's attracted to you, as long as you don't reveal too much over text, you're good.

Although, I wouldn't take this route now. Now, I have projects, assignments to do, food to prepare, and I spend a couple hours in the gym, so I barely have free time. I agree, keeping yourself busy and texting her less is a good thing.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (1 child)

Great advice. I fell into this trap once and could never rope this certain girl into actually hanging out. I was friend zoned via text. Actually helped in the long run, I learned that was the wrong way to get a girl out on a date. If they don't want to meetup for a date asap she's either got better options or she's just looking for attention.

[–]1scissor_me_timbers00 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wrong. Sometimes they like play coy and will go on a date if you keep persistent, just don't be too desperate obviously. And know when to just cut losses and next her.

Also cut the mentality of trying to "rope her into a date". Girls sense that shit and it scares them off.

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 25 points26 points  (4 children)

This is a hard one to learn....... I used to think "zomg she keeps texting me, and it would be rude not to reply instantly!"

Reality is you're just proving your availability and proving commitment/comfort and losing attraction in exchange for absolutely nothing.

Mindset should be "That's nice, she probably wants attention, I'll reply if I feel like it which won't be always and won't always be instant".

For best results you want to reply randomly. Sometimes you text-chat, sometimes you leave it 4 hours, sometimes a day, sometimes never. Keep her on her toes - she wants to be kept on her toes.

Except when she says something offensive or dumb. Then you either never reply or say "you're going on ignore now" (and don't reply again for a few days).

[–]GIFs_aLOT 18 points18 points [recovered]

"you're going on ignore now"

Why even mention that? I would just read the message with the receipt on and then ignore.

[–]schall1991 10 points11 points  (0 children)

"I'm still ignoring you - stay tuned for the next reminder."

[–]crabyjoe 2 points3 points  (1 child)

One of my favorites is " You're reaching your daily text limit with me" Drives them nuts!

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha I do that! They always test it, to my deaf ears :)

Next I think I'll move to a weekly limit.

[–]Expectations1 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This is pretty true, but i think some amount of texting is ok only when she initiates the texts.

[–]Senior Contributor: "The Court Jester"GayLubeOil 24 points25 points  (8 children)

Take the Emoji challenge. Only respond with Emjois!

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 16 points17 points  (4 children)

I link in her head the banana emoji as a euphemism for my dick through some sort of dick sucking/banana joke.

Then later when she texts me I reply with just the banana.

Now give me a free TShirt.

[–]plenty_of_eesh 19 points20 points  (1 child)

OMG The world is falling apart. Banana??

It's eggplant, guys. EGGPLANT.

[–]chrishsticks 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Someone get this guy a TShirt!

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[–]1TheProphetPhysiquiel 2 points3 points  (1 child)

In my experience, the sporadic snapchat works. Just a pic and a short caption to remind her you're there, but not one specifically for her. Like when you send a snap to a few people, include her.

[–]Fedor_Gavnyukov 5 points6 points  (3 children)

the thing is as much as i hate texting, these young broads are only capable of communicating through that. of course if you text stupid beta shit like dog memes you're gonna be sol, but if you spit game that shit gets you results.

[–]IGOA2BBYKEEPINGITG 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree. Helps me set my bullshit up beforehand. I "spit game" via text and then I carry it over when we meet. It's like what they say in basketball; if you're making shots, the net gets bigger(and vice versa). Basically a fake it till you make it, pull off what you can kind of thing.

But in order to carry it over, you gotta be playing your lane(i.e not catfishing).

[–]Jarn_Tybalt 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Agreed! OP lost all credibility when he mentioned dog memes. Yeah, guys that think that is ever ok, should cut back on texting.

But as long as you aren't some beta fuck who is trying to act like their bestie, texting works more than it hurts.

[–]Fedor_Gavnyukov 0 points1 point  (0 children)

funny, last night was hanging out with a homie of mine and he's all telling me about how emojis are the future of texting or some shit. whips out his iphone and starts showing me different features of the imessage app where you can attach some gay ass animations like hearts and balloons to messages and then proceeds texting some chick thats apparently a nympho that he hasn't fucked yet. and i look at his convos and its just walls of texts from him LOL.

i'm like bro wtf are you doing and he starts hamstering and being all defensive.

whats even funnier is he was seeing/dating this other chick for two months and she was very cute and pretty chill, but this guy starts talking about exclusivity to her and other unattractive shit after only 2 months and it wasn't even that serious of a relationship. then he calls me and says that she broke it off with him haha. i'm like bro i told you, listen to my advice, but of course, i'm the idiot in the end and he hamstered it that she was just "not ready". fucking guy.

