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TempestTcup touched on this recently, women girls who just don’t seem to get it. You can be a better version of you and still be you! You can still be you and attract/keep a high quality man. While we RPW talk about being sweet and submissive, we don’t often go into detail on how this is accomplished. So, I give you a how-to-guide in inspiring the man in your life to throw you on the bed and ravish you in a few, TRP endorsed steps.

First and foremost, be sincere. If any of this sounds stupid to you and you can’t do something with genuine intent, don’t try it. When I surveyed TRP about this, sincerity was the overwhelming theme of all the responses.

Do: Give compliments freely. You can comment on his physical prowess, size of his muscles, manly skills, or even his dick, but remember that sincerity is key! Just find something you really like about him and tell him about it. Having a hard time being sincere without feeling silly? /u/neurosis74 suggests, “I know it’s silly, but that was kind of hot”. Said while you’re actually feeling silly for saying it, and you’ve got a recipe for swollen, manly pride.

Don’t: Air your dirty laundry in public… and don’t tolerate others airing it for you. This seems to be a difficult thing for many women to grasp, because it’s not just about what you post on Facebook or what you say to your mother. I’m not entirely sure why, but when groups of wives/girlfriends get together, the tide of conversation almost always drifts to the husbands/boyfriends. And the conversation inevitably turns ugly. When your friends start bashing their men, at the least, refuse to participate. If you are taunted for your refusal, set the battleaxes straight. Your man is your Captain and you will not be guilty of disloyalty or sedition. If this is too difficult for you, then follow Thumper’s father’s rule: if you can’t say something nice, then don’t say anything at all.

Bonus points: Make your girlfriends jealous. Brag about him. Before the conversation gets nasty, get dirty. You don’t have to go into torrid details, but you can tell them about how hot he looked swinging the hammer while he was hanging the cabinets in the kitchen… and how when he got done the two of you played “carpenter”. You got hammered and he nailed you. If you get as flushed as I just did typing that, you’ll make the ladies blush. The next time they see your man, it will show on their faces, and then he’ll know you were talking about him, if you know what I mean.

Do: Be sexual. Though I’m constantly telling sluts to keep their legs closed, when you’re in a committed relationship, open your legs wide. It’s not slutty to enjoy your man’s more amorous talents.

Anyone can get sexy and wild on a chance encounter, but to do fun sexy things for your husband consistently and on a long term basis is not something a person can be caught up and swept away in the moment with. When practiced in a LTR it takes on meaning because of the sheer honesty it takes to find intense pleasure in repetitive sex with the same person…. I can tell if a woman loves me during sex. I can tell if it's lust or love or performed like a chore. ~ /u/trudatness

Don’t: Starfish. A corollary to the last point, I first heard of starfishing over at marriedmansexlife.com. Don’t know what I’m talking about? Imagine lying perfectly still, ignoring him, while he pounds away at you, slowly killing himself inside. Do this and you will kill his love for you. You will kill him.

Do: Let him be your White Knight TRP talks a lot about stupid blue pill White Knights and blah blah blah. Guess what? They all do it. Without thinking. It’s built into their DNA. So let it work for you. Let him kill the spiders, reach the highest shelf, and open the pickle jars. In return be his Princess Daphne. This is something else Anthol Kay taught me. Read the link, watch the video. It won’t even matter if he knows you’re doing it. Mr. Strom knows, and doesn’t care.

Bonus points: Game him. Feign weakness and be obvious about it. Get silly with it. Giggle. Blush. Ask him to open the pickle jar and pout out your bottom lip while you ask, because you’re just a weak little girl. Grip his biceps and tell him how strong and powerful he is. Rub his chest in wonder and awe. When the jar pops open, let out a faint “oh, my!” Now would be a good point to drop something on the floor in front of him so you can pick it up and wiggle your tushie for him.

Now for the final “Do”.

