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We speak often about SMV - the importance of maintaining a low body weight, feminine appearance, being interesting, having a pleasant and sweet demeanor.

Something that I found is increasingly valuable is the goodness of a woman's heart and it is something that men very much treasure.

To explore this concept, think about the ideal mother.

The ideal mother teaches you how to be polite, gracious, respectful. She teaches you to say thank you, she teaches you how to treat people with kindness. She teaches you how to be compassionate towards people, she teaches you how to be careful with your words to not cause pain to anyone. She is gentle, understanding, responsible, hardworking, morally good.

The ideal mother loves her own children even when they are difficult. She commits to them if they get into trouble, she commits to them if they fail, she commits to them even if her own children lash back at her, because the ideal mother is loyal to her children. She forgives them, and she tries her best to also forgive other people or adults who have angered her, because the goodness of a woman's heart understands forgiveness.

Men search for and expect this moral goodness in women and especially in their wives. They do NOT appreciate bitchiness. They seek to find a woman with values, because they know she will be the role model for the family, the queen of the family.

Be a queen. Do not be a showgirl who is just fun and games, looks great in a costume and entertains the court. Be a queen, show it in your actions, your speech, your mannerisms.


[–]Aauo268848 points49 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Really appreciate this post. The goodness of a woman’s heart has been been put down so much in the last several decades. Glad to see it being encouraged and upheld here.

[–]shrinkshooter42 points43 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

The Japanese have a term for this called Yamato nadeshiko. It is the ideal wife and mother archetype: she is wise, graceful, pretty, compassionate, sympathetic, nurturing, but also wilful and strong within a quiet confidence when the situation calls for it.

I'd also like to point out that you can attract lots of guys even if you're a tomboy. Tomboys can still be very adorable and cute in their girlishness; they are not girly but they can still hold a feminine charm without being absorbed in things like nails and purses and all the rest.

[–][deleted] 44 points45 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Also know your worth and how to say ‘NO.' It’s insane the amount of girls my age who have no idea how to stand their own ground. Being able to say no shows value and class.

[–]suzannehatton10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I've read on men's forums lots about the guys noticing 'how she responds to things, such as not getting her own way'. This is a big deal for men it seems. And rightly so huh.

But the challenge here I think is to actually have a good heart. Not just to pretend to have one lol. I only write that because I've done a lot of repressing in the past in order to appear to have a good heart, but this can lead to resentment. So now I am trying to be as honest with myself as possible.

Excellent post.

[–]Wolfssenger8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I could not condone this more. If there's anything I learned in the second transformation that trp aided me in, it is that a woman with lukewarm or poor morals is worth little more than making a plate.

It is a rare day I meet a young woman who is not consumed by vapid hedonism and a lack of foresight. Cultivate this goodness and you'll become a treasure many men would be elated to find.

[–]memelia 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy Link

Intellectually it makes sense, but emotionally it gets exhausting =/

[–]vanBeethovenLudwigEndorsed Contributor[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I agree! We should be reflecting every once in a while, just to remember good values and virtues.

[–]organicsunshine3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I think we are confusing SMV vs RMV.

[–]vanBeethovenLudwigEndorsed Contributor[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I had meant it to be an RMV concept, yes.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I don't think my husband in particular would get along with a woman who was too virtuous. A lot of our conversations are really morbid and we often laugh and say things to each other that anyone else would find really offensive. I don't think I could be with a man who was moralistic or sentimental at all. In fact I have dated such men before and on paper they seem great but I find them boring and they make me feel tense. My husband says he has never gotten along with a woman like he has with me and he's completely fallen in love with my character. I think this is one of those things that comes down to personality type. I don't have a sentimental, sappy or romantic bone in my body. Yes I have found it difficult to find a long term relationship I feel happy in in the past because of this, but instead of being someone I am not I found someone who was perfect for me and wants me 'just the way I am'. It took me a fair amount of time to find that man but it was worth it.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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