Whats wrong with me?

vandaalen · 2018-08-09T06:18:56+00:00

Congratulations. You found out that money and women alone can't male you happy nor can any other external source. Now find a mission and pursue it.

mikerate · 2018-08-09T05:36:04+00:00

Deep down is your cultural conditioning, which appear as if they are your own needs and thoughts. You are expected to want LTR and get married and be law abiding society's drone.

But that's not what men are designed to do or really want. Sex is just for getting off. Passion for something, job, hobby, some activity is what makes people happy in general. Not finding a unicorn. You were lied to like everyone else. The sooner you realize that women are good only for one maybe two basic things, the better your life will be since you will stop worrying how to find this "true love".

Morphs_ · 2018-08-09T07:04:08+00:00

You are missing self-love. And an LTR is not going to provide you with that.

I've had recurring phases or depression since I was like, 9 years old. It always had to do something with female rejection. However porn usage also became part of the mix.

I went to a psychologist last year and that has helped me a lot. Got in and out of a toxic LTR and now I'm fully enjoying life TRP style.

You seem to suffer from "La petite mort", which refers to a declining emotional state right after orgasm. Often light depressed feelings. It tends to be the result of overstimulation of your dopamine receptors through sex and masturbation.

So for one, stop or minimize masturbation. Second you may want to experience with going abstinent for a while, that can help too.

For the rest, find a balanced life. I need my alone time so I can socially recharge. But I also need social interaction else I start to feel bad.

Read up on meditation and start 10-20 minutes of meditation in the morning.

1z1z2x2x3c3c4v4v · 2018-08-09T10:52:21+00:00

You need to find your purpose, your mission, in life.

FlipflopETHtop · 2018-08-09T12:28:37+00:00

I read a book called “positive psychology”, Its Danish and cant be bothered to see If there is a english version. But basicly it revovles around happiness, and the mental reflection of it.

Everything you’re saying implies that everything is going good, you have a bright future, but due to the term “hedonistic addiction” no matter the amount of girls, wealth etc you achieve, your mind will after awhile alter itself to this new norm, bringing back the old cycle of self deprication. There’s only one way to feel accomplished, keep progressing, or else your mind will stagnate and head into a depression more or less..

micr0penis · 2018-08-09T15:03:53+00:00

Are you happy when your single?

Why do you want an LTR?

If it's because you're dissatisfied with something about yourself, where you're headed, who you are, etc. It will only result in a short term bandaid that will get ripped off and leave you worse then before.

If it's to compliment your life, then that's good, healthly, and normal. My suggestion would be to keep your casuals and keep dating until you find someone worthy.

Do not try and turn one of your casuals into something that it shouldn't be and don't date on the expectation that you'll find what you want.

While this is pretty generic advice, it's still fundamental and true.

psirras316 · 2018-08-09T07:35:43+00:00

What are you doing in school that will net you a 6 figure salary?

deville05 · 2018-08-09T11:13:58+00:00

You are looking for love my friend and it comes in many forms.

Try giving and doing things for others for a while instead of just living for yourself. Maybe that will help. It's been known to help.

KettleLogic · 2018-08-09T09:43:35+00:00

You insecurity ar girls not being loyal and your general thought that LTR is what will fix you is your problem. All the money, sex, or perfect partners in the world doesnt make you like who you see looking at you in the mirror. If you are a half dont look for someone else to make you a whole. You need to just become a whole on your own.

You are depressed because you need to learn to love yourself. Let go of the hatred or self loathing that made you seek the red pill. Learn to love the only person who's ever going to die with you.

lapeparoja · 2018-08-09T15:04:47+00:00

Time to discover older women. Even when I was 20, I was attracted to women in their 30's or 40's who could hold a conversation and were better in bed.

johnnight · 2018-08-09T15:07:45+00:00

Clearly the solution to your problem is to get a girl that can't easily get a guy because she is not pretty.

oytrp · 2018-08-09T16:13:57+00:00

Sounds like you have made women or getting laid your mission and found it's an empty pursuit.

Find a real mission that makes your happiness independent of others.

Gawernator · 2018-08-09T09:38:06+00:00

Do you have hobbies you enjoy?

Casanova-Quinn · 2018-08-09T15:31:34+00:00

It sounds like you need to sit down and figure out what your true goals are. A useful mental exercise is to think about death. Like if you had only a year left to live, what would you do? Or if you were laying on your deathbed right now, what would you regret not doing? Any ideas that quickly come to your mind are likely the most important to you.

Buchloe · 2018-08-09T18:00:54+00:00

I too have had trouble "finding a mission". Looked up TRP articles on how to find your mission this morning, and came upon this great post.

https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/6jaw7x/cant_find_your_mission_your_purpose

omega_dawg93 · 2018-08-09T18:10:07+00:00

you're actually describing why a man's purpose or mission in life should be his #1 focus... never a woman or $$.

if you don't believe it, ask any musician's wife if she's #1 or #2 in her husband's life. if she's honest, she KNOWS he'll give her up before he gives-up his love for his craft.

[deleted] · 2018-08-11T05:09:40+00:00

Nothing.

OhDeer10 · 2018-08-09T12:17:37+00:00

I'm the same way man. You verbalized my thoughts perfectly with that last paragraph.

Like other guys said: find a mission. I have one, and it may be a touch unrealistic, but it makes me happy to work on it. I want to work on AIs (artificial intelligences). It's hard! But whatever I end up doing it makes me happy to work on it and that's what matters.