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I am 18 and taking the red pill, I don't have much experience with girls but this cute middle eastern girl was sending me IOI's throughout these few weeks of school.

Today towards the end of class I told her I wanted to try out this ice cream place by our school and she's welcome to join me if she wants. She blushed and said she would love too but tomorrow since she has work right after class. Told her I'd see her tomorrow at said spot.

I was nervous and it seemed like she was shocked I asked her in person, this was the first time I ever asked out a girl.


[–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen55 points56 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This was the first and many more will follow. Congratulations on taking the first step.

[–]TRP VanguardArchwinger31 points32 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You're doing good for 18.

You recognized a woman's signs of interest. Many guys are blind to this, or they mistake mere politeness as interest.

You approached and made a move. Most guys are too chicken-shit to do that and will creepily stare across the room at a girl and spend six weeks working up the courage.

You told her what you were going to do rather than asking. Most guys vaguely ask if a girl is free sometime, then if she's interested in something, then if she wants to do it.

And she responded with a counter-offer. Which is a good sign. When a woman says she can't make it to something with you, she's just blowing you off, unless she proposes an alternate time or day, which she did in your case.

You're not out of the woods yet, but the hard part's over. Now, you meet her, have fun, be fun, escalate, and see how far you can go. The hardest part left at this point will be escalating. You've never asked a girl out before, and now you have to touch one as though it's second-nature to you and you're used to having girls around, such that physical contact is no big deal. You have to lead the escalation and get her used to your touch, all without appearing awkward like this is some huge thing for you. Treat casual physical touch the same way you treated asking her. Like you're the kind of guy who just goes for something when he wants it.

But stay mindful of her IOIs and body language. That will help you gauge how to escalate.

The actual talking to her should be pretty easy unless you're boring. You already know she's interested.

[–]jarco4516 points17 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Good. But chill dude. She is as nervous as you are and if you feel it getting awkward just laugh it off.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yep, use the anxiety as motivation to push forward and do a good job. That's what it is there for, after all.

[–]AwakenedSovereign6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Just have fun with it. Treat her like she is already a good friend.. whose going to swallow your cock. Be sexual but not pushy, you want her thinking about how it would be to fuck you, not why you are so worried about whether or not she's going to fuck you. Kino, tease, innuendo, just a little bit can go a long way.

If it's blindingly obvious that she's really into you, take her from that ice cream spot somewhere else, like a park or something. Escalate. Make out.

If it's unclear or a 'maybe', just tell her this was really fun and then let her go after the ice cream spot. Hit her up again, and do something more engaging (hike, show, playing pool).

Asking her back to your place/dorm whatever on the 1st date can be seen as desperate. Calibrate according to her apparent state of mind, but err on the side of too bold instead of too timid.

VITAL THING TO REMEMBER:

Your ability and willingness to let her go is attractive. She is not the only girl you will ever date or fuck. She is not special. Now that you've done it once, you can go and game chicks on campus and have another date by next week. You can do it once, you can do it a thousand times.

GL HF

Wear a condom

[–]Senior Endorsedmax_peenor1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

She blushed

Win.

Btw, the "follow me date" is by far the most effective.

[–]LethalShade0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

What do you mean by the follow me date? Being like I'm doing X, you should come with?

[–]Senior Endorsedmax_peenor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes.

[–]Senior ContributorSkorchZang1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Couldn't have done it better. Enjoy getting that cream in her face.

[–]Ta96451 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

God job, now stop acting nervous and or weak and be confident like you should be.

[–]LordThunderbolt0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Good shit

[–]DEVi4TION0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

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