Was I wrong for leaving a plate...

vandaalen · 2018-05-06T11:59:23+00:00

Do you seriously need an answer to this?

officerkondo · 2018-05-06T13:00:12+00:00

You took her to a sit-down restaurant and just watched her eat? You should have hit the drive-thru.

satanicpriest13 · 2018-05-06T12:54:00+00:00

Thot patrolled.

Martysteiner · 2018-05-06T13:06:18+00:00

As much as you've done the right thing & handled the situation well, there's something missing in this equation.

I wouldn't bring her to a restaurant. Just think about the whole event again. You've banged a chick on birth control pills. Her brain is being bombarded by unexplainable feelings. For a second, she acknowledges that she's nothing but a disposable cum bucket.

What should she do, just makes you do a gentlemen move: Dine with her!

You don't eat with her: pay for her!

You know, she'll therefore seek your gentlemen attitude. Give it to her, but in smaller pieces. If she's hungry, get quick hotdogs at a petrol station.

Retstortion · 2018-05-06T12:31:05+00:00

Lmao, she’s a cunt. Good for you

The entitlement in her and attitude = hard next

iknowthewhey · 2018-05-06T14:37:19+00:00

wine and a rib/ steak combo

What the actual fuck? The fact that she expected you to pay for that shows an intense failure of every man she's ever dealt with before you.

FUCK_YEA_GLITTER · 2018-05-06T13:35:58+00:00

You werent wrong at all in your conclusion but maybe a bit of technique. Like most guys, meaning someone not insane, you DEERed when there was conflict. There was no need and it actually presents a weaker frame.

They know when they are stepping out of line. The problem is almost never a rational misunderstanding.

02537-41101 · 2018-05-06T18:06:59+00:00

You taking her to a restaurant to eat when you've already eaten is the elephant in the room here

bookloverphile · 2018-05-06T13:14:12+00:00

I’m surprised you put up with her this long

chazthundergut · 2018-05-06T20:09:24+00:00

I don't know dude; you sound almost too hardcore.

I'm all about prioritizing your own happiness and not being a chick's ATM

But on the other hand, you've got to give her a little bit of care. If she's being a good soldier, and she's having you over for wild animal sex whenever you feel like it and not giving you too much drama, then why not buy her dinner once in a while?

I'm not saying you did the wrong thing, but that's how I would play it.

I've got a 21 year old that I'm seeing. Same situation- I hit her up, she invites me over, and she's got dinner ready to eat, weed ready to smoke, and a dvd ready to watch.

So yea, once in a while I take her out to the movies or take her out for dinner. I wouldn't make her pay for her own food if she's been sucking my dick all month with zero complaints. Don't forget that chicks' brains are swimming in hormones after sex, and they feel extremely vulnerable. I want to give her enough affection that she doesn't feel completely used.

But I'm not saying you're wrong. Just my 2 cents. Good luck dude.

turtlings · 2018-05-06T12:09:22+00:00

bruh

Werewolf35b · 2018-05-06T21:52:04+00:00

I'm still not understanding the whole cheapskate thing.

I'm sure there's better ways to communicate to a tramp that she's just that.

I have no problem buying a chick dinner if it gets me ass, and I don't cry into my hands at night that a "better" guy can get the same ass without taking her to Chili's first.

I get that OP already ate, but generally, your gonna eat dinner, is it really that much of a moral issue to buy the bitch some ribs? Lol.

Also, for arguments sake, it may even help establish that the tramp, is a whore. She fucked for something... The meal. Making dealing with her that much easier as its no longer based on just her whims (her "attraction." for you. (since, who cares what she actually thinks.))

Later, it's an unspoken deal, you get ribs, I get to stab your guts after.... Im OK with this.

Fuck overly rigid TRP doctrine/dogma. Watch the virgin spergs flip out on me now. Over feeding your pets, of all things.

AfterC · 2018-05-06T14:34:40+00:00

You made some slut be responsible for herself.