Do: Respect him Without respect, everything else is empty. There is no love, no trust, no lust, or companionship without respect. If you don’t respect him, why on earth are you with him? Think he’s an idiot who can’t make decisions for you and your family? You’re the idiot that’s with him. Think he’s a woman hating philanderer? Who hates women more? You’re the masochist that’s with him. Did you marry a real man, who pays the bills, cleans the gutters, and would lay down his life to protect you and your children? Then say it out loud, right now. “I have an amazing man that I’m lucky to have, and I respect him for all that he is and all that he will be.” Repeat this every day. Internalize it. Feel it. When you’ve finally given up on protecting yourself from the wonderful man who will protect you from your family, his family, burglars, bears, and rabid dogs, it will show in your deference to him. The respect he deserves will show in your eyes and in your smile, in every movement.


[–][deleted] 14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you for posting this, it's very well written and full of helpful little reminders. :0)

The respect he deserves will show in your eyes and in your smile, in every movement.

One of my favorite parts of your post, and it's absolutely true. Happiness shows, whether you're talking to someone online, over the phone, or just walking down the street. Insecure or unhappy people (the two often go hand in hand) will inevitably try to cut through your cheer and drag you down. Misery loves company, but it's important to ignore the negativity and just enjoy life.

I forget who said it, but today on the irc chat, one user commented "why is it so hard for people to just be silly and have fun?" As children, playing is a natural part of day-to-day life, but somewhere along the way, that playfulness gets driven out of us. There's another post on RPW that talks about maturity, and how the men in our lives protect us from having to be hardened and carry the weight of the world on our shoulders. Our Captain's protect us, and give us the room and freedom we need in order to simply relax and be happy. We should treasure that gift, and show how deeply we appreciate their efforts by always being respectful and loyal.

Don’t: Air your dirty laundry in public… and don’t tolerate others airing it for you.

This is such an important thing for women (of any age) to understand. Anything you say or make public (whether it's online or over coffee) becomes fodder for the mules. Protect your reputation, and the reputation of your Captain.

Again, great points all around.

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[–]MrsStrom 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I just watched the first movie night before last. The second one I'd in the mail. Netflix is awesome.

[–]HumanSockPuppetTRP Founder 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I am swollen with manly pride just reading this post. This is an excellent primer to female game.

Amusingly enough, feminists and other such unattractive women already make use of the principle of letting men be their White Knights - but without remuneration or, at the very least, appreciation - a fact which has led to the bitterness and distrust of so many men.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This was a lovely post. I'll keep in mind each of these things if I ever get stumped on things to do, and I will definitely remember to keep the dirty laundry private. I wouldn't want him saying bad things about me, after all, so why would I do it to him?

[–]specter504 12 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Do: Respect him.

Quoth: The Bible

"Husbands love your wives, and wives respect your husbands."

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

OMG- I love that saying! What a great post.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Awesome, strom!

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

On your second point, back in the sixties a book came out called Games People Play. I won't go into detail about it that Transactional Analysis, the theory behind it, is the basis of the book I'm Ok, You're Ok, which is a surprisingly good book and not at all what I expected.

Anyhoo, the point is that your second point about airing dirty laundry falls under a social "game" the author calls "Ain't he awful?"

He lists lots of different games we all play, but that one has stuck with me.

[–]DaedalusFinch 5 points6 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

I'm commenting from the other side of the equation here but I'd like to add "Be there for him.". In the words of Gil Scott Heron "Men leave, they lose, they are lost.", sometimes it's hard to be man and though we try, we occasionally crack and that's when we need you the most. Understand that weakness has its place and that sometimes a man needs a cave to run to. It's not about being "alpha" or "beta", it's understanding that fighting the world is hard, bringing home the bacon is hard and that in our world, safety is rare.

Plenty of girls want an anchor in their life, it's the woman who's ready to step up when we need her to that a lot of us are looking for.

My 2 cents

[–]OccamsUsername 6 points7 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Safety is rare for men because we provide it, we don't seek it.

