There always have been peers who've displayed interest in me, and I've previously stated that I recognize I'd been giving mixed signals. I also mentioned that one of our group-friends was interested enough in me to try to find opportunities to see me without SO present. I never gave him the opportunity, .

Over the past weeks I've been working to squash any signal-mixing out of my behavior, and the results in so short a time are amazing. . When it's obvious someone near us is interested, my head and attention are entirely directed to my SO. If catcalled on the street, I lean closer into SO and focus on his face, ignoring the caller. SO loves it.

Alone, I'm happy to bring him up in conversation when appropriate, and "my fiance" comes out naturally. I'm still polite and cheerful when talking to people, but I've curbed any acceptance-seeking body language and innuendo, which previously seemed to encourage hugs or pats on the head.

Overall, my effort has been to cement my status as a taken woman through actions, words, and body language, as a ring isn't always good enough if your body-language is saying something else. I've lost no friends from this, they just maintain respectful boundaries now.

The most enjoyable thing that's come from all this is the effect my actions have had on my disposition to my SO. I thought we were awesomely close before, but now I think my actions have had a fun psychological effect, so that I'm even more into him, more attached, more loving, devoted, attentive, and excited to get him home. Like my brain looked at my body-language and said "Oh, is THAT what we're doing?" and kicked up the love levels.

I've lost nothing and gained so much through these changes, and encourage anyone on the fence about keeping orbiters or flirting at work to give these changes a try.