Welcome to the squad

vulgarpickle · 2018-05-06T13:24:16+00:00

Isn't the whole concept of a plate that you can literally just walk away and feel nothing? also come on in the situation do you really need an answer come the fuck on here.

Zanford · 2018-05-06T19:35:16+00:00

You did fine. She was absolutely trying to beta provider shit test you and you passed it. Her comparing you to her sex makes it an esp smelly shit test. Def not relationship material. As you already know.

Your first mistake was going to a restaurant, at all, when you weren't hungry. Unless your fridge had nothing in it (which would be poor planning on your part), you should've just let her eat at your place. Or made a quick drive-thru or grocery store trip on the way home.

If you still wanted sex, I wouldn't have left entirely or gotten angry, I would have just told her to pay then meet you at your car (and that she has 5 minutes or whatever), then proceeded on to your place for sex. But it sounds like you're done with her (you'd been silent for a month) which is just as well.

cl3537 · 2018-05-06T21:50:26+00:00

Girl you haven't seen in a month(wonder why?) gets you to pick her up and give her a ride, and with the lure of sex gets you to take her to a restaurant for steak and wine dinner that you weren't expecting and then asks you to pay.

You call her a plate but you aren't acting like a plate or treating her like a plate.

That plate either broke a month ago and this girl is trying to turn you into a Beta Boyfriend or you are seriously out of touch with reality.

You left out the details but obviously you know you fucked up ever stepping foot in that restaurant and probably fucked up way before that in the conversation where you agreed to pick her up.

zboo1h · 2018-05-06T23:21:05+00:00

This shit makes me feel good. Thank you, OP.

lol_throwaway303 · 2018-05-06T23:45:22+00:00

Her: “I’m hungry and need to eat”

You: “Babe, I’ve got food at home.”

Even if you don’t have that much at home, say you do and if it ends up being a problem go to a fast food place later when you both need to eat.

BlackMisc · 2018-05-07T05:53:38+00:00

never pay for pussy every guy here that says he is a cheapskate should go read the side bar the only thing he should have changed is mention beforehand that he would not pay for her.

[deleted] · 2018-05-06T13:33:54+00:00

Send her a bill for what cab fare would have cost and delete block ghost

theredcandy · 2018-05-06T14:01:11+00:00

Next time, consider suggesting she make herself a sarnie or an omelette at your's. Or buying one on the way.

If she insists on going to a restaurant, you could insist that you really aren't in the mood and was hoping you'd get to spend some time with her alone, while stroking her leg and biting her ear or whatever the fuck it is you do, nomsayin'? Maybe even double down on this and say you just couldn't wait to "see" her today.

Is this beta? Only if it's true and you start acting like one. In this case, you're just saying half-truths and letting her fill in the blanks with whatever she deems appropriate in order to get you your desired outcome.

It's called spinning plates for a reason. It takes some finesse and even if someone says they want casual, feelings get involved and it's up to you to reinforce their position through your actions. At this point, being straightforward doesn't quite cut it.

Alternatively, just dropping her and moving on is a fine alternative. You did what you wanted, but if your goal was to keep her then you might've acted rashly. However, there be mo bitches. And I can sympathise with not having the patience to deal with a plate's random bullshit and just showing her the door. Sometimes, your threshold for shit is just that low. That isn't to say that she mightn't come back, some girls can be very persistent. If you didn't hurt her ego too much, and she's still able to rationalise it away, she could well hit you up again herself.

frontiermarine · 2018-05-07T13:25:04+00:00

shouldn't have taken her to a restaurant in the first place, but you stood your ground for not paying her dinner, good shit OP, she'll be back.

silent36 · 2018-05-06T19:45:26+00:00

Ummm you could have at least dropped her off home. That was cruel for no reason. Clearly for bravado since you’re here feeling guilty about. Also the fact you waited the entire meal to leave her so she could see/feel your wrath I suppose. And the fact in your insecure brain “do something else” meant someone else even though she didn’t say those words. You’re trying too hard.