[–]candyholbrook 23 points24 points  (5 children)

Over-texting might be a problem for you, but I have gotten plenty of girls and dates through messaging and texting. Also gotten girls to like me through just messages, before I even met them. It's all about how you play the game. Just because you didn't do something right doesn't mean you should go out and preach to other people that something is the Devil.

I can think of plenty of scenarios where some good Internet conversation being the only option available and being effectively used to maintain a woman's interest.

[–]DerpishGambino 10 points11 points  (2 children)

The whole "Don't text women often" is such a common theme around here and I don't get why. I'll meet a girl off tinder or day game and text them and still have results. I don't think it's hard/bad to maintain a conversation but to each their own.

[–]xinihil 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On Tinder being swift implies you're in for a quick kill. You want to taper off as you plate.

[–]Jarn_Tybalt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I don't get why people have such bad luck texting. It works great for me. I've gotten laid plenty of times after texting for a week or two. Some people like to now you aren't a serial killer.

But I'm not super good looking. I think if you are really good looking, you can get away with the 'mysterious' thing and rarely texting.

But us average guys, we sorta have to show that we aren't stalkers or too weird.

Of course, I always try to meet really early in the game, I don't text too long before meeting and hanging out (I almost always kiss on first meet too!), but ya, texting has always helped my game more than hurt it.

[–]IGOA2BBYKEEPINGITG 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I don't think I want to take advice from someone who ever thought it was a good idea to send his girl dog memes on dog memes.

This stuff is really like talking to girls 101, really basic stuff that I would think most normal dudes know as of early highschool.

[–]Jarn_Tybalt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't think I want to take advice from someone who ever thought it was a good idea to send his girl dog memes on dog memes.

So much this. I realize that most of us started out as beta fucks, but I was never beta enough to ever think that would be a good idea.

Text game is very important. Ignore it and lose out on a lot of chances. Don't be a pussy in real life. Don't be a pussy over text. But texting is totally fine as long as you aren't a dumbass about it.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Even with my LTR I will randomly ignore her text messages for a day just to keep her on her toes

[–]Mr_landscape 2 points3 points  (2 children)

I hate to be the bearer of bad news but I just landed an HB8 and I did it almost exclusively through texting. She's a young girl 23 years old. That's how these young chick's communicate. This advice I have to say is total shit. And another thing I fucked the snot out of her and now she's 'in love'. I got her on the once a week plan where we fuck at my place then she goes home and I still use almost exclusively text to communicate with her throughout the week. There's something to say for a good texting game.

[–]Jarn_Tybalt 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Yeah, it's like a lot fo guys in this sub don't live in 2016. Chicks like to text and snapchat. It's their fucking thing.

I just talked to a girl at work who said she broke up with a guy because he never texted her and it annoyed her.

[–]2awalt_cupcake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it's all about moderation and neediness

[–]Drogba006 7 points8 points  (12 children)

What if you text a girl for a month waiting for schedules to line up and then you bang her?

Thats what I did.

Hurr durr anecdotal data! Well it happened and i broke that parroted rule of "only text logistics".

[–]ATrashMan 9 points10 points  (0 children)

gotta do what works for you man

[–]skinnysandvs 12 points13 points  (10 children)

Honestly, the whole texting for logistics only thing is played out. This is 2016 and people text to communicate. I started talking to this chick before my college let out for break and texted her for a week flirting and building tension... I fucked her the first night we got back and she hasn't left me alone since.

Instead of the mantra being text only for logistics there should be a bigger focus on text game

[–][deleted] 22 points23 points  (9 children)

It exists because 99% of guys fuck it up.

If you can do it, power to you, its solid advice for almost everyone else

[–]skinnysandvs 45 points46 points  (4 children)

I really don't understand how so many guys can mess it up so badly. If I could give 2 rules they would be

  1. Put some time between your texts,

  2. Stop trying to be a "good texter" give her just enough to keep her replying and then pull back. Find her level of investment in the conversation and then go slightly under it. This prevents her from thinking of you as a friend she can mindlessly chatter with, but also keeps you in her head.

If girls routinely call you a "bad texter", you're doing something right. Just like when they call you "mean" or "asshole"

The world is changing and if you're a 16-24 year old dude trying to get laid, you need to learn how to talk to girls over text/snapchat or whatever.

Leave the "Dinner @ 6 see u there" type of texting to your Pops

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Seems like a good post for you to give to guys

[–]HS-Thompson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're absolutely right. And we're not even talking about overt sexual text game, like when you ask a girl to send a mirror pic of her in her lingerie before coming to meet you (yes I have done this before a first date) or give her permission to masturbate via text. You can be very intimidating and dominant and leave women literally dripping over text when you get the hang of it.