[–]DaedalusFinch 4 points5 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

I agree with you and touched upon that. I'm saying that sometimes it does a man good to relax on an inner level. Think about it like a good wife of a soldier; she understands that he can hurt and that he needs comfort but also that he is only like that because he is strong. If a woman can provide that while being a good wife and mother to his children she is essentially the model of the perfect RPW.

[–]OccamsUsername 2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

essentially the model of the perfect RPW.

Depends on who you ask. Apparently some think that blowjobs are 3/4 of the job. I suppose that falls under the "good wife" territory.

[–]DaedalusFinch 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

I can only speak from my own point of view here but it seems that more women can give blowjobs than can fulfil the roles outlines in my previous comment though this does depend on how you weigh each attribute. Different folks, different strokes I suppose.

[–]OccamsUsername 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

That was a joke.

[–]alcockell 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Although the First Officers (MMSL's term for RPW) over on MMSL have a motto - that fellatio can be the Swiss Army Knife of relieving stress in their respective hubbies... IIRC, it's worded something like "remember- if in doubt, suck his dick". Something guys willing to commit DREAM about... that readiness, willingness etc..

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Haha I loved the part about dirty laundry. Guys and girls need to learn this... it's just so unattractive and cringey to have a grown ass adult airing their shit in public (or on facebook... my god). I have gravitated away from good friends (male and female) who have gotten married and just treat "guy time" or "catching up with the old crew" as bitching about their SO. If it's that unattractive, annoying, and cloying to someone outside your relationship, then imagine how it feels for the SO in question getting his personal life thrown out in front of others.

[–]SneakyTouchy 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I can verify this advice as a man, especially with starfishing. It's surprisingly more hurtful than a lot of you might realize. This is one of those areas that takes work to maintain, but can change the way your man behaves for a better relationship both short term and long term.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you /u/MrsStrom for reading that and seeing value in what I said.

Sex is really is important to a man in an LTR - very important. It often serves as a conduit for our deepest connection to the women we love.

If more women could heed this advice, I think this world would be a happier place. Nothing puts a good spring in a man's step than getting the goods at home.

My wife has commented to me before about how shocked she is sometimes witnessing women trying to tear their husbands down.

She is dumbfounded by it, really. If that's your husband, it would make sense that you would want to build him up, not tear him down.

She says Then these women get disgusted when their men have confidence issues and struggle in general... It makes no sense.

Seems (lack of) sex is likely at the bullseye in those situations as well.

That's why I married my wife, because she gets it - and not just about the sex as well.

It's nice to know that she's not the only one who gets it. Kinda gives me more hope for humanity. I see a shocking amount of hate and vitriol spewed at men on reddit, this place is like a little oasis from that.

[–]Aitikulta7 points [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link

Love this! Especially the part about girl game with pickle jars is so true. Even though I'm a mother and I know storms in our area aren't generally that bad my man loves that I'm frightened of storms.

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hah! im scared of lightning and one of my husbands fondest memories of when we first met was seeing me fall down flat, face down on the floor and scream after a GIANT lightning strike lol

[–]drugdoctor87 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Great post! Well-written and very insightful!

[–]bourkleton 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you for posting this!

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Don’t: Air your dirty laundry in public… and don’t tolerate others airing it for you.

Totally agree. Drives me insane to see people slagging off each other online or to their family and friends.

Also LOVE the white knight thing! For the past few years I've been doing this and he's definitely responded positively.

[–]hersinisterurge3 points [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link

I <3 Mrs. Strom! She rocks.

[–]MrsStrom 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

It took me a minute to figure out your username. I love it!

[–]hersinisterurge 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I used to love White Zombie, and Rob Zombie had an album called 'The sinister urge' ...it's been my handle for everything since I was like 22. Now I'm 31 and I just keep using it because it's 'my thing'. lol

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[–]fihsined 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

yea i'm boned up over here too

[–]MrsStrom 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm glad you enjoyed it.

Have you checked out /r/redpillcouples yet? /u/Lady_Motido is working wonders over there. And be sure to head over to http://marriedmansexlife.com/.

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