[–]Jarn_Tybalt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Leave the "Dinner @ 6 see u there" type of texting to your Pops

So much this. I see guys that say they are doing that and I just don't believe it. No girl I have ever been with would respond to no texting and then getting a message like that.

[–]Jarn_Tybalt 0 points1 point  (3 children)

Ok, I can accept this explanation. I always wondered why so many are anti-text since it gets me laid more often than not.

But yeah, if someone is inclined to send dog memes, they would be better to give up the text game.

Don't be a beta in real life, don't be a beta in text.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Point is, guys swap notes here. Surely you have figured put a system others csn use?

[–]Jarn_Tybalt 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Play things as cool in text as you do in real life. And vice versa.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, throw it up man. Theres lota of guys who fuck it up. Im sure if you flesh it out, you can put 500 words towards helping your brothers get dicks wet

[–]abbafishhead 9 points10 points  (2 children)

Uh, I understand not texting her, but advocating phone calls over texting? Are you serious? The newbies here are just going to think that long hour-long phone conversations with a girl will build attraction and get them in her panties.

Also, texting is only for logistics. This is one of those TRP mantras that are actually correct. This is settled wisdom; no arguments, please. Anything else you text is simply seeking or providing validation to/from her. If you only text for logistics, you already automatically screen in the girls who're serious about meeting up and screen out the girls who're time-wasters, attention whores, seeking beta orbiters, seeing you as a venting avenue/emotional tampon, etc.

Girls who're DTF will be happy that you're making the first move and planning things like the man they hope you are. Girls who aren't DTF will be annoyed that you keep asking them out, that you're not playing ball and worshipping them with compliments, attention, reassurance, words of comfort, liking her Instagram photos and adding to her follower count, etc.

I don't even respond to her texts when it's clear she's seeking validation. Anything like bragging about a crazy night out, buying a new dress, venting about other guys, bitching about finals, etc. etc., I simply ignore. I then text her again when I want to fuck her, usually some days later. There's nothing to respond to if she doesn't want to fuck -- I don't even know what to say sometimes.

The only reason to text is to ask her out. The only reason to ask her out is to fuck her. And the only text game you need is to ask her to come over to your place and see how she reacts. If she says no, tell her to meet for drinks first near your place, then drop by your place after "to watch a movie" if the chemistry is right. If she still says no, bail. You won't fuck her.

What's so complicated?

[–]microwave44 1 point2 points  (1 child)

This is very good advice, but what about mediums that require that kind of communication? Like facebook or tinder (don't diss me for FB, i don't have one anymore but my first 2 girlfriends were 'acquired' trough text game - it's an actual thing). You can't get a tinder match and your first message be "Come over lol". Or can it?

[–]abbafishhead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you read my Tinder thread (along with my screenshots), you'll know that text game on Tinder needn't be long. Check my thread.

[–]StyleandSpeed 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's mind boggling of you think about it. You have to be mysterious if you want your penis in her vagina.

[–]MissHolyHoly 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wtf, dog memes? Constantly texting someone dog memes because they like dogs? No shit that's annoying.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Never. Ever. Ever. Ever do it. In my BP days, I was this girl's texting buddy for what 3 or 4 months. This chick would text me 70 times a day. 100 times a day. No bullshit. It took forever to scroll through our text log. She (soft) rejected me when I tried to push for more. Guess she just wanted a text buddy.

She later ended up with this very beta looking dude which I seriously scratched my head at because I looked much better (I know I'm not objective here) but, he probably wasn't sitting around texting her all night like he was her girlfriend. Moral of the story. ESCALATE. You're not her friend. You're trying to slam your cock inside her. Not talk to her about her puppies and what she ate last night.

[–]Jimboj1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good luck getting laid without a strong texting game.

[–]ConcealingFate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As much as you can use texting for communication, I try to keep it to a minimum and keep communicating with face to face.

There is this girl I'm seeing and I keep telling her to keep her rambling for pillow talk. Working wonders so far.

[–]vagbutters 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I made this mistake in college after I'd lost over 100 pounds and met a woman (one of the first at the time) who was into me. It's almost baffling to see how true this principle is-- you cannot be friends with a woman in the same way you can be with a man; this is doubly true if you want to fuck them. The phone is only used for logistics; when a woman realizes that you're putting a ton of attention into them, they will assume that your time is not wisely used, and that you don't have other (women) things going on in your life.

[–]PTFOholland 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Be busy during the day, reply back before bed and say "goodnight" and put your phone away

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[–]microwave44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Moral of the story: if you are getting nothing from her but whining, it's time to cut the cord. You WILL encounter girls that, no matter how good you look, how alpha you are, just simply do not want to sleep with you.

There's also the "hard preferences" aspect, where she fucks only guys with perfect teeth or long hair.

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Hooked up with a girl a while back that actually said she wanted to be "texting buddies". I didn't even know this was a thing. Anyway, I hate texting, I only use it to make plans. This chick was always trying to be be witty and clever, so anytime I would text her she kept sending clever replies, essentially begging me to reply back. Usually something trying to be funny, but phrased as a question. If I replied back, she would immediately hit me with another. So I just ignored her, because if I answered then it would continue one after another and the texts would never stop.

[–]Diaboliko12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How does this work in LTR's?

My girlfriend is glued to her fucking phone when she's alone and wants me to WhatsApp her all the fucking time, which I don't.

What tactics do guys in a LTR apply to texting without getting her too comfortable?

[–]Jarn_Tybalt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude, you sent dog memes? For real? Yeah, glad you got past that! lol

[–]hotrod1994 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So much this, man. I started texting a girl in September whose from my hometown and HS(different ages so we never talked in HS). Despite being at university, and being 6 hrs away from this girl, I found her really attractive, and she was giving me signals she liked me from the beginning. I just assumed we would hit things off when we were both in town again. I was using a real Red Pill approach for this, at first. But then after her repeatedly telling me she liked me, and telling me how attractive I was to her, I started getting Oneitis and giving back a lot of compliments, telling her she was my girl, and just showing a lot of affection for her. Basically, I was showing beta traits even though I knew better after being a TRP lurker for around a year.

Not to bore anyone with the details, once we got back into town, she kept blowing me off and cancelling plans with me last minute, despite always wanting to text me all day every day. I was confused, but again, I had fallen into the trap of liking this girl and becoming too attached, so I politely asked if I was wasting my time trying to pursue her. She persuaded me multiple times that both times she had to cancel it was just freak occurrences, because something had come up with her family. Although a little skeptical, I was too attached to really bug her about it.

We had made plans for a third time to hang out, this time at her place. Long story short she ends up not replying to me all night. The next morning I wake up to a text saying she cant talk to me anymore, cause the night before her ex texted her, and it was at that moment she then realized she had feelings for this guy.

So after 4 months of texting, and me stupidly becoming attached, she cant even give me the respect to hang out with me. While her ex "Chad" hadn't talked to her in 6 months, and with one text, has her in the palm of his hand.(She had briefly told me that Chad was an asshole cause he only wanted to use her for sex.) There's a valuable lesson in this, fellas. Never make an exception for a girl, no matter how much you fall for her or like her. Stick to TRP principles.... They work. And now I rightfully feel like a dumbass for not gaming the shit out of her and trying to get in her pants.

TLDR; 1. When you text her daily she realizes how easily she can have you. Girls like a challenge. 2.Don't make exceptions for women you like. Stick to TRP gameplan. Its been proven right for years.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (3 children)

Do dick pics count as texts?

[–]microwave44 1 point2 points  (1 child)



some say that if you pretend to be retarded for too long you might get stuck as such

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it is great that millenials are now helping more experienced guys understand their culture

[–]akatsukirp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The beauty of the RP is less is more. You have more time for yourself, improve and are getting better results. Follow the 2/3rds rule once you start plating her.

The less you text the less invested in it you will be. Let her be the one to initiate the deep conversations (not via text).

[–]1Jax77789 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do not even text once a day, more like once or twice a week and it works. You should refine your messages bro, once a day seems way too much for me.

I picked up a bitch's number 10 days ago, I sent her my numb, will start gaming her next week. I know I have her hooked and I should date-close in under 5 messages, if that. I just have other shit on my mind than shagging her at the moment so she will wait.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

very true. the phone is a pretty invasive device. taking 5 minutes instead of 10 seconds to reply to a text or not being available for 3 hours but still talking to her that day shows you support the relationship but aren't some little bitch. Just saw my friend go through this, got into texting all day, now she's pushing him to change in every way, not see his friends, stop smoking weed, just total mom mode and i blame alot on their texting and how it sets him up as the feminine energy of the relationship. he just told me she was so angry cause he didn't text her for 10 hours. 2am-noon when he was sleeping. LOL.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I texted her dog meme after dog meme. ... she broke up with me, saying that all the memes were "pushing it".

I'm surprised that we're not discussing the fact that this part of the post is completely broken. Women never break up with you and tell you the real reason. They don't know the real reason.

If she's saying it was the dog memes it was really something else.

[–]manonthemoon14 -2 points-1 points  (2 children)

what if she's your gf and y'all live far away, a 4 hr difference?

[–]microwave44 2 points3 points  (0 children)

don't do long distance relationships lol